Hi V.I.
I live on St. Thomas, VI and I am currently in a relationship with a “band man” he sings in a band, so you probably know how that goes. Well there is this one female that he use to “mess” with before we got involved and this bitch just would not give up and accept the fact that he is in a relationship. This young lady added me on facebook and me being the person that I am I accepted the request, so this weekend was St. John festival so my boyfriend and I went over there and it’s like she followed us the entire night. every time I walked away from him she would find her way over to him. I didn’t pay it any attention because he tells me just about everything so I know her intentions. Yesterday this girl went on fb and changed her status saying ” Everytime you turn ur back honey………….. ITS ON!!!!!!!!!!! pAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA HAPPINESS 
”.
Now isn’t that the height of bullshit? This girl looks like she is not gonna give up. He has shown me text messages  she sent saying she’s waiting for me to f*ck up so she can step in. This is getting ridiculous and I just don’t know what to do anymore cause honestly my next step will lead me to a jail sentence. He also said he is trying to get rid of her but she doesn’t listen and she is trying her best for me to break up with hims so she can step in. She even went as far as trying to send her brother to flirt with me thinking I would flirt back and she could go report that.
Here’s the next situation, this boy has an ex that is madly in love with him this chick told him that if she had a gun she would’ve killed me. Now that is serious. I talked to him about it and he told me not to worry about them cause at the end of the day I’m the one he’s with. I don’t know if I should just leave this guy alone and give these females their happiness or keep myself happy not worrying about them… HELP!!!
Stranded on Drama Island
Dear S.O.D.I,
Let me get straight to the point. Your relationship is filled with nothing but drama. Not only do you have one chick wanting to take your man, but you have another chick threatening to rittle you full of holes? Girl, run and head for the damn hills. No one needs that kind of drama in their lives. Some people feel that relationships need to have that drama in order to survive. YOU DON’T NEED IT. He may be a cool dude and all, but we both know band n*ggas are the most sought after dudes on the island. Chicks want that recognition to say my man in a band. Not saying that’s what your doing, but it explains why these bitches are trying so hard to get you out of the picture.
I don’t know if dude is still f*cking any of these chicks, but I wouldn’t doubt that shit. If you told him that all this nonsense was happening and all he said was “Don’t worry about it”, his ass still got stake in one of them hoes. If he was a real man and wasn’t involved with any of them this mess would have been cut short a long time ago. The fact that he wants you to dismiss it shows that he’s still got something going on, on the side. Yea your his main girl, but a side thing or two don’t hurt. I’ve heard that shit all before and when reality hit me he was still f*cking other chicks. I listened to my heart and ignored my gut. When in doubt your gut tells you every time. Your heart is too bias. Your heart is there to love and if you feel that something is going wrong your heart doesn’t want to feel that, so it ignores it. Your gut…that motherf*cker never lies to you.
Ok, now let’s tackle these chicks. The first chick is what I like to call “play play hoe”. She is trying every damn thing to get her claws into him. She resorts to playing games, because she thinks that is the easiest way to get what she wants. I honestly think he’s still hitting it because he seems to be still entertaining her. He’s always gonna say ignore her because that’s what easier for him. You will continue to get pissed with what she says and what she does, and he won’t take you seriously.
Now on to the other chick. This crap alone should have told you to leave his ass alone. This bitch wanna kill you? Naw son…that’s the kind of shit “First 48″ is made of. One thing I don’t do is dismiss a threat when it’s about a man. Bitches are crazy out here and with the ratio of men to women, a bitch would do anything to get what she wants. I think you need to take this seriously. Hell if you gotta go to the police, do that shit. On the other hand I don’t trust the f*cking PIGS in St.Thomas anyway, but do what you have to.
I think you probably need to cut your loses with this one. He may be a good dude, but he has too much drama in his life, and obviously he isn’t handling that  like a man. If you continue in this just be prepared for bitches calling your phone, keying your car and possibly getting in fights and shit. In the end you will see that this  isn’t worth it. When he rids the toxic bitch fans from his life then maybe, you stand a chance, but as long as he’s entertaining this you two won’t work.
I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!
