You talk about “your man” this and “your man” that, but when it comes to Valentine’s Day you don’t go anywhere or do anything. He gives you an excuse like “I gotta work late” or he stops by on February 13th to drop off your flowers and Walgreens chocolates and your eyes light up. You call him on Valentine’s Day to no avail. Later on that night you call his phone again and get the voice mail  You assume he forgot his charger and will call you when his shift ends. Honey I hate to break the news to you, but while your at home munching on the stale ass $2.00 chocolates “your man” is out with his woman. You my dear are known as the side chick and it seems that you haven’t figured it out yet. On Valentine’s Day side chicks gets a bad wrap. Your in a relationship and he’s not, but obviously your too into him to see he’s not into you…like that.

It’s ok, to be the side chick someone has to assume the role. I just need ya’ll to remember your positions. Most men reserve this day for the main woman in their life. The one who knows him inside and out. The one who’s been there when he had nothing. Your the chick he met at the club, you let him hit and have been seeing him in the comfort of your apartment ever since. There is nothing to be ashamed of, I just want those of you out there to understand what this is and act accordingly. This man made “holiday” brings out the evil in some women. You got the bitter lonely women saying “Fuck Valentine’s Day…I’m so lonely I can die.” You got the women who are seeing someone, but not exclusively saying “I want to spend time with him, but he didn’t ask me to do anything. WTF is that about?” Then you got the women who think they’re in a relationship saying “Yea girl I called him, but he isn’t answering his phone. Maybe he’s gonna surprise me after work.” You never hear from that motherfucker until 10:30 am on February 15th with a ton of excuses why he didn’t see you yesterday. Don’t let your status leave you bitter. Wouldn’t you rather someone to show you genuine love all year round rather than on one day? I mean getting a card and shit is nice I guess, but anybody can give yo ass a card. Shit I remember once someone bought me flowers, within 10 mins a strong ass wind come through the house and blew the vase on the ground. In my opinion that was a sign that those flowers weren’t given to me by a genuine heart. If you can’t show me the love I need on a normal day, keep that Valentine’s shit.

So side pieces, now that you’ve realized just who you are in his life you need to either stop complaining or make a change. I know it’s hard to get away from good dick. Let’s face it, that’s about the only thing his ass really gives to you. I know it’s hard getting away from good dick, but if you rather be with someone that can not only love you when the lights are out then you need to change your situation. I’m not saying you gotta find someone and get boo’d up before the next Valentine’s Day rolls around, because there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. I’m saying make sure you know where you stand in his life. If your content with being the chick on the side, then bitch do you. If not, then well bid that fool adieu.