We’ve all been in the situation where we are with that special someone and it’s going good and you’re about to make it rain. I mean you’re at that peak and you can feel the orgasm from the depths of your soul. It’s almost there…almost there and they let theirs out first, leaving you damp from the slight drizzle you formed. Then they have the nerve to roll over and say to you “Damn that was good. Did you cum”?  This shit is becoming too common in relationships. SELFISHNESS!!! I’m not saying that you have to cum together and the sound of waves are going to hit the shore and develop the thunderous sensation between your legs. Naw I’m not saying that. I’m saying if you happen to get yours first, shouldn’t it be common courtesy to continue so your boo can get their rocks off too?
In my opinion I think it’s a slap in the face when someone does something like this. It’s like they don’t care about any one’s pleasure but their own. So one of my girls had a problem with a guy she was involved with last year. He wasn’t just a selfish lover, he never really put any feelings in it. It was like he was just f*cking because he needed to do it. Whenever they had sex, he would do it like he was in the middle of the Iron Man Triathlon. How she described it, it kind of reminded me of the story of the tortoise and the hare. She liked to take it slow, and he thought being Speedy Gonzales was the way to go. Even though she didn’t win the “race” she was the one without a bead of sweat on her face. He was bucking, huffing and puffing and she’s laying there like “No the hell this n*gga didn’t”. Even though she was mad about it she never said anything because she didn’t want to embarrass him and make him think he was a pre-mature ejaculator… WHICH HE WAS.
I’m sorry but something like that you can only take but for so long. Why would you want to have sex with someone that doesn’t even take YOU into consideration? You’re basically having sex just to please them with any regard to your needs. That is not only bullshit, but it creates tension in the relationship. The next thing you know you’re making up every excuse in the book not to sleep with them. You want to be able to not only tell your lover that you’re not satisfied, but to let them know the things that will get you to that point. Then there are some people that actually don’t know how to think of others. If they were the type to just hit it and quit it, making love and considering others might be foreign to them. The only thing they know about is f*cking. When you’re are in an relationship you not only have sex, but you have intimacy. Some folks are so unfamiliar with it, they don’t know that there is a difference. This is the time you have to show your partner how to actually made love, because they never did it before.
Once people can communicate with each other, things in the bedroom can run a little easier. Just sitting their pouting and shit while your boo is fast asleep isn’t gonna solve anything. They won’t know that you have a problem unless you tell them. We want to think that people should know exactly how we feel, but we all need to learn that we are not surrounded by a bunch of mind readers. If that dick/cooch was wack say that shit. Don’t get punched out or anything, just do it in a way to show your trying to consider their feelings even if they never considered yours.
Holla at me: Have you ever been with someone that always left you hanging?
Missy
Comment made on March 31, 2010 @ 11:20 am
Too funny to I can certain get where you are coming from. See those guys are accustomed woman that are simply jump offs. Alot of the times if they haven’t consider you after two tries, I don’t think they ever will. Girl one time I had one of those, all really loved his vibes, we communicated well but after one shot at it, I was convinced that wasn’t my kind of bedroom action. When I try to tell him, he compared me with other woman stating I am the only one that didn’t seem to be satisfied with him. So after that braggadocious attitude, sex between me and him was null and void.
Missy
Comment made on March 31, 2010 @ 11:22 am
Too funny, I can certain get where you are coming from. See those guys are accustomed to woman that are simply jump offs. Alot of the times if they haven’t consider you after two tries, I don’t think they ever will. Girl one time I had one of those, I really loved his vibes, we communicated well but after one shot at it, I was convinced that wasn’t my kind of bedroom action. When I try to tell him, he compared me with other woman stating I am the only one that didn’t seem to be satisfied with him. So after that braggadocious attitude, sex between me and him was null and void.
GoodasGal
Comment made on March 31, 2010 @ 9:32 pm
If you are in a relationship then you should be able to talk to your s/o about what works for you. You just have to find a way to do it, but it shouldn’t be just you pouting and sulking, a closed mouth doesn’t get fed. Besides what’s the point of a relationship if you can’t communicate with your s/o?
I had an instance w/ someone I was dating for several months where he just wasn’t bringing me to the level that I needed. I tried talking to him and letting him know what I needed. But this dude swore up and down he was the ish and knew what he was doing. We would butt heads because I wanted it my way and he wanted to do it his way…needless to say I had to drop his a$$ cuz I don’t settle for average di@k.
Brother looking out
Comment made on April 3, 2010 @ 9:09 am
You are right, these things happen. When it is good, it is good. I give my partner 2-3 orgasms orally that way she is satisfied. Try more foreplay. It seems that these guys you discuss are not serious guys. He needs to learn to control his orgasm. Once he hits that point of no return, then its all over. To help him to last longer, try changing positions. This will change the feeling he has and help him to last longer.
SweeteestVjayjay
Comment made on April 13, 2010 @ 1:14 am
Brother Looking out is on point!
Steve
Comment made on April 25, 2010 @ 6:59 am
If you are in a relationship then you should be able to talk to your s/o about what works for you. You just have to find a way to do it, but it shouldn’t be just you pouting and sulking, a closed mouth doesn’t get fed. Besides what’s the point of a relationship if you can’t communicate with your s/o?
I had an instance w/ someone I was dating for several months where he just wasn’t bringing me to the level that I needed. I tried talking to him and letting him know what I needed. But this dude swore up and down he was the ish and knew what he was doing. We would butt heads because I wanted it my way and he wanted to do it his way…needless to say I had to drop his a$$ cuz I don’t settle for average di@k.