Act of Desperation: Are You Too Generous Or Are You Trying To Buy His Love?


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There is nothing at all wrong with spoiling your man. If you want to buy him a nice shirt or a pair of expensive ass sneakers, do ya thang. The issue that I see many women having is that they feel like doing everything for a man financially will make him stay. There are women out here trying to buy love from a man who isn’t even selling it. He allows you to buy him and still would turn around and leave you for someone else. There is nothing wrong with generosity in a relationship, the issue is some women confuse generosity with pure desperation. Here’s a little secret for those of you that are unaware of the difference: Generosity goes both ways. Desperation is a singular action. Spending all your damn money won’t keep no damn man. 

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Dating Ain’t Sh!t, When You’re Trying To Date With Purpose

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The dating scene ain’t sh*t. I ain’t telling you what I heard, I’m telling you what I know. Although I’ve been out of the dating scene for a little over two I remember that monster all too well. The problem is, if you’re interested in dating with a purpose you have to weed through a lot of the bullsh*t people you encounter. You meet a series of random “potentials” that turn out to be Peter Gunz  f*ck boy interns. There are also times when you seem to meet the “perfect” match (I put quotations because there is no such thing as a perfect person, IMO) but they’re going through some other mess in their life and getting involved would just be a waste of everyone’s time. Yea, it’s hard out here for a sista that just wants to fall in love. When I was hopelessly single, one day I decided to turn my dating dilemma into just dating for pleasure.

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Behind The Blog: Story Behind Original Blog “Would You Stay If He Got Someone Else Pregnant?”




Hey guys, so it’s another episode of my Behind The Blog series on Youtube. This week I’m talking about the story behind my blog ” Would You Stay If He Got Someone Else Pregnant?”. I’m telling the full story about finding out the boyfriend at the time had an entire black ass family behind my back. It was devastating at the time, but it was a huge learning experience. This is a lot of women’s plight, when dealing with a man that can’t seem to keep his thang to himself. 

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*Vintage* The Interview:The Plight of the Cheating Man


I know we’re so off that Tiger Woods thing, but his situation made me wonder what goes through a person’s mind when they decide to cheat. What are their relationships like? Why do they continue? I’ve decided to interview 2 people that are either currently or formally in a cheating relationship. First up I decided to interview a guy that is currently in a relationship, but is also cheating on his girlfriend. The names in these blogs will remain anonymous. I don’t want nobody ass to get whopped on the count of my shit.

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Are You Purposely Sabotaging Your Relationships?


When it comes to relationships, you have people who are successful and others that just can’t seem to get it right. Those that jump from relationship to relationship are sometimes under the notion that they’re just not meeting the right people. That may be true, but what if you’re just not right in relationships? Many people seeking relationships unknowingly sabotage any chances of being in a  successful one. We’ve known people who crave love, but when they finally get into a relationship it is over in the blink of an eye. No matter how much they seem to be into their partner, it just never lasts. That person might be self-sabotaging their relationships. Self sabotage is subtle at first, but as the relationship grows it builds and eventually destroys it. Below are a few signs that you might be sabotaging your relationships.

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Brandy I Love You, But I Don’t Believe The Lies You Tell *Video*


Brandy recently sat down with the ladies of the talk show “The Real”, and when asked about her dating status Brandy admitted that she is not currently dating and she’s just doing her. When the subject of marriage came up Brandy also stated that she no longer see it for walking down the aisle and she’s off the whole marriage idea. I DO NOT BELIEVE THE LIES SHE TELLS.

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