He's Still Not Over Her

Have you ever met a man that STILL brings his ex up every chance he gets? You’re watching a lovely documentary about the mating rituals of the african black gorilla and his ass says that the gorilla’s smile reminds him of her. Now that might be a way over board scenario, but shit like that can drive any sane woman to drink. Some times you meet people that are stuck in the past. They try to move on, but all they can do is reminisce about what use to be. It is true that time heals all wound but if they ended the relationship in 1998 and it’s 2010 and that man is still talking about her, you need to drop that chicken dinner. There is absolutely no way you can move on with him if this chick is still looming around. Here are you a tips to let you know he’s still not over her.

1. He Still Calls Her~ Now I know ex’s can be friends, but I don’t see why you have to be on the phone talking for hours on a regular basis. Every time they talk he starts bringing up the past. I don’t know about ya’ll, but anyone who constantly brings up the past is either still hurt or still in love. Don’t get it twisted, I’m still cool with a few of my ex’s and yes I do sometimes talk to them on the phone. I just can’t see myself talking to him for hours on end. We can do a quick catch up “How is life” “How are you folks” *K bye”. That’s it!!!

2. Accident Screams Her Name~ Yo, um basically he’s thinking of her while he’s giving you his nutty goodness. I don’t necessarily think your sex is just boring, but maybe her’s was better. lol. This isn’t a good sign though. I’ve actually called a guy another dudes name and I am still alive to tell the tale. I thought he was gonna kill me ya’ll, but my mind was on someone else and I guess when I closed my eyes the passion of him erupted from my lips. SUE ME!

3. Got a Stash of Shit~ So your man goes to work and leaves you in his crib alone. You’re tired of watching Divorce Court so you start strolling around the apartment. Some how an old box that was stashed away in the closet on the top shelf behind a bunch of towels falls in front of you. *Gasp* How did that happen? You open it to find pictures and letters from his ex. You also find a ticket stub to”Why Do Fools Fall in Love” where he took her on the first date. Now at this time you’ve been with this negro for 6 months and he won’t even put your pic up in his Facebook album. SMH

4. Still Call Em Ma and Dad~ I have this thing about ex’s and the parents. I’m not saying you can’t be cordial with your ex’s parents, but when the relationship is over shouldn’t the relationship with the parents come down a bit? He’s still calling her parents Mom and Dad, they still invite him to holiday and special occasions…minus you this is a red flag to me. He hasn’t moved on and clearly they haven’t either.

5. He Compares You to Her~ Any man that tells me I remind him of his ex will automatically get a punch in the face. No one man or woman should ever say that to someone they want to potentially date. It shows he’s not over the ex and that he’s looking for anyone that can possibly measure up to her. I knew this guy that I guess I  left a lasting impression on, because he compared EVERY girl to me. This man and I never in a relationship or anything, but he felt since he couldn’t have me he would look for the generic brand. I thought that was the strangest thing ever, because I never understood what his fascination over me was all about. I think I’m cool and all, but shit. Making comparisons like that can make any woman feel like she ain’t shit in your eyes. She can’t be who she is because you’re looking at who she never was.

It is pretty hard to get over a break-up with someone you once loved, but moving onto someone new isn’t the answer. You have to get over the past hurdle to jump over the present one. No one wants to be reminded everyday that they’re not the person you chose to be with, their the person you just ended up with. Relationships end for a number of reasons, but the thing you have to remember is IT’S OVER. You can’t relive it, you can only accept it. If you haven’t accepted it, please do me a favor and stay single. Why mess with some one’s heart, because you can’t get over the bitch that broke yours?