It’s 10:00am and you’re finally waking up. Your head is pounding and you can’t remember shit from all the Patron shots you drank the night before. You look over because you realized that you’re not alone. You peek to see the unknown face of the person occupying the other side of the bed. When you finally see their face, your shit automatically turns into the WTF face. Laying next to you is your homeboy, your “brother”, your best friend and his ass is butt naked. You’re not sure if you did anything, but the torn XXL Magnum wrapper says otherwise. You’ve officially  just crossed the line. You got your d*ck supply from someone you considered family. Can you admit to him that what you did was a mistake? Can your friendship ever regain that status it once held?
Let’s face facts here; Sex changes everything. I don’t care who you are, everytime you have sex something happens. You either decide that you won’t do it again or your ass wants that stiffness betwix your thighs one mo’gin. Transitioning from friends to lovers is never an easy thing. Chances are someone out of this relationship always had some sort of feelings for the other. Maybe they’ve kept it to themselves or told you outright, either way sleeping with them casually WILL destroy the relationship. People hold onto whatever little feeling of desire they “think” the other person may have for them.
Perfect example…I know someone that befriended a homely looking girl. Damn homely, the chick had scattered features. It was so bad that when dude described her to me he said “She’s ugly”. *That was foul as hell by the way* Apparently they were actual friends, but this girl was so into him she basically she was there whenever he needed someone. She was trying to be more than a friend, while he was just trying to kick it. Now I don’t know exactly how this part happened but they slept together. He was so pissed that it happened, but he couldn’t take it back. How could he tell his friend that the night that obviously meant something to her was a mistake for him? The next thing you know she started using available sex as a way for him to ”want” her, and being that he’s weak his dumb ass fell for it. The poor dear gave him the coochie wishing that he felt the same way for her, while he continued to smash and started not giving a shit about her. He no longer saw her as a friend, he saw her as a free piece of  p*ssy. It took her a while to realize that she was now being used and she confronted him about it. He simply said, “It was a mistake from jump street, but you kept the p*ssy coming”.
Yo, I hate trifling ass people like that. True enough he knew he made a mistake by sleeping with her, but the fact that he didn’t let her know from the beginning was wrong. I knew something like that would hurt any one’s feelings, but if you value that friendship you would do what you have to do to rectify the situation. Many people use this shit to their advantage and never realizing that they’re hurting the other person. Then you have some people that sleeps with their friends then pretend like it never happened. Not discussing it is also a way to hurt the friendship. I’m not saying that friend can’t transition into lovers. Hell I’ve loved up on a friend or two back in the day, but if you know the feelings aren’t there on your part why lead them on? This is just gonna create more drama and develop an awkward situation if you both share mutual friends. Before you make a stupid decision, stop and decide is it worth it in the long run. You will realize you’re not only messing up a friendship, you’re also messing with someones heart.
Holla at me: Have you ever been in the situation where you slept with a friend? What was the result?
Naughtia
Comment made on January 6, 2010 @ 12:38 pm
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Anonymous
Comment made on January 7, 2010 @ 2:53 pm
i slept with my best frenz brother who i knew for over ten years which made him like an older brother to me…we had sex (mind u he has two kids and hes married) to make a long story short he thought that it was best that we continue having sex because it was real great (to him) but i thought otherwise…i had to cut that situation off. i could no longer have sex with him — i might have reconsidered if it was good but he came within like 10 minutes probably less than that…oh hell no he had to go. when we see each other its not as awkward as i thought it would be but nevertheless were cordial.
VIChick
Comment made on January 7, 2010 @ 3:40 pm
Wow, that's what I'm talking about. You go there with someone close and you're liable to mess up the friendship. I gotta quick question for you…did you bestfriend know about your relationship with the brother? That can sometimes cause a relationship like that to crumble also.
Anonymous
Comment made on January 7, 2010 @ 9:53 pm
i slept with my best frenz brother who i knew for over ten years which made him like an older brother to me…we had sex (mind u he has two kids and hes married) to make a long story short he thought that it was best that we continue having sex because it was real great (to him) but i thought otherwise…i had to cut that situation off. i could no longer have sex with him — i might have reconsidered if it was good but he came within like 10 minutes probably less than that…oh hell no he had to go. when we see each other its not as awkward as i thought it would be but nevertheless were cordial.
VIChick
Comment made on January 7, 2010 @ 10:40 pm
Wow, that's what I'm talking about. You go there with someone close and you're liable to mess up the friendship. I gotta quick question for you…did you bestfriend know about your relationship with the brother? That can sometimes cause a relationship like that to crumble also.
Red Velvet
Comment made on January 9, 2010 @ 9:04 pm
I had a friend I considered a “brother.” I first got to know him after my girl messed around with him, caught feelings but was sort of rejected by him because he was talking to someone else. I beleived her side of the story until I got to know him and realized he's not the asshole she painted him as.
Anyway, one day he came over to kick it with me and my roomie, a mutual friend, until she went to sleep. I was surprised when he made a move on me and tried to stop him. Idk how, but one thing led to another and we had sex even though I wasn't attracted to him.
Next day, he asks me if I ever got tested and since I hadn't, asked if I could go. I did because I knew I should know my status. However, he kept calling me making us having sex SUCH a big deal. He's calling randomly asking how my day went or its random ass texts like “OMG I can't believe we did that. It's so out of character for me.” I'm thinking 'relax dude, it happened let's move on' but he can't.
Idk if he's calling in hopes that something grows from that or if he regrets it… Either way I leaned my lesson, never again
VIChick
Comment made on January 10, 2010 @ 12:37 am
Now that is a clingy summama bitch. Like you said, “it happened let's move on”. Why is he constantly bringing that shit up? I'm thinking that he wants to make it a regular thing, or he's using that as a way to get more involved with you.
He needs to calm the hell down, and enjoy the fact that he got some.
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Comment made on January 21, 2012 @ 6:44 am
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