So we all know breaking up ain’t no walk in the park. We battle with it in our soul and if it feels like the best thing to do we agonize on how to go about it, because at the end of the day no one likes a bad break-up. Well, I thought that’s how normal people dealt with a pending break-up. There are some people that really don’t give a damn about how they end it, they just end it. There are so many bad ways to end a relationship, but when you actually have it happen to you it’s like you’re in disbelief. If you’re a fan of the show Sex in the City you remember that Burger broke up with Carrie on a post-it note. If that ain’t a the most heartless shit you ever saw. Some people just have no clue what taste consist of. Here are some of the most tasteless ways you can ever dump someone.
They Should Have Never Gave Them N*ggas Mobile Devices
Have you ever been dumped via text message? Take for instance the message in the picture at the top of the blog…they just text like they telling you to meet em at the mall or something. This is one of the most common forms of break-ups because everyone and they one eyed granddaddy has a cell phone. People *and I am included* rather text than talk on the phone. I think folks get so comfortable so they think it’s more acceptable now than ever before. Hell I was dumped by text a few years ago. Â I wanted to dump his ass first and while I was agonizing on how to do it gently, this hoe just texted me and said “Yo we over. We still cool right”? That shit pissed me off. It wasn’t the fact that he dumped me first…well that was a factor. It was really how he did it that hurt me. It’s like the person isn’t worth a damn face to face break-up.
Again…Facebook will ruin your life
Facebook has become the new way to dump your beau. How many times have we seen couples go at it from wall to wall and the next thing you know she’s no longer in a relationship with so and so, and her status has changed from it’s complicated to single? The next thing you know every last one of her 500 friends asking on her very PUBLIC wall “What happened girl. I thought you two were happy”. That’s the problem with breaking up on the internet…you have an audience. Half the time the other person ain’t got the memo until one of their friends inquires about it and they’re left there like damn “she dumped me”.
Word of Mouth
There ain’t nothing more embarrassing than your boo asking someone else to tell you that the relationship is over. You chillin one night and you get a call from his homeboy Ray Ray telling you that your “boo” Chico don’t care to kick it with you anymore. Hell Chico is actually considered a punk ass bitch for having someone do his dirty work for him. If you can’t be a man or woman about how you feel then you don’t need to be in a relationship anyway. Plus, just putting random ass folks in your business is just salty. That is not only embarrassing to the other party, but it makes you look like your balls are tucked betwix your legs.
You’ve Got Mail
Technology is gonna kill us…remember I said it. This is another heartless way to break off a relationship. Imagine it’s 8am and you check your emails before you start your day. You see a few Facebook friend requests, got two new twitter followers and a surprising email from your girlfriend Rochelle. With a huge grin on your face you open it to read what your baby has to say. You read and your grin quickly disappears. What you thought was a loving email from the woman in your life turns out to be a dump email by the bitch you done let drive your car. Come on…PICK UP THE PHONE AND CALL HIM BEFORE YOU BRING THE INNANETS INTO THIS.
Valentines Day Just Ain’t for You
There are a lot of heartless people out there. There are some so heartless they choose to dump folks on holidays like Valentines Day, Christmas and even Birthday’s. Why oh why must you choose a significant day of the year to make someone feel like shit? One of my girlfriends got dumped on Valentines Day because as it turns out dude didn’t want to be obligated to buy her anything. Now I know “broke un-affectionate negros” say they don’t acknowledge Valentine’s Day because it was just designed by the greeting card companies to capitalize on blah blah blah…. What they’re really saying is I think you cool and all, but not cool enough to actually get a gift, card, or candy on this day. Hell even spending the day with you seems to be scary for them. I guess they feel  if they did take you out that would make you officially think you two were a couple. Chile hush.
However you decide to end the relationship is gonna be difficult, but please have some compassion on how the other person might feel. I know there are times we wanna get over it and think by just saying it will make us feel better, but it only makes them feel worse. If they ended up flipping out and hunted you down to kill you, you would have wished that you were a little more gentle. I guess some people view break-ups like a band-aid. If you rip it off really quick, it’s over just like that. If you take your time to take it off, you’re only holding up the initial process. Hmmmm I guess love is like a band-aid. Well damn maybe I shouldn’t have dump ol boy on the phone while I was at the checkout at the supermarket. The cashier laughed when I did it ya’ll…she laughed. Which in turn made me chuckle and he felt worse. I hope GOD forgave me for that. I was young and foolish, but I hated that dude more than I hated all white shoes.
Holla at me: Have you ever been dumped in a heartless way? Have you ever dumped someone in a heartless way?
Laya
Comment made on July 20, 2010 @ 10:47 am
Lmao this is so funny and so true. I remember I was dumped on my birthday. He just called me and said it’s over. U can imagine that birthday sucked. People just don’t have the taste and class God gave a rat. smh
earringsbytraci
Comment made on July 20, 2010 @ 11:07 am
Well, considering I think everything is inappropriate especially text-ing. Breaking up with someone this way is unacceptable. However, if the nature of the relationship was been via text or other inappropriate acts have taken place that way then I understand. Speaking of Facebook I personally think relationship status shouldn’t be an option if you’re not married. People air too much of their life on social networking sites, inviting others to draw their own conclusions and in some ways influence the weak. As far as Valentine’s day it’s quite ridiculous to break up with someone because they can’t afford a gift. Could it be they wanted to break up before and they didn’t want to reveal the real reason. I don’t know. At any rate adults should be able to communicate what they want or don’t want to be involved in. Adults should able to verbally do this to someone in person, and if they can’t you shouldn’t want to maintain a relationship with them anyway. If Communication is a key part of a relationship and you receive a text of a breakup, WAKE up and move on. Smooches
Missy
Comment made on July 20, 2010 @ 11:12 am
I think they see it as easier than just speaking to the person directly, even if the person txt bk u don’t have to answer bk! When u call to say it’s over, u have to deal with the cries, hurtful things they may say and more, it’s just more messy. Not that it is right, but some ppl want to cut str8 to point, point blank.
V.I.
Comment made on July 20, 2010 @ 12:08 pm
Laya,
Yea that does suck, but it’s probably better he was now out of your life because if someone can dump you on your birthday they weren’t worth shit.
V.I.
Comment made on July 20, 2010 @ 12:14 pm
You’re right Traci..if the relationship was via texting I guess ending it that way wouldn’t be out of the norm. Facebook is a whole other issue. The fact that everyone is on FB leaves no privacy in your relationship. It doesn’t help that every second someone is changing their status for the world to see. I update my relationship status and 5 mins later I add about 20 comments. I no longer have anything involving relationships on my page. People are to damn nosy.
V.I.
Comment made on July 20, 2010 @ 12:17 pm
Hmmmm Missy it sounds like you done dumped a few people via text lol.