Ask VI~Confused About Love

Hi,

I really love your advice. Any who I have been talking to this guy for a few years. We dated before and things didn’t really work out. We decided that we would just break up and work on a relationship sometime in the future. We lost our virginity to each other and we’ve kinda been inseparable, even though I have had other boyfriends and he has had other girlfriends since  our break up. I have still been having sex with him through out this period of time too, should I stop, am I wrong for having sex with him still?
I want to start on a relationship with him now and I don’t know if he’s  on the same page as me right now. I love him with everything in me and I’d hate to see him taken out of my life by someone else. What should I do how do I make him mine?
Sincerely,

Confused About Love

Dear CAL, 

Why didn’t the relationship work the first time? In my opinion you’re beating a dead horse. In my mind if you two were to try a relationship again in the future why haven’t you? It may be the fact that he’s getting all the benefits of being with you without the relationship part. Like the old saying goes “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” He’s getting the goodies without putting in the effort. If he wanted to get back together I think he would have said it by now. You’re basically doing this backward. If you want to see if a relationship can work let him know and see where his head is at. If he’s down for the relationship work on that. If he gives you an excuse as to why a relationship can’t happen right now take that as a sign boo. It’s not as deep to him as it is to you. Then you can choose to continue giving him the cooch or not. Whatever the outcome all you can do is accept it and try to move on. Sex can keep a man’s attention but for so long. 

I really hope I’ve helped you in some way. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make the right one that will be in your best interest. Keep me posted.

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