“Can you hear me? Can you hear me now?” 43% of relationships end due to lack of communication. How often do you hear “he/she never listen to me” and “they did and we connected” when discussing the demise of a relationship. Men and women want the same things in relationships, it’s just communicated differently at times. Have you ever had a conversation where you’ve clearly stated you want, but gotten the exact opposite in return.
Merely a bad connection…as if you were driving through a tunnel with music blasting but still trying to take the call. But this person is sitting right in front of you. I think it’s best to be up front in relationships, so there is no “mistaking” the intend of either party….COMMUNICATION is key! And once you’ve lost that it’s just as if you’ve lost your cellular signal…*SCREAMING* “Can you hear me, Can you hear me now….” *shrug* Guess it’s a “Bad Connection”.
How’s your signal?,
So we all know breaking up ain’t no walk in the park. We battle with it in our soul and if it feels like the best thing to do we agonize on how to go about it, because at the end of the day no one likes a bad break-up. Well, I thought that’s how normal people dealt with a pending break-up. There are some people that really don’t give a damn about how they end it, they just end it. There are so many bad ways to end a relationship, but when you actually have it happen to you it’s like you’re in disbelief. If you’re a fan of the show Sex in the City you remember that Burger broke up with Carrie on a post-it note. If that ain’t a the most heartless shit you ever saw. Some people just have no clue what taste consist of. Here are some of the most tasteless ways you can ever dump someone.
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No one, absolutely no one wants to be that rebound person. The term rebound is typically referred to one person was rejected by another, so they use the next person to bounce back. This is usually the first available person that comes their way. That person is just someone they “use” to get over their last relationship. I know “use” is a harsh word, but hey that’s what it is. A man/woman never thinks their the rebound, because they think their the best thing to come along in your life. In your mind you already know that nothing serious can come from this relationship, and that person is just there so you can fill that void you’re use to.
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Transitioning from one relationship to another can be very difficult for some. No matter when the last relationship ended, there are always feelings left that you might not shake instantly. Nonetheless, your trying to move on and for the most part it seems to be working. You finally meet someone that has the same interest, goals, and it doesn’t hurt that they’re fine as hell. So why is it that sometimes you can’t seem to reveal to your ex that you’re seeing someone new?
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So last night while doing my relationship show over on Da Flava Radio, one of the topics that came up dealt with acceptance. The question was asked “If you found out your man fathered a child outside of your relationship, what would you do”? Now I’m sure you guys know I’ve been through this before, so my answer came out like a bolt of lightening. I informed everyone I actually experienced that and left the relationship. Well, one of the listeners in the chat room wrote “There was no way I could have really loved him if I just ended the relationship”. That got me to thinking; why do some women feel like they HAVE to tolerate whatever a man decides to put them through? Continue Reading…
Not all brothas are marriage material. There are some you literally have to punch in the ball sack to get them to take you out the house. They fear the words “us” and “together”. If you even attempt to say “When I get married”…their asses are so quick to let you know it ain’t that kind of party. These are the “Only for a time” men. You can kick it with them.. you know have your fun, but when you decide you want something more you look the other way. Then you have the brothas that don’t shy away from commitment. They’ve done all they wanted to do and more and finally realized that finding that woman that makes them feel confident in love is better than any feeling in the world. They have no problem making that step with the right person. They know when it’s time ladies, sometimes they want to make sure that you’re ready.
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Last night I was having a conversation with one of my friends regarding growth. A few days ago she sent a text out to about 5 of her friends including me stating that she needs time to sort things out in her life and doesn’t want to really speak to anyone. I’m not sure how the other 4 took it, but I totally understood where she was coming from and told her I am always here if she needed to speak to someone. I felt that’s what being a friend was about…knowing when the other person just needs space and understanding it. So I finally talked to her today and she said she hoped I wasn’t offended by her text. Apparently, I was the only person that didn’t take offense to it. One of her “friends” hung up on her because they thought she was pissed at them and sent that text as a way to say “F*ck off”. Sometimes it’s not always about you. This is the case when the folks you thought were your friends cannot understand growth. They can’t understand that sometimes telling all your damn business just ain’t the business. You’re trying to advance and they’re stuck in the same path of thinking…THIS IS WHEN YOU MIGHT HAVE OUTGROWN YOUR FRIENDS.
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Have you ever knew a nice guy who just had a slight affliction? His ass can’t seem to stay the hell out of the gutter. Meaning, HIS ASS ALWAYS LOOKS TO THE BOTTOM OF THE GARBAGE CAN FOR THE TRASHIEST CHICK. I’ve also noticed a lot of well put together woman do the same thing. It’s like the gutter is the only place they can find em. I don’t want folks to think I’m targeting folks outta the projects. When I say trash I’m talking about the people that can’t even come to your level. They ain’t shit so they feel like everyone around them should be treated as such. They have nothing to bring to the table, so they look at you to rob your ass for as much as they can get out of you.
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You can never know how strong a relationship is until something happens to test it. Some people have this notion that in relationships, everything should go a certain way. Basically, if it ain’t planned it should not affect them. There are times that our relationships are tested to see if we can come out of it stronger than when we started. It’s easy to say what you will and won’t do in a relationship, but when something arises will you be able to step to the plate or fold under pressure?
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If he doesn’t change, can you live with it? How many times have you met someone you were interested in, but there was something about them that you wish would just go away? Like he’s a fanatic when it comes to video games, or she doesn’t see a problem with going to the club every weekend. Hell it could even be, he has a problem with keeping his nut sack in his pants! So many times we meet someone that has a lot of the qualities we like, but they lack something in another department. You wish upon a fallen star that he changes his ways, because if he did he would be the “perfect” person for YOU. You hold onto the relationship hoping that change will come, at the same time falling deeper and deeper in love. What if the change didn’t come, would you stay in the relationship?
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