If you still don’t know Adele’s music, then you need Jesus in your life. My boo thang just released the video of one of my favorite songs on her album. Shot on the romantic streets of Paris, Adele brought her black and white stormy weather game to this video. Chile if you know how much this song spoke to me on a past situation… *sigh* any way Enjoy!
Hey, V.I.
I’ve been with my daughter’s father for over 7yrs now. When I met him he had a 8 month old son and told me that he was no longer with his child’s mother. We have a 4yr old daughter. I’ve never seen his son and nor has my daughter. He doesn’t allow his family to come around our daughter or even to call her. I don’t know where he lives or any family members. I had to put him in child support court to get him to help me with my daughter and he hasn’t paid in awhile. He has never been to any of her birthday parties and hasn’t been around for any other holiday. I know that he is in the street but I feel that he uses that as an excuse to cover up his b.s. i only see him once a week if that and if I’m flooding he doesn’t show up.
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Do you ever think back on your childhood? Think about all the things you wanted to accomplish when you become an adult? Now that you’re an adult you realized that the majority of the things you were passionate about, just went out the window? I realized at a certain age what we had dreams of being slowly goes out the window when we enter real-life adulthood. As kids we knew what we wanted out of life, but as adults we just do what we have to do to survive and put those childhood dreams on the back burner. Yesterday someone asked me “You ever wondered what the kid version of yourself would say about you now?” I sat and thought about that long and hard and I know the wide-eyed dreamer of my former self would kick my ass if she knew that the adult me renigged on all the great shit she wanted to be without even trying.
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Kissing is one of the most sensual things between two people. The right kiss leads to the right everything else. Not everyone is a good kisser. Either they haven’t had enough practice or they just naturally suck (literally). I’ve met some men that truly had different styles of kissing. Some left me breathless and some made me offer them breath mints. I have compiled a list of different kissing techniques I have experienced.
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Today is the first day of fall and it’s also the first day of cuffin season. For those of you unfamiliar with such a term cuffin season refers to people hooking up usually when the weather starts to change. Usually when the it starts getting cold outside you see more couples than single people. The clubs are a little less crunk because everyone who has paired off are in bed all up under one another. This is also the season where the thicker chicks stand out. I’ve heard a lot of men say they go after chicks with more meat on their bones because it’s extra warmth at night. So I guess us skinny chicks got the summer and the thick em’s got the winter. It’s all good tho.
So, I guess it’s time to find me a cuff buddy. I can’t just get with anything tho. I need someone that I would enjoy the winter with. Probably someone I wouldn’t mind having around when Spring rolls around. I wonder what are the criterias for a cuff buddy? Hmmmm does anyone anyone know?
Holla at me: Do you have a cuff buddy? What qualities do you look for in a cuff buddy
Dear V.I.,
About a year after I graduated from high school, I had sex with someone I knew from school… I mean since elementary. The first couple of times it really wasn’t that great. I have to say probably at the bottom of my list. We stopped talking for about year and then I moved away to another state.
I came back after about another year and ran into him again. We starting having sex again. The sex was definitely a lot better than I remember from the first times, fun and a little more spontaneous. Not quite great though. We stopped talking again, I think we were mutually bored. About another year passed and yet again I ran into him. We started having sex again, but this time it was so much better than before.
For about a year and a half the more sex we had the better it was. I mean multiple screaming orgasms and the head was ridiculous. I don’t even have words to describe how great it was. Herein lies the problem, the last couple of times we had sex I started catching feelings for him and I knew he could tell. The sex was still good but a little different. It eventually affected the overall performance and we had to stop talking. He’s not an option for dating (very immature) and other than sex we had nothing in common. I’ve gotten over the feelings for him, but the sex was so good it ‘s affecting my sex life now. Nothing and no one is measuring up to my heightened expectations. I fear my sex life is going to be disappointing from here on in. I want to be able to have good sex with other people. Did I get spoiled? What should I do?
Sexless In The City
Dear SITC,
Yea you sprung on that dip stick. The good sex got your lady parts confused. The problem that you’re having is that your searching for someone to give you the same feeling or better. In that case your siking yourself out. You’re not allowing yourself to enjoy it because you’re trying to see if they can do it like he does it. You will continue to be disappointed in the bedroom if you constantly have his long stroke on the brain. With sex there is always a hit or miss. Sometimes you get the nut and sometimes you don’t. That’s the funny thing about sex is if you allow yourself to enjoy it, you might find something more than just a great piece of ass.
If you’re trying to get into a relationship it won’t happen if you continue to restrict your mind. I say when you meet someone who you’re really interested in don’t jump into bed so quickly. I’m not saying that you do that, but I think if you really get to know someone you will be surprised at what might happen. I really believe that feelings make sex better. Hell that’s what happened to you. You started catching feelings and the sex became even more amazing. Allow someone to get into your mind first before you give him your candy cane. It seems that your candy cane is searching for something that your mind won’t allow.
I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!
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If you’re unaware of what’s going on in America…they’re killing unjustly. Last night at 11:08pm Troy Anthony Davis was executed for a crime he might not have committed. As we all know Troy was scheduled to be executed at 7:00pm and at the final minute the Supreme Court delayed the execution because Davis’s lawyers entered a plee of “Stay.” As we all prayed we got word that it was halted. The happiness that was felt was short-lived. We waited for 4 long draining hours glued to our tv’s to see if Uncle Tom…I mean Clarence Thomas would grant the stay. It was denied and Troy was set to die at the top of the hour. Troy Davis was put to death by lethal injection and was pronounced dead at 11:08pm. Troy’s final words to his executioners ~“May God have mercy on your souls. May God bless your souls.” His final words to the McPhail family~“I did not personally kill your son, father, brother. I am innocent.” Once he closed his eyes for the last time members of the McPhail family hugged and smiled.
The justice system is so flawed it makes it so hard to believe in equality anymore. How do you punish murder with murder? Let’s even say that the murder was justified. How do you kill someone when you really don’t have concrete proof that they actually did it? Hopefully this will stir the souls of everyone to try to make a change in not only Georgia, but AMERICA. There are so many people who are actually innocent, but are being denied their freedom because of this flawed system. Troy Davis did not die in vain. I believe that the truth will be revealed and the real facts will be presented. God will be the final judge. This should not and will not end with Troy Davis. Troy Davis has sparked a flame and showed many of us how unjust the laws are in this “great” nation. One day it will change that the laws made my the judicial system actually protect the innocent instead of the rich and wealthy. Your skin color does not come before your innocence.
Continue to pray for both families involved. We showed Troy how much we rode with him till the very end, let’s show others in the same position that we are and will continue to fight for them in the name of proper justice.
At 7pm est tonight Troy Davis is scheduled to be executed in the red state of Georgia. An innocent man that was presumed guilty and convicted of the murder of police officer Mark McPhail in 1989 will die. Officer McPhail was shot in the face and the heart while working a part-time security job in Savannah, Ga. Apparently he tried to break up and argument between several men and was gunned down. Troy Davis was implicated in the shooting without any valid proof other than the words of shady “witnesses”. Troy Davis has been imprisoned since 1989 on a murder many believe he never committed. Seven of the nine “witnesses” have recanted their statements and admitted that Davis had no involvement in the murder. Yet his appeals have been denied continuously by the justice system. Is this justice or is this racially motivated?
Growing up I had this illusion that life was fair. Good will prevail evil and no matter how bad things are, there is always a brighter light beyond the dark cloud. I guess I watched too much tv, because as an adult I have learned that justice isn’t always justified. Innocent people are being treated as the enemy. Although we all sympathise with the McPhail family there is no concrete evidence linking Davis to this crime, but yet he will be put to death. Is it the fact that a nigger killed a white police officer? A man trying to provide for his family? After all the appeals, petitions and rallies a man will lose his life because he’s black. Some might say this isn’t a racial case, but a case of a murder. Yes this is a case of a murderer, but the man taking the fail didn’t kill.
It makes me think of our black men stuck behind prison walls because they fit the description of a suspect. He’s between 5’6-6’5, black hair, loose fitting jeans and wears a hat. I’ve just described 90% of the black men attending college. So are they all considered suspects as well? At 20 years old this man lost his life due to circumstance, yet the courts refuse to hear his appeal of innocence. Are the higher ups afraid to admit they made a mistake or do they just don’t give a damn? Another black nigger off the streets! Troy Davis never had the opportunity to be a young man and will never have the opportunity to grow into an old age. His life has been planned for 22 years even up until the day and time he will die.
What should our children learn from this story? That you’re innocent until proven guilty or your guilty and even though you’re really innocent you’re still guilty? No wonder so many blacks are defiant when it comes to the law. They feel although they might be innocent, in the eyes of the law they’re just another black face guilty of being black.
It didn’t have to come to this. The state of Georgia truly made a huge mistake with this case, but seems dead set on avenging the death of Officer McPhail. I will like justice to be served in his murder as well, but when you have no concrete evidence linking Troy Davis to this murder then how will you actually serve justice? Two innocent men have had their lives taken away, children growing up without their father and parents without their sons. No one can turn back time and warn Officer McPhail that he would lose his life taking a second job at Burger King to make ends meet. Also, no one can warn Troy Davis that he would take the fall for something he was never involved with that night. So after his clemency was denied by the parole board yesterday Troy is set to be executed tonight.
Please continue to pray for Troy Davis, his family and the McPhail family. Let’s pray that no matter the outcome of tonight that one day Troy Davis’s name will be cleared and Georgia courts acknowledged that they made a huge mistake. In the name of Troy Davis let’s prevent another innocent black man from being murdered for a crime he didn’t commit.
This song takes me back to high school when I watched a young man lose his life over senseless violence. Too many people are losing their lives so someone can amp theirs up. This shit has got to stop!
Okay, so I’m doing this guest blogger thing cuz I was talking with some friends, and one said she’s still waiting to experience her first “O”. My heart sank. Almost literally. It does that each and every time I hear a woman say she’s never had an orgasm. I really don’t know what my life would be without them.
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