Ok, everyone gets nervous on first dates. You can’t really help it. This shows if you can really enjoy being around the person in a more intimate setting. When it comes to dating, people do one of two things 1) pretend to be a tamer version of themselves or 2.) Show you who they really are and if you like it you like it if you don’t well screw you. Once the first day goes off without a hitch, the second date goes a bit smoother because you’ve gotten the initial butterflies out of the way. Like all things in life sometimes things happens that you can’t control. If you know that you want to have a second, please refrain from doing things that can make the first date be your last.
Show up late~ I am very impatient and very punctual when I need to be. I can’t stand waiting on someone. One of the worst things you can do is show up late for a date. I definitely will have an attitude. Hell I might just leave before you show up. If you are running late, contact the person and let them know and say why you’re running late. Showing up late with no explanation shows me that you don’t care about other people’s time.
Ramble about your ex~ Ladies, this is something we are guilty of sometimes. When we hear the question “So what happened with your last relationship” we automatically go into “Oh that dude makes me sick” blah blah blah. Remember, dating is like a job interview. You’re sizing up one another to see if you can be a possible candidate for the job. If you go in there focused on the chick your ex got knocked up your date will see that you’re still stuck in the past and still can’t let go.
Ask Her to Go Dutch~ I’m sorry, but a man should pay for the first date. If you dare fix your mouth to ask me to pay half I am walking the hell out. It’s just good manners to pay for the date. I don’t care who asked who, a man should pay. If you do have a second date maybe we can go dutch or even I pay for it…just being fair. If this is the first time we’re out and you look at me like “Your half of the dinner comes up to $50.00 plus tax” I’m done. That has actually happened to me one time. I was one a double date with one of my friends and apparently her date didn’t have any money. My date whispered to me “Well since my homeboy can’t pay for his dinner can you and your homegirl pay for your meals”. I looked at that man he had a horn growing out his forehead. My friend and I looked at each other gave the waitress our credit cards…signed them and walked the heck out. Leaving both those broke fools at the table counting pennies. Then he had the nerve to text me “Why did you leave? Are you mad at me?” He never saw me again. It’s not about being a gold digger. Why would you take someone out and you know you don’t have the means to pay? See I got mad all over again, with his wack a$$.
Apparently Soap Don’t Work On You~ Have you ever been around someone for the first time and they stink to high heaven? I mean your nose start to burn because of the stench that is emitting from their body? Please perform the necessary hygiene procedures before coming on a date. I remember one guy was so damn stank when I met him. *Yes I said stank*. I hugged him and I started coughing. That definitely didn’t give him a chance for a second date. If you don’t know how to take a proper shower, don’t try seeking out a romantic partner until you learn. You will never get anyone smelling the way you smell.
Silence Isn’t always golden~ If you just don’t know how to hold a conversation then what’s the point of dating? Dating is when two people try to get to know each other to see if they’re a good fit. If I’m trying to gauge you with conversation and you give me one word answers, how is that getting to know you? All you really have on a date is conversation so that determines everything. If you’re silent I feel like you’re not interested in me. If that’s the case we can end the date right now…no harm, no foul.
Facebooking and Tweeting the Play by Play~ I am the twitter queen. I put everything on twitter…well not everything. It’s pretty funny when you share certain events with your followers, but when you’re updating every 5 mins in the middle of your date that’s a problem. Your phone needs to be on silent or in the off position. You need to give the other person your undivided attention. If you’re constantly checking your phone and texting under the table, we can’t hang. It shows me that social networking has taken over your life and this could potentially be an issue in the future. Plus it’s just so damn rude.
Not paying attention~ What’s the main goal when on a date? Listen to the other person….right. So if you’re on a date and you’re not paying attention, then you don’t need to be on that date. You need to be an active listener. If he says something, respond, ask a question or disagree. You’re showing that you’re interested in what the other person has to say and it’s not going in one ear and out another.
They invented forks for a reason~ Please learn how to eat properly when out with civilized people. If you’re at a dinner table and you’re picking up food with your fingers…that’s a problem. I always talk about “safe foods” when it comes to dating. For instance; I will never order ribs on a date because there is no way anyone can look cute eating ribs in public. I order “safe food” like a chicken salad or something. You can’t get messy with a bowl of lettuce and chicken. The less mess, the less I look like I was raised in a field of rabid wolves devouring a goat.
*Bonus* This one is probably one of the biggest turn offs. If you know that your ass cannot handle liquor, don’t drink it on a date. Some people drink liquor on a date to loosen up and kill the nerves, but the faster you drink the faster you get drunk. If you’re out with a man and he’s holding your hair back while you throw up, be prepared to never see him again. If you like him…stay away from the Patron shots.
If you were on a date, what would your date do to make you not want to seem him/her again?
