*Snapping Fingers* Welcome to the Diary of A Mad Guest Blogger. This is a segment where we feature readers that got thangs to say. I want you to give a special hand to NiKole.
Not sure when the roles changed but why have guys gotten so sensitive and passive. Don’t get me wrong I like a guy to care and be concerned but waiting by the phone for me to call or counting down the hours and minutes since my last call is borderline bitchassness. I need a man to check me and keep me in line cause I’m aggressive so he has to be a little more not a whole lot less.
I hate playing the guy role in a relationship because I will cheat. There is no way I won’t. I tried it twice and cheated four times. I love a man to be in to their feelings, but shit u don’t need to cry if you didn’t get to hear my voice before you went to bed. Sometimes I want to say “man up, you sure you have balls between your legs?”. It just frustrates me because I see why previous girls cheat because I’m pretty sure they thought they were dating a girl, and had to check their sexuality in cheating.
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VegasSeven
Comment made on May 12, 2010 @ 4:58 pm
I admit I acted like that in one dating relationship. But that is the only time I will ever do that and did do it. It's called living and learning and moving on. Men don't even like it when women do that. I can't imagine what it is like for a woman to see a man do that. What caused it– I think it was complete lack of self-confidence and simply not respecting myself. I will never do that again. Pathetic!!!!
PA_Worldwide
Comment made on May 13, 2010 @ 12:53 pm
This is an interesting topic. While i get the point of the blogger, I wonder what the message was? Now im being tongue in cheek when I say that. Here is the deal. As men we get crap from women all the time for not being sensitive enough. We get crap from being too sensitive. Yes, its important to have that balance. Now personally, I dont like to argue. Im not going to sit there and entertain foolishness. (even if its my fault) lol One thing I do know is that women dont know what they want until the moment they want it. Now a woman cheating is justified because a cat drop some tears or too many her opinion. Negro please. Dont blame a man's sensitivity for you opening your legs to some insensitive man. thats on your fickle azz. SO BASICALLY LET ME SAY IT LIKE THIS GTFOH!
NiKole
Comment made on May 13, 2010 @ 2:46 pm
So the way you respond lets me know you are one of these guys andhave been hurt by it. You've heard these words as you read your dear John letter as she left. So sorry that my blog hit so close to home but it has to be told. The reason for my blog was because it was open to blog for guest about anything and that was on my mind. I like a guy who can express his feelings but sometimes it can be just too much. Just like a man can't stand a woman to cry and whine all the time it is the same thing. Overly sensitive people in general doesnt work for me and I know that and I am cool with it. I am on your page about arguing I dont like it and I dont do it and I dont think that situation makes you less of a man, you just dont deal with foolishness. I'm not saying cheating is right in any case but when i try to give person a chance who might be a little more in tune with thier feelings it gets to be a little over the top. Maybe those type of people need a person with a little more patience or even more like them for it to work. And once again I am cool with that too.
NiKole
Comment made on May 13, 2010 @ 2:49 pm
Its nice to know people can still be honest and fix what they knew wasnt working for them. But that is the thing people get so caught up in what works for others that they loose themselves in the process. Thanks for commenting and good luck in the future.
PA_Worldwide
Comment made on May 14, 2010 @ 2:35 pm
I dont know anyone who likes a person who whines or complains all the time. As far the blog hitting home, you are right in regards to having my feelings hurt. If you bust your hump for someone and they dont even appreciate it its human nature to say, "hey thats not cool". I get your point. I dont want someone that is over sensitive too as a guy. I think a lot has to do with what you pointed out, patience. I know that patience kills certain people. We all could be a little more patient. Yet i get the fact that everyone has a breaking point. One last point. When a guy is sincerely expressing himself, for some cats its hard. Plus women have seen men do this only for it be ploy. So when any cat is trying to be real, it can come off as weird or just plain different. I just know that sometimes when a man extends himself like that, and he perceieves that doing that has just hurt him. He wont show any emotions at all. Im an advocate for balance, I just know too often that balance gets tipped out of place. I appreciated your response, hopefully you will appreciate mine.
VegasSeven
Comment made on May 15, 2010 @ 2:44 pm
I have to admit, there are a lot of very strong women and weak men out there. I had a female friend break-up with her boyfriend a few weeks ago because he wasn't pulling his weight and he was a baby about the break-up. Another friend complained about weak men yesterday. I don't know what it is. Because then when it is comes to many women-women relationships it is the women that are immature and the men are cool. But that may be from society teaches women to hate each other and is an entirely different topic. But certainly women are just thrown so much more responsibility from an early age than men and in many ways have to deal with so much more crap than men do and perhaps it has taught them to be stronger and more mature over the years. Many men are just spoiled now. Women in this generation just seem to be so much stronger than men. And us men don't seem to learn and grow from our mistakes like women do. But anyway, also there are a lot of great men out there. So it is not all men.