Have you ever met a man that constantly talked about having kids? He brings up the subject even more than you do. He feels like he might be running out of time so he needs to find someone “right quick” to get her ass knocked up. This man is so dead set on having kids that he might even try to trap you. He hears his biological clock and he will do whatever needs to be done to have his man seed conceived. If you were thinking about actually having kids, you would be so afraid to have them with him.
I once dated a guy that never shut the hell up about having a baby. Don’t get me wrong I love kids and would love to be a mom, but in the middle of our screw date this fool said “Let’s have a baby”. My hard-on instantly subsided in one fail swoop. First off, you can’t just randomly tell someone that when you have their legs in the air. It really freaked me out, because normally I let them put on the condom. I told him to get the hell off of me, because the look in his eyes made my ass worry. I felt uncomfortable. We stopped seeing each other and like 2 years later this man told me something that shook me to my core. He told me he tried to trap me a few times. At that point I have never in my life heard a man try to trap a woman. When he said it I chuckled because the thought of a man trapping a woman seemed backward to me. After I actually let my mind process this I was like “What the f*ck you mean you were trying to trap me”? This man told me a few times when we would have sex he spiked the condom. Then he realized since we were in college, if I got pregnant I would have no choice but to move back home and he wouldn’t see his child. Yo I cussed his ass backwards and forwards.
I always found it unacceptable when women would intentionally get pregnant for a man just to keep him. I realized deep down that was what he was really trying to do. He wanted to keep me close and have his baby at the same time. What kills me though is that men don’t really have a time frame to conceive. Hell old ass geriatric dudes continue to have kids, while a 34 year old woman has to worry about the dangers of conceiving after 35. There is more of urgency with that issue. Constantly telling your partner you want a baby when you know they clearly aren’t ready for one is so selfish to me. I just prefer people to let these things happen naturally. No use plotting and scheming to make it happen because if you do the shit might not turn out the way you want it. Then you’re stuck with this person for the rest of your life and wonder why the hell you did what you did.
GoodasGal
Comment made on April 24, 2010 @ 5:57 am
Damn! Dude was grimey. I do always think in the back of my mind like I hope the condoms good, no holes, put on right etc. I have this 1 friend that is always telling me you should have my baby, you're gonna be my baby mama etc. All that baby talk was enough for me to know his a$$ was not playing around. I will never ever let anything happen between us, because he's definitely the type to trap my a$$.
PA_Worldwide
Comment made on April 24, 2010 @ 3:00 pm
I gotta give it to you VI, this was a good topic. As a man, i didnt have my daughter until i was 31. I will admit I initially thought I couldnt have kids because hey, it hadnt happened up until that point. Sometimes, its not the biological clock, sometimes its seeing other men with children. I used to look at some of my homies with their children and wished that was me. So internally i didnt really have anything going on. It was just smiling at my homies kids and seeing how great a time they seemed to have with their children. I have never thought about trapping a woman, that is just too selfish. Yet, I still want a son but I dont see that happening. Now that i can say is probably a clock ticking in me but as a man i just think its ego and just a natural desire to see my name live on. Cool post VI