When people hear that someone has cheated in a relationship they always assume it’s the guys’ fault. We all know that some men aren’t worth a damn, but there are a lot of women out here that don’t give a shit. Studies have actually shown that because women are more emotional creatures they have a tendency to cheat more than men. It doesn’t always start as a physical act. There are a lot of women that cheat emotionally and think as long as she’s not actually having sex it doesn’t count. No matter how you cheat it’s still cheating. Fellas, what do you do when you’ve been faithful and you find out your woman has cheated? Do you stay and try to make it work or do you kick her to the curb and deal with your broken heart?
I’ve admitted I’ve cheated in a past relationship, and I swear if I knew what I know now I would have never done it. It started out as an emotional thing and lead to something else. I regret doing that because truthfully it was a waste of time, but more importantly I truly hurt someone I cared about. Where I’m from we always say ” A man can give card, but he can’t take it”. This basically means a man can cheat, but the second he’s cheated on the world has stopped because his feelings and ego is battered and bruised. The fact is women cheat the majority of the time because there is intimacy lacking in their relationship. He isn’t the total package so she finds solace in someone that gives her the attention she’s craving. It’s much harder to deal with a woman that has cheated based on emotions because of the feelings she may have developed for the other person. How can you stay with someone that loves someone else?
What about the men that have been faithful to their women and still get cheated on? How can he cope with the hurt? Most men that have been cheated on can’t stay in a relationship where there is no trust, unlike women. Some women can get cheated on 5 ways from Sunday and still stick it out even though they don’t trust him any longer. Just the thought of another man with his woman is enough to make a man flip. Now you’re sending a bruised man into the world where it will be so difficult for a good woman to come into his life. You’re actions always dictate what will happen in the lives of others.
In my opinion I don’t think men really get over being cheated on. Women can eventually deal with it, but I think it’s more about the ego when it comes to men. If you’ve been cheated on you often ask yourself “what did I do wrong”? Sometimes there is a valid answer and sometimes there isn’t. There are people out here that just make selfish decisions and don’t realize it until they’ve gotten caught. A man can cheat and a woman knows right away. A woman can cheat and you never know it for years, unless she lets you know. Fellas, going out and hurting other women because one chick hurt you does not solve the issue. Men have a tendency of never dealing with their feelings. They let things fester and eventually it damages them emotionally.
If you ever find yourself in an instance where you’ve found your partner has been unfaithful please don’t take it out on the next woman you meet. It’s not fair to her because you haven’t gotten over the infidelity. Allow yourself to heal and realize that not all women are out to break your heart. In love and relationships we do so much gambling because we really don’t know how it will turn out. All we can do is pray for the best and deal with the worst. If you know you’re unable to deal with the worse it might be time to exit from the situation. Being in a relationship with someone that has broken your trust is a hard pill to swallow, you can either deal with it or move on. Dealing and staying with it shows forgiveness, leaving and moving on knowing that the person wasn’t right for you shows maturity and acceptance. We can’t dictate how someone loves us, but we can dictate how we allow them to treat us.
Holla at me: Fellas, have you ever been cheated on? If so how did you deal with it?