How important is sex to a relationship?
While on twitter, I jokingly asked, “Do I really want to wobbly wobbly drop drop it like it’s hot?” I was in the moment referring to dancing, however, I received the following response from a male follower:
Just because you can get him to cum, doesn’t mean that you’re necessarily good in bed.
I remember watching an episode of Sex and the City, where Charlotte was distraught because the man she was sleeping with fell asleep while he was still in flagrante delicto. I also remember having a conversation with a friend of mine about her being scared to sleep with a guy she knew was well experienced because she feared that she wasn’t good enough in bed. I told her well if you are fearful of not being good, more than likely it’s because you aren’t or you lack experience.
It’s a fact men make women go crazy. (Women make men go crazy but that is another story.) Crazy. Not that he put it down so good he got me climbing the walls. I am talking about the dressed in a black lurking outside your house, calling your phone blocked,trying to hack your facebook account crazy.
There is that one person that has the power over us to make us go bonkers. Sure their sex game may be on point (better be on point) but it is something they say. Its how the smile at us. Wipe away our tears. Hold us when we are down. Cook for us and hold us up when it seems like the world is tearing us down.
When it comes to sex & all things sexually related, I say try it once
and then decide if you like it. After all it’s about getting as much
pleasure as you can. So, under that motto I embarked on a journey that
I can truthfully say I will not venture again.
Okay, so I’m doing this guest blogger thing cuz I was talking with some friends, and one said she’s still waiting to experience her first “O”. My heart sank. Almost literally. It does that each and every time I hear a woman say she’s never had an orgasm. I really don’t know what my life would be without them.
It’s amazing how we “try” to keep things together even after we realize that don’t work. I (because I live and love fashion must speak from my fashion perspective) buy a pair of shoes that I love or lust at first sight then put them on and can’t walk in them for sh*t…but can’t bring myself to stop wearing…or god forbidden give them away and let someone else have them. It’s the same thing with a relationship.
*Snapping Fingers* Welcome to the Diary of A Mad Guest Blogger. This is a segment where we feature the bloggers that got thangs to say. I want you to give a special hand to Tesha of TeshasDiary.com
I entered knowing exactly what I wanted. I searched for him, fearful that he might not be available to cater to my needs. I found him, smiling and inviting. We had a connection, an attraction.
He knew what I wanted, I had become his number one customer and his biggest fan. Fascinated by the tantalizing things he had stored in his arsenal.
He was known to have the magic touch. I went to where he would be, where he wanted me to wait for him. I awaited him, nervous about the things he’d be doing to me. I was excited about what the next hour or so had in store. He ran me a warm bath, seasoned with scented sea salts and soft bubbles to caress me.
Not sure when the roles changed but why have guys gotten so sensitive and passive. Don’t get me wrong I like a guy to care and be concerned but waiting by the phone for me to call or counting down the hours and minutes since my last call is borderline bitchassness. I need a man to check me and keep me in line cause I’m aggressive so he has to be a little more not a whole lot less.
I hate playing the guy role in a relationship because I will cheat. There is no way I won’t. I tried it twice and cheated four times. I love a man to be in to their feelings, but shit u don’t need to cry if you didn’t get to hear my voice before you went to bed. Sometimes I want to say “man up, you sure you have balls between your legs?”. It just frustrates me because I see why previous girls cheat because I’m pretty sure they thought they were dating a girl, and had to check their sexuality in cheating.
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Hey Guys,
What it look like? I’m doing an external Diary of a Mad Guest Blogger today. My blog sister CoCo B. Ware has an interesting and insightful article over on her blog Blush & Bashful. CoCo talks about the roles in a relationship. How few women take on the traditional roles, while some men are truly good men. She also got some great perspectives from several different men out there. Check her out over at http://www.2shadesofpink.com. Don’t forget to leave your feedback…Show her some love.
Tell her V.I. sent ya!
*Snapping Fingers* Welcome to the Diary of A Mad Guest Blogger. This is a segment where we feature the bloggers that got thangs to say. I want you to give a special hand to Nukirk.
First off, let’s start off with a basic introduction. My name is Nukirk. I’m a music/tech/social studies blogger, not a relationship advisor. At least that’s what I’m known as. But I do have some common sense I would love to give you that combines my knowledge of the web with your wanting to attract a partner of your choosing using the web. I also know that in order to pull it off a feat like this, I must rely on the one thing VI loves about me… my quirky sense of humor.
