Have you ever been in a relationship that clearly wasn’t working? So to make things easier, one person decides to end it first or it was a mutual decision. So now you’re moving on with your life, but for some reason your ex hasn’t quite moved on yet. The next thing you know, their calling you, stopping by unexpectedly; just basically trying to get back together. Once you’ve realized their intentions, you try to your hardest to let them know that your not interested in going there again, but their dumb ass just.
I have the oddest story involving this situation. About 8 years ago I met a man that seemed pretty cool. He was about 10 years older than I at the time. We got along really well, but he started getting very clingy. He fell for me rather quickly, and the next thing I know he started planning our “future” together. That shit should have been a clue, but I was in college and dude was taking care of me so I didn’t trip. *Don’t judge me, I was broke as shit, lol* Well at my young age I thought ol boy was a few nuggets short of a 10 piece, but I continued the weird ass relationship with him. Winter break came around, so I went back to the V.I on vacation. Dude called me everyday telling me how much he missed me and loved me. One night he called me and said that he wanted to end the relationship. I wasn’t at all upset at this, because like I said dude seemed too clingy. But because the shit was so sudden I wanted to know why he wanted to end it. Just to let you know a few weeks prior to the break-up he got fired from his job as a manager at a restaurant and was having issues making ends meet. He told me the reason he wanted to break up was because he was still in love with his ex, and he wanted to work things out with her. I was very cool with it, because he seemed kind of crazy. So there was no love loss.
I got back to GA and a week later I received a call from him wanting to see me. After I laughed in his ear I simply said “Hell fucking naw” then hung up. I was upset I just didn’t understand why he needed to see me. So, he called me repeatedly and I decided to actually hear what he has to say. He said his ex girlfriend promised to take care of him because he was unemployed, but she told him he needed to end it with me first and she would financially support him. I laughed when he told me this bullshit, then I said that he basically became a hoe for a bitch working at a grocery store. Really, how much money could she possibly have to take care of him? The next day my roommate at the time came knocking on my door telling me he was riding in front of our building. He called me again, asking why was I treating him the way I was, and why did I break up with him. OK, THIS DUDE ACTUALLY ASKED ME WHY I ENDED IT WITH HIM? That was the straw that broke the camel’s back. I cut all communication with this fool, that was when this fool went bonkers. This grown ass man started stalking me. Showing up to the house when I was home alone, peeking through my windows at night, dude even started calling and hanging up. It got to the point that I actually had to move.
Even though I can laugh about it now, at the time this was a scary situation. This man was determined to make me his boo again, and he just couldn’t get the fact that I didn’t want anything to do with him. I tried to tell him to find someone else, because I didn’t love him the way he “thought” he loved me. I just needed him to find a rebound chick to take the attention off of me. Maybe once he met that other unsuspecting woman, he would realize that he found the love of his life, and left my ass alone.
Holla at me: Have you ever been in a situation where the person you were with couldn’t get over you?
kennedyisfun
Comment made on June 24, 2009 @ 6:42 am
LOL omg he was so extra wit his 30 something ass! This feels like De ja vu b/c my ex (33) is doing the same thing to me, he cheated on me so much so we broke up and now he is chasing me and acting like the shit he did never happen! This post hits so close to home lol I moved, got my # changed and now all he can do now is email me and call my mom's house back in NY lol
VI Chick
Comment made on June 24, 2009 @ 6:46 am
It's funny that people say that younger guys are immature, but those old ass people that you think should know better, don't. I always thought ol boy was a little off but I ignored it. And like you said they act like the shit didn't happen. Crazy ass folks lol
Anonymous
Comment made on June 24, 2009 @ 1:14 pm
Seems like I'm not the only one this has happened to. I had a boyfriend while I was an undergrad and things were okay except he thought that I'd b waiting around for him to finish sow his oats. Well, after enough of his bs I decided to leave his ass. This crazy mofo would call and claim that he'd passes out and ended up in the hospital. After falling for that shit twice and taking him back I said enough. While fast forward SEVEN yrs later after not speaking to him for about four yrs this dude has the nerve to follow my boo from my house? Talk about psycho. He is lucky b/c he could have gotten his ass whopped or worse yet a bullet in his ass. My guy is a cop and don't take no shit.
If I ever c him I might just run his ass over for messing up shit with the best dick I ever had.
Love ur posts by the way.