At one time or another everyone *well I don’t know about everyone* has had a physical relationship with someone they considered a friend. You know friends with benefits. You got that itch you need scratch and you call good ol Bob over to occupy your vagina for a few hours then go home. No emotions, no cuddling and no talking just two friends f*cking and calling it a night. Yea it always seems that simple until the second you get comfortable in whatever you consider that situation to be, and some shit happens that changes the whole dynamic. Now your no strings attached relationship all of a sudden has some very visible strings. So are you just hiding your strings in a or do they develop once the sex happens?
I don’t do casual sex. Sure I’ve had “friends” back in the day, but I quickly learned that when you get in a situation like that someone will get hurt. Sure it’s nice to know you can call someone to bruk your back, but we all know that sex complicates friendships. The things people fail to realize in a just sex friendship is that someone in that friendship has thought about f*cking you. It could be him, it could be you or you both considered the possibility. If there wasn’t any kind of chemistry whatsoever, you wouldn’t discuss being f*ck friends right? I had a friend a few years ago that I had that kind of situation with and I wish I didn’t. Since we were both single we decided to be friendssssssss, with the understanding that it’s just sex. Like I told you guys before; back in the day I could have emotionless sex with no problem, but he was a different story. I blindly went into this and didn’t realize the more we had sex, the more closer he was getting to me. He started treating it more like a relationship than a convenient situation. The thing that brought us to that point was actually starting to break our friendship up.
After about 2 months I met someone that I was interested in and started dating. Now, when I started dating the new guy I told my special friend that we should chill on the cuttin for a minute. I didn’t want to potentially go into something new and have someone else on the side. Per our initial agreement, this was not suppose to be a problem. Um yea so obviously it became a problem. His gripe was how could I overlook him for someone else. The fact is I went into it as a friends with benefits shit. I cut all emotional connections off because this was just for a moment. This was my friend and we decided that we weren’t trying to get into anything complicated. He developed feelings *or always had them* along the way. Now that I met someone and didn’t fall head over heels for him was now becoming a problem. Due to our mis-communication or whatever that was our friendship couldn’t survive. He was now googoo gaga over me and I was googoo over someone else. He revealed his strings when the shit started getting real.
I’m not knocking those who are currently in this arrangement, but you do need to be very careful if you’re not planning on feelings popping up. Sex is an emotional thing for women and some men. Once you give your cooch to someone, you basically think he’s yours and vice versa. Sometimes sex is just sex; but if you know you’re attached to that person and you think sleeping with them on a friendsssss basis is gonna change your relationship for the better don’t be mad if you’re wrong. It could either work out to your benefit or could end horribly wrong. In essence these “simple” relationships aren’t so simple after all. Who knows; you both can be sexing and realize that you two were soulmates or realize that the hidden feelings you have for him isn’t reciprocated and the friendship isn’t the same. Now you got no dick or no friend. That shit ain’t worth it to me.
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