People tend to make situations harder than they need to be. It’s a part of life to fall in and out of love. Sometimes relationships have a shelf life that just can’t be ignored. No matter how you feel or how much you care for someone, if it wasn’t meant to work at that time it wasn’t meant to work. The issue that many face is when a relationship ends without any indication…with so many unanswered questions. When someone just walks out of your life and you have no idea why or even what went wrong. This is when you’re left confused because the other person didn’t have the courage or even the balls to tell you why it’s over. Your more upset about the way they did it rather than why they decided to end it. You require closure. You need to finally put a nail in the coffin and move on, but if there is no closure you’re always left wondering…WHY?

Ya’ll know I got a story for everything. Well I was once in this situation. I was in a relationship with someone and when it ended it was hard to move on because there was no indication of why it ended. The thing was I was the person that ended it and I failed to tell him exactly why I needed to get out of the relationship. This happened 7 years ago and I was involved with a long-time friend. We decided to take our friendship into a relationship which seemed like the right thing to do. We were always attracted to one another and attempted to date a few years prior but it didn’t happen. We decided to remain friends and now we were at a point that trying the whole relationship thing was something that could be worth wild. The only issue was I recently got out of a 3 year relationship with someone I was madly in love with and wasn’t completely over him. When I say recently I mean like a month before we decided to get into a relationship. Now he knew that I was recently single and I told him that getting back into another relationship wasn’t something that I really wanted to do. He wore me down and in all honesty I wanted to find a way to get over my ex. I never wanted to make my friend the rebound guy, but that’s what ended up happening. For the first 2 months of our relationship everything was great. We were inseparable. We spent all our free time together. He even hinted around about us moving in together…then it happened.

My ex *who I still had feelings for* contacted me. At first I was reluctant to speak to him, but the more he tried the more I entertained conversing with him. We had one conversation and then it turned into two. It got to the point were we were speaking on a daily basis. I missed him and by his words he felt the same way. The holidays came around and I was going out-of-town to visit my family. My boyfriend wanted me to stay so we could spend our first Christmas together, but in all honesty I wanted to go back home to see the ex. Well let’s just say the ex and I worked things out during the break and he even convinced me to dump my current man. The issue was I had strong feelings for my bew, but my love for my ex was even stronger. I was in love with another man, even though I know it wasn’t right *shout out to Jasmine Sullivan*. I had to make a choice. End it with my new man who was great to me and kick my cheating ex out of my life or get rid of Mr. Wonderful and fuck with Mr. Sometime. I know clearly it should have been an easy decision but when you’re in love the shit that seems so easy isn’t always that way. I came back to Georgia and ended it with my man. I did it in a text, which was fucked up but honestly I never told him why I did it. I never explained why I ended it, I just did. He tried to talk to me about it, but I felt guilty and stupid all in the same breath. I ended it with a good man for a man I no longer trusted. He continued contacting me about it but I just didn’t want to face him and my fuck up. I didn’t allow him to have closure, because I didn’t have closure with the ex. It was a cycle that I was passing along to someone who didn’t deserve it. So what I did was end it once and for all with my ex and came clean and apologized to Mr. Wonderful about why I did what I did. Truth be told as I told him in the beginning I wasn’t ready for another relationship. It was my fault that I entered into something I know I couldn’t put a 100%. He was hurt, but I noticed that all he needed was a “Why” in order to close that chapter. 

Telling the truth can be hard, but it’s necessary. Never deny someone of their right to know, that may be the only way they can move on from the situation. There will always be questions and if you’re not man/woman enough to address the issue then you don’t need to involve yourself in these types of relationships. It’s not fair to you or them to just leave things open-ended. It’s not only selfish but cowardly. I gave him closure he deserved and I got the closure I deserved. I regretted my decision and I paid for it in the long run. Mr. Wonderful eventually married someone else. Hell even Mr. Sometime got married. I’m closed off from both relationships, but I sometimes wonder what would have happened if Mr. Wonderful was actually the Mr. Right.

Question: Have you ever been in a relationship that ended, but never got closure from it? 

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Pure Fiction

He pinned me up against the wall. His hand around my neck and his lips coming closer to mine. He kissed me with a force that I’ve never felt before. His tongue enters and he moans. As one hand applies pressure to my neck the other hand is around my waist. I can feel my legs getting weak at this exchange. I try to fight him off, but he resists. I don’t want him to stop. He kisses me harder and I swear everything in my being melted. He knew I loved it rough and I know he loved to be rough. He removed his hands from my neck and pinned my hands against the wall. Damn I wanted to fuck him, but didn’t think it was appropriate. It was the 2nd time we’ve actually been around one another. I pushed him away. As we both tried to catch our breaths we just stood there staring at each other with this dangerous lust in our eyes. We wanted each other right then, but we didn’t want to take it there too soon.

Before I could even process a complete thought he came to me again. This time he took me in his arms and carried me up the stairs. I couldn’t keep my eyes off of him and vice versa. I don’t know what it was about the way we looked at each other. It was like our eyes spoke without words. I laid me on the bed and he removed my clothes. He slid my panties off and threw them across the room. I removed his t-shirt and he took off his sweats and his boxer briefs. He was now at full attention. His dick had this special curve that probably made a bitch get hooked. He came down and kissed me as I moaned. He worked his way down and got to my thighs. He placed his lips on each thigh and kissed them with such tenderness. He then put his lips on my other lips and planted a kiss there also. He dove into my pussy. His tongue caressing my clit as he took it in and out of my opening. I tried not to moan, but that shit felt to good to quiet. He continued to spread my legs further apart to get better access to my good pussy. He sucked, nibbled and licked it as though it provided him with nourishment.This sexual sensation seemed like it lasted forever, but it was probably only 10 mins. I came multiple times just from his tongue  He put his index and middle fingers in my pussy to collect my juices. He came back up to me and put the fingers in my mouth. I tasted what he tasted and it was good. We both began to lick the remanence off the fingers. By this time I was READY and needed him in more ways than one, but first I wanted to return the favor. I don’t suck just anybody’s dick. I reserve that privilege for those who I call my man, but tonight he was that man.

Our positions were now reversed. He was laying on the bed and I was at the dick. I licked the head just to tease him. I can feel him looking at me. Maybe he was unsure at my ability to suck a mean dick. Maybe he got off on watching. I didn’t know and I didn’t care, I just wanted something big and juicy in my mouth. As I opened my mouth and lowered it on that beautiful curvy dick my mouth started watering. I was hungry for it. Needed to taste it. As my mouth and tongue went rapidly up and down on his dick I pushed it to the back of my throat. When I started to gag I began sucking again and allowed my tongue to caress his now bulging veins. As I continued to suck and deep throat that curve he started whispering my name with every motion. His pleasure turned me on even more I wanted it deeper. I wanted to suck it faster. I wanted to taste him. I sucked his dick like I was in a competition. I was going for the gold and I felt him tighten up. He was about to release my prize and that made my pussy and my mouth water with anticipation. As the moans got louder and the curse words escaped his lips I tasted it. Kept my mouth on it and let all of it enter. He was still releasing and I started swallowing. I wasn’t gonna let that water go to waste. When he was done I kissed the head and removed my lips. He was surprised and turned on that I let it all go down. I was ready for that dick and he couldn’t wait to feel this pussy. I thought “If the head was that good imagine the sex…”

To Be Continued….

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Rolling Out has reported that Chris Kelly of the rap group Kris Kross was found dead in his home. He was only 34 years old. No more information has been released at this time.

I am truly saddened by this news because Kris Kross was and is still one of my favorite groups. They were a major part of my childhood and this news only makes me realize that life can change in an instant. I will keep you informed on the details as they are released.

R.I.P…to the miggidy miggidy Mack

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 I am thoroughly sick of these women releasing their power to these n*ggas and yes I said n*ggas that don’t give a promise of a fuck. They treat em however they want and these chicks get down on their knees and beg these men for love. I blame women for this shit. Men do what you allow them to do and the second you give him everything, he turns around and gives you nothing. You make this man your world and fight him on a daily basis to acknowledge your existence. Then you cry on a daily basis and use these low self-esteem ass tears to gain sympathy. Like if you cry and beg just enough he will treat you better. These men don’t give a damn about your tears or your heart, but you release all the power in your body to make him feel like you truly love him. Chile please.

It’s sad but as women we don’t know just how much power we hold. A man does not need to know your suffering, that you’re hurting as much as you are with the state of the relationship. The second sees how vulnerable and miserable you are the first thought in his mind is “gotcha bitch.” Some men love that kind of control, that they have a woman going bat shit crazy over them even though they ain’t sweating her like that. Perfect example, in college I began a relationship with this man. Now I loved the fuck outta this dude and based on our relationship he loved me too, but he was doing his own thing. I showed all my cards, cried my tears and constantly had “conversations” with him on the state of what was going on. He would feed me the lies and the promises and like a fool I forgave him time and time again because of love. This man knew I wouldn’t leave him because my love was that fucking strong. He had my power and I gave him that shit. Sometimes when you’re in love it’s not only your heart that’s in jeopardy of being broken…it’s also your soul. Every fiber in me hurt from all the bullshit. I told myself that he loved, that’s why he was still with me. He was still with me because I loved him enough to deal with his bullshit. I loved him enough to allow him to shit on my emotions.

I dealt with it for 3 years and after finding out that he cheated on me again and moved this bitch into his house I was done. I ended it without so much of a goodbye and walked out his fucking life. Now, yea I took control over my situation but that doesn’t mean it was easy for me to get over it. The thing is I never showed any sort of fucks when he contacted me weeks later. Behind closed doors I was going thru it girl, I was a mess. Ladies, it’s ok to mourn the death of a relationship, it’s healthy. I always say “Bitch drink a fifth, listen to Mary and wipe yo fucking tears and walk on.” Your human, you gotta get it out but you will get over it. Like my favorite motivational speaker Trent Shelton so eloquently stated ”Leaving won’t compare to the pain of staying.” Staying is what kills you daily, leaving is what builds you back up eventually. As the days, weeks and even months went by I healed. I was getting that power back, that I thought I gave up to this one man who couldn’t appreciate what he had. It’s funny I saw him about a year later and he walked up to me all timid and shit and I said “Oh hey, how are you?” as perky as I wanna be. I forgive him for not knowing any better, and once I forgave him I forgave myself. I didn’t forgive myself for loving the wrong person, the fact that I saw past who he was and loved him was major. I forgive myself for him not loving me the way I thought I wanted him to love me. I know that sounds ass backwards, but basically I forgave myself because I felt like I was begging for love from a man who couldn’t love me correctly. I deserved to be loved by someone without hesitation, without conviction. That was the moment I knew I had my power back.

Ladies, we get involved with these men and before we let them show us what they have to offer we lay all our cards on the table. We show them everything when they hardly reveal anything. We want them to know we trust them so we give them our most precious gift, our love. When you know half of them don’t deserve it. The power is moving on and getting you back in perspective. Once you get your power back you will realize that the shit that you thought was so serious, doesn’t seem as serious as get your power back. Have some kind of chill about yourself and know that you’re better than your circumstance. Every thing is only for a moment. 

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This question has come up time and time again. Is it ok to date a friend’s ex even if your friend didn’t have an issue with it? Some people have said that there should be a “code” among friends that should prevent the other from even going down that road. Then on the other side you have others saying if “the relationship didn’t work out, there is a chemistry between the two and there is no love lost with your friend and her ex… so why  not?”  Something like this can break up a pleasant friendship, but I think every situation is different. Here are a few instances where I think dating an ex of a friend might not be such a bad thing.

1. If the friend suggests it~ There are some instances where your friend think it’s a good idea. Some people fail to understand that all breakups aren’t always bad breakups. Some people just don’t make good couples. It could be difference in personalities or lack thereof. Your friend might feel like she has the perfect person for you…who just happens to be someone she dated. If you’re willing to explore the possibilities of what could be and she has no issues with it, do the damn thing.

2.  Approaching the friend first~ In  my opinion I think the friend should know before anything pops off. Let’s say your out one night and you see “Tyrone”, you always thought he was cute but he was your homegirl’s man in 2002. You strike up a conversation and you find out “Tyrone” is a pretty cool guy. He gives you his number to call him sometime. Before you make that call I would suggest bringing it up to your homegirl. Although they broke up way back when, that’s still someone she was involved with and has the right to know. She will either say “Girl do your thing, that was so long ago.” or she might say “No I don’t like that shit.” If she has a problem with it that’s your cue to back off. Now I think that’s hella selfish especially if she’s moved on from a 10 year ago relationship, but some people still harbor hurt, love and disappointment for folks in their pasts. Maybe she’s not completely over their breakup. Just step away and move on.

3. If she’s gone to glory~ Lol I only say that because most women would rather be dead than to see their “friend” or their ex happy. So if she’s been called home he’s fair game.

4. If it was a casual dating situation~ Now if they went out on a few dates in the past and kicked it once or twice I think it’s safe to say the door is open. Maybe he’ll work out for you than he did for her.

Luckily my friends and I never had the same tastes in men to even consider dating the other’s ex. Sometimes relationships don’t work, that’s a fact. If people would be more mature and accept that then a lot of them will be better off. I do think your friend should be privy to the information before hand, that way you can know where they stand. There are some instances where a friend would say she’s cool with it, then when you’re walking around all happy in love she starts to trip. That’s the thing about women, they never mean what the fuck they say. No matter how casual the relationship was in the past some women will have a problem. Now if they were in a full on committed relationship, you might find some issue with her accepting you dating her ex. In that instance I wouldn’t even go there because chances are you’ve heard her bitch and complain about their relationship a thousand times.Too messy to even get yourself caught up. Then there are some women that just can’t let go of archived relationships. If the shit was more than 15 years ago, she needs to chill. This man could be your soul mate and you can’t date him because he dumped her in 1996 and she’s still in her feelings about it. Girl please, if you haven’t learned to move on with your life and focus on other shit then no happiness will ever enter your life.

Holla at me: Have you ever dated a friend’s ex? Would you ever if the opportunity presented itself? 

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Dear V.I. ,

Please help me!! Me and this guy are sex buddies and I’m honestly cool with that like I know what it is when he calls me and vise versa but it’s getting old that he hasn’t caught feelings yet usually I have to beg guys to leave me  alone and this guy is just different… I don’t want anything special like a relationship I don’t even want to be a sideline and spend the night every once in a while I just want him wrapped around my finger…. PLEASEEEEEEE tell me how I can get him to get like that and obviously the sex isn’t gonna be the answer to that because he can have ANY girl I need to know some psychological shit I can do to have him hooked on me please get back to me soon!!

signed,

Want That N*gga Whipped

Dear WTNW,

o_O!!!!??!???!! Are you serious?? Ok you say you don’t want a relationship and you two are content being sex buddies, but you want this man to go ape shit for you and your pussy ain’t working so you want tips?? Chile you can’t be serious?? So you get a rise out of “hooking” men and then dogging them? You seem like you have an issue with your self-esteem because only simple women with low self-esteem try to plot and scheme shit like this…in my opinion. The man is treating you like he should treat you…as just a screw. He’s following the fuck buddy etiquette, yet you seem to have an issue with it. 

Honey let me tell you something. You just mad cause his pussy tolerance is high. Good pussy is just good pussy to him, no need to complicate that shit with “feelings” and whatnot. Playing with people like that won’t work for you forever. You go around trying to “hook” a n*gga and you turn around and hook the wrong one. Folks play with sex so much and they use that shit as a way to control a motherfucker. All pussy that glitters ain’t gold. Stop using your vagina to make you feel wanted by a man. If a man does get hooked on you, it’s not you they want it’s the pussy you give them. I’m all for friends with benefits and shit, but when you trying to do some back-handed shit that’s what I can’t get down with at all. If you’re looking for tricks from me, I’m sorry bew bew I can’t help you. Either chill with the situation you got going on or find one of those weak dudes that usually get sprung and leave this one alone because obviously this situation ain’t something you want.

I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!

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I swear some women just can’t recognize a good man. I just can’t understand with all the good women out here, these men choose the bitches that don’t deserve shit. I stumbled upon the video below on Facebook. It’s a clip from a Divorce Court episode with this couple that has some major issues. No let me take that back, the loser bitch has some issues. She left her husband because “he was too nice”. You read that shit correctly, he was too nice to her and her kids and she found that creepy. He did all the things a good man should do for his woman and this bitch didn’t appreciate nothing.

This is the issue I have with women. Some women just don’t deserve better. She wants someone to treat her like shit so she can feel like she’s in something wonderful? Yet a woman who wants to take care of her man can’t find a good one to save her life. I hate shit like this, bitches like this make men think all women are fucked in the head. They’re selfish and don’t know how to treat anyone. Give real women a bad name. Mayne I dislike this bitch for real. Any way, watch the video for yourself.  Let me know your thoughts.

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BITCHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH QUEEN MOTHER IS IN THE BUILDING! So some young child who was in the front row at Beyonce’s show and captured glory. On Wednesday Beyonce’s tour stopped in Palais Omnisports de Paris-Bercy in Paris, France and she gave every woman and all the gays their lives today. Beyonce performed her song “Grown Woman” and danced for all the kids around the world. Chile, Mother Bey does not know how to put on a sub-par performance. I was LIVINGGGGGGGGGGGGGG as I watched this video. I cannot wait until the official video is released. I love this song and now that I see her perform it I am back to being pissed that I couldn’t get tickets to her Atlanta show.

*Plays tiniest violin I could find* I love ya’ll with my whole heart, so if anyone out in cyber space wants to bless me with a ticket or something I would LOVE you for the rest of my life…or until the concert is over. *sigh* I just want to see Queen Mother of All Things Beautiful in all her glory. Plus I need to see that titty leotard suit in person. Thanks a bunches. Check out my Bey Bey singing and performing the fuck out of this song.

By the by I love Beyonce so yea…STAY MAD!

Fuck Keyshia Cornflakes

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*Snapping Fingers* Welcome to the Diary of A Mad Guest Blogger. This is a segment where we feature readers/bloggers that got thangs to say. I want you to give a special hand to Maya Savanovich. 

When “Fifty shades of grey” book series started to come out, people around the world have caught frenzy and most of the people read the book in one sitting. It was a fascinating book that has made many a woman around the globe feel naughty and crave for lustful and intense sex with their partners. So, here I will present you with a few sex toys that have been inspired by the book, both for her and for him. With these sex toys, you will be able to feel like Anastasia Steele and Christian Gray, enjoying your lust to the fullest.

Thrusting rabbit

While Ana Steele may not have been interested in the vibrators as much as you would think, Christian Grey was very interested in them. This vibrator comes with three unique modes for thrusting, has an additional clitoral stimulator and is guaranteed to provide great pleasure when you are alone in your bed. You might try reading the book and enjoying the company of this little rabbit.

Satin riding crop whip

When Christian Grey gave Anastasia what she described as the ‘ride of her life’, he was using his famous crop whip to put a little extra sting. Women everywhere are crazy about this little toy. You can use this heart-tipped, satin whip to indulge your wildest dreams in your bedroom and get in on some horseplay. It will certainly turn you on if you got turned on when Anastasia was getting whipped.

Cuffs for him or for her

This piece of bondage gear can be used by either him or her. It is made in such a way that it enables people to use it in many ways. Tie your girlfriend to the bed and tease her before you start any action. Or she can tie you and do the same. Also, if you are into such things, you can cuff her ankles and see her beg to be released in sweet sexual rapture. The choice is yours.

Oral sex simulator

One of the things that Anastasia enjoys the most is when Christian gets down and satisfies her orally. His magical tongue makes her feel all kinds of satisfaction and orgasm is never far away. Now, if you want to have this kind of pleasure yourself, whenever you want it, you do not have to search for your own Christian. The oral sex simulator will give you the same experience, no matter where you are. Have orgasms whenever you want them to. This simulator comes with ten tongues that can provide licking pleasure in three speeds. There is also a flicker option for increased pleasure.

All these sex toys can bring you hours of happiness and wild orgasms. If you pair it with reading the book in your bed at night, the pleasure will be even bigger. The book can give you inspiration and you will be able to re-live the moments of Anastasia and Christian and their wildest bedroom adventures.

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Mimi has got to be the dumbest bitch ever to receive dick from a man. *sigh* Sorry I had to get that out, please excuse me. So last night the highly anticipated season premier of Love & Hip-Hop Atl debuted and chill the shit still hitting the fan. Of course there is the drama that we missed, but my simple ass thought that this love triangle with Joseline Hernandez, Stevie J and Mimi Faust was over. I mean Mimi this man disrespected the shit out of you on tv in front of millions. Made you look stupid as fuck, well you actually made yourself look stupid as fuck and we all thought that things were gonna change this season. Man I ain’t never been so wrong in my life. This situation made me think of all the women who get played like an atrac and still stay with this person for whatever reason. No matter how he has disrespected, cheated, lied and flaunted another bitch in your face. You still stay cause your self-esteem is shot and you think you rather have a half of a man than no man at all.

Unfortunately,  Mimi’s story isn’t so uncommon. The difference is her story is being played out for the world to see that’s why she looks dumb as hell. We all know a Mimi. A woman who complains about the same motherfucker for 10 years, but still is surprised by the dumb shit he puts her through. They make up all kinds of lame excuses as to why they stick around; “When we’re good our relationship is wonderful” or “I think he’s close to changing. He will realize that I’m the one that has his back.” The more a woman thinks she can be the driving force behind a man’s change is the bitch I would like to sell magic beans to cause that shit right there is laughable. A man only changes if he desires that change, not the other way around. Mimi has been disrespected over and over by Steebie and Rihanna with a taco and she thought that “moving in” to his house when Jose lives there would set Jose straight. I mean if that ain’t the dumbest shit ever I don’t know what is, this girl just screams “I don’t love myself or my child.” Mimi uses their daughter as a means to her relationship with Stevie J. He does need to maintain the relationship with his child but your “romantic” relationship with this man is what got your mind fucked up.  Using your child to stay close to a man who brings his side hoe in your space every chance he can get then the bitch calls you out your name every chance she gets and he does nothing??? Gurl really?  This is why side hoes will always fucking win cause of weak bitches that stay trying to stake their claim on a man who don’t give not one solid social fuck about her.

I always say every woman’s back can’t tolerate the same amount of lashes. What she obviously can do another woman can’t and won’t ever. I know women that wouldn’t even let the situation get that far, but there are others that look for torture and keep running back to it. I think Iyanla needs to come in and fix these lives cause chile this lil threesome shit these people got going on ain’t healthy. Sometimes you gotta put yourself first. Make sure you do what’s best for your well-being. Mimi doesn’t love herself enough to understand that this shit isn’t natural. I don’t know if the bright lights of reality tv has caused her to put up with all this shit, but 15 years involved with him this bitch use to this kind of behavior. You can’t sell out your integrity for a reality check. Girl get some self-respect about yourself. Ladies, please know better cause until you know better you do better. Don’t degrade yourself  for a man who won’t even piss on you if your weave were on fire.

Holla at me: What did you think of Mimi’s relationship with Stevie J? 

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