Always the bridesmaid, never the bride? Shit, am I the only one that ever heard “Girl you were the one that got away?” I just look at these fools in amazement. If I was THE ONE that why would you let me get away in the first place? I will always say people don’t realize what they have until it’s gone or they done bucked up on shit that was worse. When it comes to relationships some men don’t realize how good the person is until they meet a bitch. That chick that ain’t shit, nothing but drama and got a gang of kids. The one your momma warned you about. All she’s focused on is getting her hair did, spending your money and buying a closet full of Roca Wear and baby Jordans for her 2 month old. Men always go from a chick on the good girl list to a messy ass chick, then try to double back when they’ve realized that the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. This may start to take a toll on you because you find that the man/men that you’re always into never seem to take things as seriously as you do. Once they do, you’ve already moved on and labeled “the one that got away.” So does that imply that when they were with you they thought you were the one, but after lost you and now realize the error of their ways?
So about a week ago I got a call from a guy that I dated years ago. I’ve written about him before, but let’s not go there right now. We’ve been in communication off and on for a few years. He called me to catch up so I had no problems. I’m cordial like that shit sometimes. We had no bad blood so we were still cool and shit. So in our conversation he starts pouring his heart out to me talking about how he still has these feelings and he’s still in love with me. So I’m listening and filing my nails because I’ve heard this all before, then he says “I always tell people you’re the one that got away.” When he said it I paused a bit and kinda chuckled…well it was more like a gauffaw. That shit was kinda funny to me because I realize only when a man see that he can’t get you back, he pulls out the line to try to crumble you. For some chicks, that works for others not so much. I kindly told him I’m glad you realized that I’m one of the good ones, but too little too late. I’m not just here sitting twiddling my thumbs waiting for a man to do right and realize what I’ve been showing all along. I deuced his ass and hung up the phone. I ain’t go the patient nor the time to go back and forth with someone that couldn’t see the fact that I was genuwine. I am too cute for that.
Ladies, don’t let his stupidity ruin who you. Just because one blind ass man couldn’t see your true goodness, doesn’t mean you’ve lost. The right man will come, he’s just one that had the opportunity but passed it up. You’re a good one, and when you find that man that respects and loves that about you no one else will matter. How many times you’ve been hurt or looked over by some dude you dealt with in the past won’t matter anymore. These men are no longer in your life for a reason, don’t dwell on the bullshit. I won’t lie tho, it is satisfying when a man that you dated comes back after its over and finally realizes what you’ve been expressing for so long. The good ones are always right under your nose, it isn’t until she’s the right one for someone else that they realize what they had. It’s cute if you think about it.
Holla at me: Have you ever been referenced as the “one that got away?” How did you feel about that statement?