This is actually an old post, but I used it for “Ask V.I.” because I received an email asking for tips. So instead of repeating myself, I’ve decided to just post the readers question and post my original blog underneath. Enjoy!
Dear V.I.,
So i read the blog about riding d*ck. I really want to learn how to ride. i am afraid of trying because i don’t want him to tell me in no good at it . What kind of information would you give to a beginner like me . i just want to be good at it but im scared to try . What can i do to become and expert ?
Thanks
I’ve realized that most women are intimidated to actually ride a stallion. I’m not sure if it’s just lack of experience or the fact they’re afraid he won’t think they’re any good. Either way, many women shy away from that position because they lack confidence in their abilities. It’s ok to feel intimidated, but you can’t let that shit scare you away. The first rule in penis riding is….ride, ride, and ride until you get it right. Men love a woman that can take the lead. If you can sit down pun it and work his d*ck till he sweats semen, girl you did your job.
The one thing you have to realize when you’re about to straddle him is that you’re in control. That means whatever you do have to leave a lasting impression on him. I’m not sure if you ever had the chance to actually ride a horse, but it’s basically the same thing. Don’t just plop down on the peen, you have to make him feel every crease of your cooch while he enters you. Position your hands on his chest. That way not only do you have leverage; you can feel up on his man nipples too. Now for the best effect you should lean forward on your hands. Depending on the his size, this move helps you to guide more freely on it. This also gives you more control of the amount of penetration you want.
Now that you have the basic position down, it’s time to ride. You can go about this several ways. You can continue in the forward motion and topple that shit, or you can switch your movements. Many folks bounce up and down on it. I really don’t like that for too long because not only are you slapping  so hard, sometimes your legs get in the way and that  can get uncomfortable. If you want to get your legs in a more comfortable position, plant your feet instead of kneeling. This way he can assist you if need be, but bitch this is your moment to shine. Screw the hell out of him. Whatever speed suits you, go for that it. Hell do that backwards sometimes; just do something that leaves his ass begging for more.
This is just a few tips on how to ride his man killa. Hopefully you put these tips to good use.Oh and I can never stress this enough ladies, practice those Kegals. Gripping  along with riding it is the ultimate experience. Every time you move hold that rod with your muscles. You’re basically f*ucking and pumping that peen with your coochie all at the same time. Well report back if you decided to try it and let me know how it turned out. Team f*ck em right is in effect ya’ll……
dallas23
Comment made on November 29, 1999 @ 7:00 pm
My guys dick is 9 and a half inches long! Its really thick too my vajay has adjusted to the thickness but his length is KILLING ME! He is the take control type like and leaves me in a daze after our sessions everytime.. I’m 23 and he’s 28 I’ve been with 3 men including him, his experience is well…. a lil bit more extensive. My problem is his massive ass cock feels like its in my damn UTERUS! I wanna ride him to thank him for all the great dickdown he’s put on me but I really lack the experience to work with his shit.. in the past when I’ve tried he’s just like “flip over and let me beat that ” after 2-3 min… in other word I suck
Danielle
Comment made on June 5, 2010 @ 11:56 pm
I see that i am the first to comment on this article…but i greatly enjoyed it and will definetlly try it out with the bf…i know for a fact that ive done it on top before and ive had my good moments and bad ones….the bad part for me is the uncontrollable orgasms while on top…couldnt ride with out having one after another…is that a good or a bad thing?
Misha
Comment made on November 24, 2010 @ 4:30 pm
Well I haven’t ever been on top. I’m somewhat scared, because what if I don’t do it right? This is somewhat helpful and I will give it a try tonight.
JayR
Comment made on November 28, 2010 @ 10:08 pm
My guy is huge and likes to be in control. So when he is inside, it is hard to maintain my composure; I just melt. I will definitely use this article to pleasure him the way he pleasures me. I need to break him off!
val
Comment made on December 16, 2010 @ 10:19 pm
any tips for endurance in dick riding. i love straddling,but my legs get tight and hurt. i have mutilple orgasms.My ex liked me to ride him with my back to him. He duped me bc couldnt ride him for 10mins or more. i always quiver n cum/collapse off him and that pissess him off.
sarah
Comment made on December 22, 2010 @ 12:09 pm
well i nervous bcuz i kw wat to do but it seems like everytime i get on top i freeze nd i wind up telling him to get bak on top
Dae
Comment made on January 8, 2011 @ 10:31 pm
I love to ride it and my man loves it even more. More orgasms for you and you are in control. Ride it from the front or back put a leg uponce in awhile. With that he aint going no where.
niecii
Comment made on January 17, 2011 @ 3:25 am
this iis definetly helpful cuz ive did it a couple of times but for some reason im still unsure of myself they say its good but i jus feel like ii dont no wut the hell im doing so next time im jus gone go in with a clear mine
SPANiiSH MAMii
Comment made on February 9, 2011 @ 1:35 pm
OH DIOS!!!! lol i sure did try this ma man love it ♥ !! best advise iv ever gotten. best believe im doin this all the time
SPANiiSH MAMii
Comment made on February 9, 2011 @ 1:39 pm
call me his spanish dick pleaser c(:
Diamond
Comment made on March 4, 2011 @ 5:59 am
I usually shy away from ryding but im going to use your tips and see what happens:) thankx
k.marie
Comment made on March 11, 2011 @ 1:46 am
daaMn im very shy when i ride and i kinda get tired quickly r it mite jus b my thighs but ima riiide dat dick tonite!!!!
nipoo
Comment made on March 23, 2011 @ 1:37 pm
I will try it this Weekend with the boo.. hope it work cause he always does the work an I just take it.. but I want him coming for more.. thanks. Ill respond after
mapony
Comment made on April 8, 2011 @ 12:30 pm
This is the best article i’ve read in a LONG time. I read the title and just had to see what advice you were going to give. And to all you ladies out there the only advice I can give, is have fun! The moment you stress about it, that’s where you lose the moment to shine. A good position to give leverage if you get tired easily is the couch!! Have him sit down, straddle that bad boy and use your FEET and the back of the couch for leverage – not only will you get some good riding, a little bounce but it leads to hits your special spot just right. And in all honesty, he’s a guy. You are having sex with him. He’s happy. ROCK IT!
caramel
Comment made on May 15, 2011 @ 6:41 am
I get pretty wet quickly when my booboo is doing his thing
But one I try to ride big papa I get tired and also turned off
So is a nightmare when he turn me over and show me how is done
Very shameful.. I blame it on my age am 21, and having no
Experience overs me sum time. But he does an awesome job
Is only fair that I try these tips u have given.
britttttt
Comment made on May 16, 2011 @ 12:28 pm
im really shy, like this is my first time having sex and he wants me to be on top so.. where do i put my hands?
V.I.
Comment made on May 16, 2011 @ 5:26 pm
Lmao just put your hands on his chest. Pinch his nipples.
PUFF
Comment made on June 14, 2011 @ 11:24 pm
Damn V.I. this post really put it out there for me. I've tried to ride before and stumbled a few times. I just want to give it to him the way he does for me. I think I'll give it another shot and see what happens. MAN I HOPE IT WORKS.
Nympho
Comment made on June 15, 2011 @ 11:05 am
this is relly good advice…my man is huge and he's a lil older than me so he has had more experience than i have and he wants me to ride him cowgirl style but im nervous bc I have never rode dick before.
Anonymous
Comment made on June 18, 2011 @ 10:07 am
I love this article and it gives me confidence but what if I hurt the guy. I ride this way but I lean all the way over and its just slow. I'm 200+ pounds, so I'm scared that I'm too heavy to ride. Any advice? I'm also insecure about my body and I also feel shy when it comes to any type of sex except oral which I'm extremely good at what can I do to fix my riding issue?
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Comment made on July 25, 2011 @ 11:08 am
Anonymous, dont let weight distract u, I went frm sm, to big, to very big. I was 312lbs last July. Now im 263! Riding dick(or jus sex period) is damn good exercise. He can also spot you from underneath. lol ladies no matter what your size ENJOY & be in control……
OnAllFours
Comment made on September 3, 2011 @ 2:11 pm
I’m too am shy.. I freeze when i’m on top. My boyfriend makes faces, tells me “i want to see if you can make me cum, but don’t think you can”. He also has said “when he cums, he forces it out”. I feel like he’s judging my performance rather than enjoying it. Simetimes, when i’m “riding” he’ll have the look as though he’s bored, pull out his dick, and we stop having sex for the nite.. That really blows my confidence. I get embarrassed, it makes me not want to straddle him, at all.
Jamie
Comment made on September 20, 2011 @ 4:14 am
im ok at riding i ride better with music the only thing i wanna master is riding in a car tht ish hurts my thighs i can only go for a few mins and then the boo thang begs me to keep going bt i be tired i feel bad for not being able to finish the biddness in a car … Any tips for riding in a car ???
Anonymous
Comment made on September 24, 2011 @ 7:25 pm
When you’re riding in the car make sure you’re either in the backseat or in the front with the seat pushed all the way back. Put your arms around his neck and grind in the movement you like. You might wanna wear protection it can get messy in the car. Enjoy!
ncatgirl
Comment made on September 25, 2011 @ 11:32 pm
I did the kegal squeeze while riding slow…he absolutely loved it…..and i squeezed it at the tip and made him beg for me to drop it back down….try it ladies!
TOOSEXY4U
Comment made on October 12, 2011 @ 11:08 pm
WHT IS THE KEGAL SQUEEZE????
HisMrs.
Comment made on October 13, 2011 @ 8:06 am
What is the kegal squeeze?
How do you do it?
Im also scared to ride because iv never done it
And im really just wondering what to do..
Do i bounce my booty up and down, do i grind ? please help
vichick
Comment made on October 13, 2011 @ 10:50 am
Well kegels are basically exercises that strengthen your vaginal muscles. Here is a post I wrote explaining how to do it http://candydiaries.com/quick-tip-tuesday-muscle-…
tiana
Comment made on October 30, 2011 @ 3:31 pm
i love to have sex i love it and my bf is always doing all the work i like to get on top so i can show i have control but i feel like i have no clue what im doin or if im doing it rite and i need to be great at it so this helps im going to try it
Foxxxyreddd
Comment made on November 28, 2011 @ 1:59 pm
Well, I thgought i was above avg at riding. but when i started having sex with my new BF its like i was a beginner all over again. ( we have only did it a few times becasue we live far apart). He told me i dont know how to bang the choochie on his d*ck right. He says “you need position that ***Beep*** on my d*ck and bang that ****beep**** on this d*ck.”………at first i was confused and then i was like ,,,,ok i think i remember. so i told him i forgot to try that part. So i am guessing i need to stand over him and bend down and while my hands are on his chest…..bouce up and down that way? ??? if so how can i get better at it or who knows some good tricks to addd to this. I just want to know some good moves when riding that way. I also will use the couch for leverage@Mapony. I can say he is wayyyyyyy more experience than me. I am so turned on just by him talking dirty to me and he knows he has the upper hand on me. But i need to show him now. pleae reply!
Bilingualwoman
Comment made on December 1, 2011 @ 6:39 pm
I have never had sex with my man yet and he is so ready but he always feels like he is in control. So I want to show him I'm in control and ride the fuck out of his dick, just kind of nervous.
Ladyd
Comment made on December 14, 2011 @ 3:20 pm
Well i have been married to my husband now for 3yrs but we have dated for 10yrs and we have kids together and i consider our sex life some what great but i have my doubts about our sex life, when it comes down to me riding my husband its seems that he enjoys but he always tell me get up turn over but he tells me if i don't get up i will be upset cause he is going to cum quick….. so that makes me unsure and it makes me feel as though i'm not doing it right but he says that it feels good but he can't handle the fact of me riding his dick it makes him cum quickly which is the response i usually get from him …. so anyone with feedback on this please reply thanks………………………..
MT
Comment made on December 18, 2011 @ 5:22 pm
Okay I’m scared!! But I will try this and hopefully it works. I just wanna make my man feel good
venus
Comment made on December 20, 2011 @ 3:38 am
Love this. Fucking like crazy!
tasha
Comment made on December 28, 2011 @ 4:11 am
well i could say i dont like riding dick i dont knw if it is because i dont know how to o i right or i just wasnt born to ride dick . i try it sometimes but my legs get weak and i could do it for about 20 seconds then i cant take the pain in my tights . my man and i are very comfortable with each other i told him before that i dont like riding dick because i feel like im not good at it and makes my legs hurt ; he always tells me that i am good at it but even if i was good at it i cant stay there for more that 20 seconds , and it sucks because i have a big booty lol and damn having a big booty ive heard guys talking bout big booty girls riding dick been the best but i guess every big booty girl aint so good at it because look at me. at the end of the day i just wish i could ride dick because ifeel bad that my man is always the one giving it to me , i feel like if i would be good at it would be a way of thanking him for his amazing sex (;
Nympho2012
Comment made on December 30, 2011 @ 4:13 am
Okay lets say you were urinating, it's basically like stopping the urination process or whatever. Or lets say you really have to pee. You have to tighten those muscles to prevent an accident. Basically that's what Kegel excercises are.
thicksicilianchick
Comment made on December 31, 2011 @ 1:12 am
Ok y’all 27yo 260lbs 5’3 short legs I need help bad my hubby is like 6’5 270 and a bad back and he’s 25 so I wanna flip it on him and rock his world for new years but to ride with short legs and him built like hulk hogan with a beer gut it hurts and he’s quite large I need some tricks and pointers help!!!!!! How do I go for a long time and hard without killing myself + I gotta temperpedic and its realy hard to do anything on it!
anonymous09
Comment made on December 31, 2011 @ 4:01 pm
when ever i do ride i usually roll my body, kinda like dance grinding, my guy goes crazy for it, but the only problem is, is that it tires out my back and i feel uncomfortable doing it any other way. soo any tips how to make me feel comfortable..?
rs12
Comment made on January 2, 2012 @ 3:55 pm
there a video on porn hub that helped me learn to ride him now the only problem i have with my man is he always cums first ..but he loves it but google porn hub dick riding 101 it helped me learn
Mariana
Comment made on January 16, 2012 @ 1:04 am
Hello everyone! I just want to share my experience. Loved the article btw. It is easier for me to cum when im on top… wait… I can only cum when im on top so what I do is that when i get super horny and I see him getting a little tired while giving it to me, I lay him down (is not the same if he asks me, I like to be the one telling him to lay down which is cool cause it surprises him) and then play a little with his cock, just a little to make sure is really hard then get on top of him, introduce it nice and slow then lean towards him and start kissing him. Now, while I get closer to his mouth I start moving up and down or front and back, I usually start feeling really good right away and moan a little, this drives him crazy and once I see him totally into it (with an I want more face) then I just go back up and start riding. My ultimate FAVORITE ride is him laid down and me siting on top of him and moving front to back because mi clit is being played by his belly which drives ME crazy and he can tell when im going crazy. So basically what im saying is that what works for me is focusing on getting pleasure for myself —-this drives him crazy and then he adjusts to my movements and we make simphony. Once he sees me really enjoying it, then we have a good ride.
Good luck to u all!! and cheers
Kazia
Comment made on February 2, 2012 @ 12:33 pm
really??? u must ask??? who does not want to have multiple orgasms…and actually, that is a turn on for the man
Kazia
Comment made on February 2, 2012 @ 12:43 pm
I'm 280lbs and i carry it well. I'm actually in the process of losing weight but my man still has needs and so do I. When I get on top, i like to let him know who's coochy this is!! I ride his dick like my coochy is made of gold. and iam kind of worried about my weight, BUT!!! when u working that man, he is dazed, and amazed at ur skills. he's about to lose his mind. he can't blv u breaking him off like that. yes, a big girl works it….. also i suck him like it's my last piece of meal on the earth, i tease so i lay it down. plus pressing past u getting tired of riding is a workout!!! girl enjoy and lay it down. u let him know u can hold it down no matter what size. PUT HIM TO SLEEP!!!
kazia
Comment made on February 2, 2012 @ 12:45 pm
ditto
kazia
Comment made on February 2, 2012 @ 12:50 pm
u tell him that u need him to let go and be connected emotionally because it does make a huge difference. Instantly i can tell wen my man is trying to hold back so he won't cum. I told him not to do that, let go, go with ur feelings because it makes it more pleasurable for the both of u.. i told daddy, let go, momma will get it back up don't worry. if ur man stop forcing it, u may let go, and be even more exited!!!! then u won't even think about it. u will ride that dick like ur life depended on it
MzC@nDYR3D
Comment made on February 22, 2012 @ 5:24 am
Well I havnt had it in a while but, I never really was the riding every guy I had always wanted to take controll but now im tired of that, I need to know wat to do wit these damn nerves of mind so I can have fun while having sex
frenchelle
Comment made on March 6, 2012 @ 1:10 am
Ok, Iv’e tried to ride my guy several times, i tell him i can’t (cause i can’t) he tries to instruct me and that doesn’t work so it just gets awkward and we both give up!!! And its just the fact that he’ll ask me to get on top, i KNOW my baby get tired of WORKIN’ IT RIGHT (lol) and i feel like i owe it to him! The real problem is that i can ride, just not him!!! He’s big!!! He has a big d*ck, he’s like 6’2, and wears like a 3X!!! He is big and its hard to find a comfortable way to ride him!!! He’s so wide lol. I want to ride him for his birthday coming up, show him who’s boss, but i need help!!!! Any advice?