The game changes after a certain age. In your 20′s it was all about having a good time. The men/women you dated breezed in and out of your life, and although you felt hurt you just hopped on the next one to come your way. Dating in your 20′s seems a little easier because it was just a game. There were too many dicks in the sea  to be stressing out about one made absolutely no sense. This is why they say you have the best time of your life  in your 20′s. Shit seems so much easier, so free and so so promising. Then you hit your 30′s. This is where the game changing comes in, and dating goes straight to hell.
Let me tell ya’ll something right now, and my over 30′s can vouch for this…dating in your 30′s is shit-filled. If you thought dating in your twenties was fun and exciting, you don’t wanna be single in your 30′s. This is where the damn fun train stops. I’m not saying that being in your 30′s is the beginning of the end. I love being 30 something, but it’s definitely harder to find someone suitable at this stage. This is the time when a lot of people are through with playing games, and feel ready to settle down with that special someone. The issue is, damn near everybody has already paired up. Leaving the still single, still looking for someone even remotely suitable to take home to meet the family. You run into nothing but low-life, worthless ass men or men with baby momma drama and a tribe of chil’ren . Also you met the ones that can’t grasp the fact that their not in their 20′s anymore. Walking around wearing skinny jeans, cornrows and in the club searching for a late night freak. The shit is played for real. Chile there ain’t nothing but trash out cha. You have standards and you don’t wanna settle for less than what you deserve, but some folks end up settling. They rather have anybody than nobody.
Also when it comes to dating, some things that were deal breakers in your 20′s sometimes have to be overlooked in your 30′s. For instance in my 20′s I never dated men with kids. I love kids don’t get me wrong, but dating a man with that much responsibility was too much. Although seeing a man taking care of his kids is a wonderful look, but I wasn’t ready for that added pressure. If we got close and ended up in a relationship, I would automatically be step-mommy? No way honey chile. I was not ready for all that there. I wanted someone I can chill and have fun with with no drama. In your 30′s…chile it’s hard to find a man with no kids. It’s like the second you find one no matter what else is going on, all you can say is “At least he doesn’t have kids.” You want kids but some people would rather have a partner that wasn’t a parent so when that time came the experience would be new and exciting for the both of you. If you do meet someone with kids you now tend to over look it because at this age who doesn’t have kids? What you didn’t tolerate in your 20′s becomes a little more tolerable in your 30′s. That’s all I’m saying.
The bottom line is dating does not get better with time. Sure you’re more clear on what you want and desire, but you will quickly see how many people that disqualifies from your dating pool. If you’re lucky to find that special someone great. You better hold on to him girl cause if he’s all that and you slip up once these mature chicks out here ready to pounce. For my single ladies about to hit 30 and ready to settle down…girl keep hope alive. You gotta know what you want before you step into this arena. Don’t settle for less than you deserve, and don’t let the idea of love blind you from reality. If a man can’t give you honesty he can’t give you shit else. My sistas in the struggle: Girls we gonna make it. Shit we know what we want and settling is not an option. We know when it comes we will be ready. If it doesn’t come when we expected it to it’s ok. These things happen when it’s suppose to so just chill. Don’t let each passing year make you more and more bitter and desperate.
