There might come a time in everyone life, where you might fall in love with someone that you know you shouldn’t have developed feelings for. Sometimes you meet someone you’re attracted to, and because of both your status you cannot pursue anything further. So what do you do when the temptation gets so strong that you can’t deny it any longer? You find yourself putting yourself in a deeper situation that you never intended to happen.

I am not innocent by far. I have done things in relationships that I wish I thought twice about at the time. I have cheated in a relationship, which I am not proud to say. Back in the day I was involved with a nice guy, who had alot of great qualities that I admired. We had no basic issues in the relationship as far as I was concerned. One night while out with my friends, I was introduced to a cutie. That night we flirted with each other very innocently, then we parted ways. I thought nothing about it, until she told me the following day that he was interested in me. She knew I was seeing someone so she never gave him my number.

Somehow this guy got my number, and right off I told him what the deal was with my status. We decided to be just friends; which never really works out because you’ve already established an attraction to each other. We talked on the phone frequently and one day we decided to go out for drinks. Now about a month passed, and I was still in my relationship but wanted to hang out with the guy. When we got next to each other the attraction was so crazy. I tried to stop the feeling I was having, because I knew I was wrong for what I was doing. He kissed me in such a passionate way, I cut the night short because I just felt funny about it. I couldn’t stop thinking
about the kiss, so I came clean with my boo and let him know what I thought he needed to know. Let’s say I didn’t tell him everything, but he still ended the relationship.

Honestly, I can’t blame him for wanting to end it. I carried on for a month or so with another man. Even though I tried to convince myself it was innocent, I knew what the deal was. I dated the other guy a while after, and the shit didn’t work out. Apparently, he thought I was going to diss him the way I dissed the other guy. I was emotionally cheating with him, so he thought I would do it with someone else. That was a very hard lesson to learn. When cheating don’t let the new guy know anything about your boo. **I kid, I kid*

Holla at me: Have you ever been in a situation where you found yourself stuck in a secret relationship?

In my opinion, the saddest sight to see is someone that is too clingy. No matter what time of day, what the situation she wants to be around her boo 24/7. I have no issues with spending that quality time, but I do know some women that take it a little overboard. Being the clingy chick will defiantly drive your honey away.

There was one guy I dated a few years back that actually wanted me to cling to him. I never considered myself as the clingy type, so when he made that statement I was floored. I asked him why that was something that he wanted, he had the nerve to say “When a woman clings to me, I know she is really into me“. I thought that was a very insecure ass statement. This man needed a chick to feed his self-esteem, because clearly he had none to begin with.

I think women cling to men, because they have a fear of being alone. Some women want to be everything they think the man wants, so they go a little over the top. I don’t believe it’s intentional, but they don’t realize that he may find their actions as a turn off. I think it is more evident when he is out with his boys. An insecure clingy woman calls like every ten min, questioning him on what he is doing. You’re embarrassing him in front of his crew, and it shows you’re insecure and have trust issues. What man would like that? Well the one guy I dated would, but he was a weirdo anyway, don’t count that fellow.

Holla at me: Do you consider yourself as a clingy chick? Do you know a woman/man that latches on to someone for dear life?