We all know what’s going on with this economy. Jobs are being lost and shit just doesn’t come as easy anymore. So what do you do when you’re single and dating? What’s the etiquette when it comes to paying on a date? Do you go dutch? Should the guy pay? What should you do on a first date? There are certain avenues you might want to take when it comes to the check.
About a week or so I was asked out on a date. This guy and I have been talking casually for about a month and once our schedules were both clear we finally decided to meet up. The first meeting was just a casual meet up. We just wanted to have that initial meeting. The meeting was really good and we were both enthusiastic to get to know more about each other. So the next day he asked me was I free to see him. I told him I was and he said we can go get a bite to eat. I was cool with that so I met him at a restaurant near my neighborhood. Now everything was going good. We were laughing, talking and even giving each other those “I think I kinda like your ass” looks. The waitress brought over the check. Now I might be wrong for what I did, but f*ck it, it’s whatever. The waitress naturally placed the check in front of him. I saw that he was kinda reluctant to look at the check.He looked at it took some cash out of his wallet and I took some money out to leave the tip. This is when I noticed that his good demeanor turned into some other shit. He wasn’t as talkative as he was before. I brushed it off and continued to enjoy the rest of the date. We hugged parted ways and went about our business.
Later on in the day I noticed that he hadn’t texted me. Normally we texted on a regular, but I noticed that he hadn’t texted me since we had our date. I didn’t trip I just continued to do my thang. Then the next day no texts either. I’m thinking what the hell happened between the date and now? I didn’t want to assume shit, so I texted him to check his temperature. He replied, but it wasn’t as personable as he usually was to me. I sat back and thought of the whole date and tried to pinpoint the moment things turned to shit for him. Then I realized, it had to have been the check thing. In my mind if you ask me out on a date to a restaurant I assume that you will be paying for whatever we eat/drink. When growing up we’ve been taught as little girls that it is customary for men to pay. Shit, when did this stop?
If it wasn’t a date cool. I have no problem with coming out of pocket, but if you ask me out then um yea. Now I haven’t heard from this guy since. I ain’t sweating it because if you tripping like that over $40.oo then son, we ain’t ever going together. If you know you can’t afford to date, don’t date. Don’t ask someone to a certain spot and then get mad cause you gotta come out of pocket. I don’t know if I was in the wrong for not grabbing the check and pretending to pay for my own shit. I assume men like to feel like king shit at this time. If you grab the check, they wanna be the one that says “No baby I got this.” I really don’t know. All I know is that was not the coolest situation to happen to me. Nowadays men got this whole courting shit twisted in a knot. I heard a few men say “I ain’t taking no body out because I ain’t spending my money on a random chick.” Is it just men have gotten cheaper or the economy has gotten worse? I have no idea; but if I go on another date again, meet my ass in the park. That way you don’t catch an attitude if I decide that I want a bottle of water.
Holla at me: On a first date, who should pay?
