*Snapping Fingers* Welcome to the Diary of A Mad Guest Blogger. This is a segment where we feature readers/bloggers that got thangs to say. I want you to give a special hand to Tesha.
Just because you can get him to cum, doesn’t mean that you’re necessarily good in bed.
I remember watching an episode of Sex and the City, where Charlotte was distraught because the man she was sleeping with fell asleep while he was still in flagrante delicto. I also remember having a conversation with a friend of mine about her being scared to sleep with a guy she knew was well experienced because she feared that she wasn’t good enough in bed. I told her well if you are fearful of not being good, more than likely it’s because you aren’t or you lack experience.
Mean, I know but how do you know if you are good in bed honestly?
Can you be sure when he busts? Is it based on if he curls his toes? Is it how he reciprocates?
As if we didn’t have enough to think about during sex….
Luckily for us women, men can’t fake busting a nut, but unfortunately they can fake being into you and the moment. Just because he busts doesn’t mean you gave him that good. It simply means you got him hard enough to climax….and that’s it.
There’s nothing wrong with admitting to yourself that you aren’t at your best sexually, but you have to take it upon yourself to learn where your faults are and how to be a better lover. Some men won’t be bothered with a woman that is too insecure or unreceptive, other men won’t mind helping you get better as long as you are open enough to accept his help.
From talking with some male colleagues, there are some things men do that determines whether or not you are good in bed.
If he:
- Cums quick
- Doesn’t really pay attention to pleasing you
- Looks dejected
- Doesn’t call you back/ avoids calls
- Seems distant/ spacey
More than likely you’re not good in bed and you can forget sleeping with him again.
However, if he:
- Begs to see you again
- Lasts as long as you last
- Goes above and beyond pleasing you
- Is always ready and willing to have sex
- Has multiples (and yes, men can have multiple orgasms too)
- When he cums not only does he make “the face,” he squeals (lol)
Then CONGRATULATIONS you are great in bed!!!
Charlotte, of Sex and the City, decided to take a sex class. By the end of the episode, her man was begging her to stop pleasing him…but not really.
What are some ways you can tell you are good in bed?
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a man
Comment made on April 16, 2011 @ 1:46 pm
you need one of these for the men. how do we know we are good.
V.I.
Comment made on April 16, 2011 @ 2:45 pm
That's a good idea…I'll work on it
Tata
Comment made on April 22, 2011 @ 9:43 am
I have to disagree with the point '…..if you're good in bed he will go above and beyond to please you.' Some men are just selfish lovers who are only concerned with getting their rocks off plain and simple…..regardless of how much they dig ur skills in the bedroom.