Vintage: Friends Before Lovers? Should You Be Friends First?

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We all know a couple that have been long time friends and then decided to take their friendship to another level. They’re both single and get along great, so why not see if they can actually date? Many say it’s an easy transition from friends to lovers. A relationship works better if you’ve developed a friendship before becoming intimate. I do agree, but damn what if the relationship doesn’t work out the way you’d hoped. Can you easily go back to being “just friends”?

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Are You The Back Pocket Girl?


We’ve all been there. We’ve all been the back pocket girl one time in our lives. Please don’t confuse this with being a side chick. This is an entirely different circumstance. I know you’ve dated or been in a relationship with someone who did thangs to you. He came into your life, made you feel all good then disappeared like he owed you back child support. You’re left so confused and hurt over the disrespect. After months of replaying everything that you obviously missed while you were together you finally move on. The second your thoughts stopped lingering on the man who left you standing there looking a fool, he reappears like nothing ever happened. You are left even more confused and frustrated because you’ve finally got to the point where you were good.  Now this. Men do this shit all the time. You may have wondered why is this happening and  what made him come back. Oh girl the answer is simple. You’re the back pocket girl. The sooner you realize that, the better.

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Dating With Children: How Soon Should You Introduce Him?

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When is it the right time to introduce him to your children? I know that dating with children can be one of the most challenging things you encounter. Not only do you have to maneuver through the array of half a$$ men you, but you have to consider that who you date will affect your kids. As single parents searching for a mate, your wish is to find someone who you’re compatible with and would love your kids as if they were their own. The thing is, so many women and men don’t understand that immediately introducing a new/potential partner on their child not only is irresponsible as hell but the sh!t can be damaging to their child. This is just my opinion. I have no kids, but from the outside looking in there should be some rules when dating and introducing your new potential to your children.

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Pay Attention To The Red Flags In Dating

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Listen here, when it comes to dating ya’ll better pay attention to the signs. If you see or hear something that doesn’t seem right, get the hell out of the way. When it comes to dating we tend to let shit slide. We are so nervous that we “miss our blessings” that we overlook shit that need to be looked at. I’ve become a firm believer of “the signs.” If you gather enough red flags it’s the universe telling you this shit ain’t for you. There are some of us that bypass these obvious flags for other reasons. Maybe it’s loneliness, love or just plain ol physical attraction; if you bypass these red flags can you get mad when the shit doesn’t work out in the end?

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Is There Such A Thing As Too Many Options?


In this day and age can a girl have too many options? Let’s face it, dating in 2013 is few and far between. Maybe in a year’s time you meet about 2-3 ok guys. You go out, try to get to know them and it always ends up the same; he’s on some other bullshit and you don’t have the time for that mess. So you continue living your carefree life until bam…you meet someone. Then you meet someone else. You leave your options open so much to the point you have about 4 men trying to get your attention and your head is spinning with all the options you now have and frankly it’s driving you bonkers. Why is it that too many options cloud your emotions? Is there such a thing as too many options in dating?

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The Worst Date Ever In The History of Dating



Dating has got to be the hardest fuck shit ever in the history of fuck shit. I mean there’s nothing wrong with dating, but the whole first date situation can be tricky. The entire getting to know each other over the phone is cute, but it isn’t until you meet in person that you really see the crust of a motherfucker. I’ve been on a few dates in my years of dating, but never had a horrible first date…until tonight. Dating can be a hit or miss and tonight that shit missed me completely. Catch the tea. 

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