Ask V.I.~ The Not So Best-Friend *Vintage*

Dear V.I,

I’m writing to you because I have a rather delicate situation on my hands. My bestfriend has been seeing this guy for about 6 months now and she’s head over heels in love. We were out together one night and saw him. I admit we both looked interested in him, but he came up to her. It wasn’t a huge deal to me, because I was sorta seeing someone. They started getting closer and closer while my boyfriend and I grew farther and farther apart. Well one night we went to a mutual friend’s party and she brought her man along. I drove my car because I came through straight from work. We were having a great time when she got a call from her mom and she had to leave because of some kind of small family emergency. For some reason her boyfriend wanted to stay so she was pissed but asked me if I could drive him home. It was no big deal to me, so I said sure.

Well on the way home we were talking and the conversation took an odd turn. He started talking about how he was interested in me from the get go, but was too nervous to talk to me. While at a light this guy leaned over and kissed me. I don’t know what came over us but when we got to his place we got down with it. Yes, I had sex with my bestfriend’s man. I realized what I did wrong and I can’t take it back, but the bad part is we’ve done it a second time. Do I go ahead and tell her and risk loosing my bestfriend? Or do I just stop whatever sexual relationship and pretend nothing happened?

Help me!!!

Not so “best” friend

Dear Not so “best” friend,

*Whew* Let me be straight up…that is some trifling ass shit right there. Homegirl is definitely not your bestfriend, because there is no way in hell a bestfriend would do that to another. I’m not sure if you were drunk the first time so you could use the “I was drunk” excuse, but doing that shit AGAIN? HELL NAW!!! You were definitely dirty for what you did. F*ck him…he’s just a man. Those folks come and go, but she is your bestfriend. That is a stronger bond. You truly crossed the line with this. I don’t know if you expected me to be harsh with it, but you need to get your ass beat. Straight up. The best thing for you to do is tell her before she bucks up and catches you sucking her man’s d*ck. I know you sucking him off.  She’s probably gonna deck you or she might simply just kick you to the curb. You can’t fight her choice.

You allowed this to happen. In the beginning of your letter you stated from the beginning you were feeling him. So you knew screwing him was something you wanted to do. The fact that you both are deceiving her is just  that bullshit. The more you do this and not say anything to her is just going to make the situation worse. I will guarantee the fact that you were the one sleeping with her boo with hurt her more, than the fact her boo actually cheated. Tell her the truth, and STOP SLEEPING WITH THAT DUDE.  I know d*ck is glorious but it’s not enough to f*ck up a long time friendship. Come clean and tell her. You would actually be a better person for doing so.

I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!