When people hear that someone has cheated in a relationship they always assume it’s the guys’ fault. We all know that some men aren’t worth a damn, but there are a lot of women out here that don’t give a shit. Studies have actually shown that because women are more emotional creatures they have a tendency to cheat more than men. It doesn’t always start as a physical act. There are a lot of women that cheat emotionally and think as long as she’s not actually having sex it doesn’t count. No matter how you cheat it’s still cheating. Fellas, what do you do when you’ve been faithful and you find out your woman has cheated? Do you stay and try to make it work or do you kick her to the curb and deal with your broken heart?
I’ve admitted I’ve cheated in a past relationship, and I swear if I knew what I know now I would have never done it. It started out as an emotional thing and lead to something else. I regret doing that because truthfully it was a waste of time, but more importantly I truly hurt someone I cared about. Where I’m from we always say ” A man can give card, but he can’t take it”. This basically means a man can cheat, but the second he’s cheated on the world has stopped because his feelings and ego is battered and bruised. The fact is women cheat the majority of the time because there is intimacy lacking in their relationship. He isn’t the total package so she finds solace in someone that gives her the attention she’s craving. It’s much harder to deal with a woman that has cheated based on emotions because of the feelings she may have developed for the other person. How can you stay with someone that loves someone else?
What about the men that have been faithful to their women and still get cheated on? How can he cope with the hurt? Most men that have been cheated on can’t stay in a relationship where there is no trust, unlike women. Some women can get cheated on 5 ways from Sunday and still stick it out even though they don’t trust him any longer. Just the thought of another man with his woman is enough to make a man flip. Now you’re sending a bruised man into the world where it will be so difficult for a good woman to come into his life. You’re actions always dictate what will happen in the lives of others.
In my opinion I don’t think men really get over being cheated on. Women can eventually deal with it, but I think it’s more about the ego when it comes to men. If you’ve been cheated on you often ask yourself “what did I do wrong”? Sometimes there is a valid answer and sometimes there isn’t. There are people out here that just make selfish decisions and don’t realize it until they’ve gotten caught. A man can cheat and a woman knows right away. A woman can cheat and you never know it for years, unless she lets you know. Fellas, going out and hurting other women because one chick hurt you does not solve the issue. Men have a tendency of never dealing with their feelings. They let things fester and eventually it damages them emotionally.
If you ever find yourself in an instance where you’ve found your partner has been unfaithful please don’t take it out on the next woman you meet. It’s not fair to her because you haven’t gotten over the infidelity. Allow yourself to heal and realize that not all women are out to break your heart. In love and relationships we do so much gambling because we really don’t know how it will turn out. All we can do is pray for the best and deal with the worst. If you know you’re unable to deal with the worse it might be time to exit from the situation. Being in a relationship with someone that has broken your trust is a hard pill to swallow, you can either deal with it or move on. Dealing and staying with it shows forgiveness, leaving and moving on knowing that the person wasn’t right for you shows maturity and acceptance. We can’t dictate how someone loves us, but we can dictate how we allow them to treat us.
Holla at me: Fellas, have you ever been cheated on? If so how did you deal with it?
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Diggame
Comment made on February 16, 2011 @ 11:31 am
Damn this is a good ass question…
It all depends on the situation and how the infidelity went down. Its all circumstancial you would have to give me a scenario
PA_Worldwide
Comment made on February 16, 2011 @ 11:41 pm
I have been through and quiet as it is kept, most guys have gone through it, knowingly and unknowingly. I had trust issues in the beginning after finding out. It wasnt until some time and space went by where I was able to function or be around her. In the back of my mind, it was always there. Personally, I didnt want her trying to make it up to me. I didnt want her false expressions of affection. I just needed her to keep her distance for a while. Afterwards, I was able to forgive and move on. It took some time and she had to deal with me throwing shade from time to time because it took awhile for me to just not think about it. The jacked up part about it was the fact that I was going to school at night after working 10-11 hour days. She complained about spending time when I was trying to make something happen with school. We eventually went our separate ways. She says she regrets it to this day but I just yawn at it. Im just glad I didnt use that situation as a excuse to not be faithful in relationships for the future.
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Comment made on February 20, 2011 @ 1:28 pm
I just stayed quiet till to everyone but her until I had enough and left.
Missy
Comment made on February 28, 2011 @ 9:24 pm
Wow…men actually feel! J/k. See we women don’t see or hear what men are saying so some women seek other men to provide what their relationship is lacking. It’s sad but the reality is, if a woman speaks about her concerns in a relationship and some things does not change, we tend to feel you don’t love us enough, so what we do? Find someone else who will tell us all we want to hear based on all we told them about you (the things you don’t do that we like). However, fortunately, all women are not the same, which is a great thing.
Seth
Comment made on June 22, 2012 @ 9:05 pm
Ive been cheated on by every girl Ive ever been with, notice i say girl… with the ones i didnt realy cara bout it was just an upset feeling, with the few i was in love with.. i was desciated sometimes i couldent even eat or sleep at all, those pains never went away an d in a sense i never delt with those pains i just moved on. Im not the cheat type, and yeah i know every guy says that but i dont claim 2 be what i am not, but for me the ones i cared about destroyed me in ways i don’t know how 2 describe, i wanted 2 not go on,fade away, stop breathing, even die. Hell i tryed 2 off my self more than a few times, thank god i didnt have a gun. but thats how cheating is for me. FYI about my grammar i was unaware i couldent go back and spell check so i wont fixing typos, dont know why some one made this website uneditable….
eric
Comment made on September 21, 2012 @ 2:50 am
hi my girl friend that is now my wife cheated on me because of money i’m a immegrant living in america so i came to america for a better life come to no it i find my self in of a long lasting relationship ever since i was in high school i move out of state at that time she was in school i was in school stuff was Going well so i deside to move back to new york my girlfriend witch is my socal wife now inspired me to move back to nyc to live with her on or mother at first i Did not think it would be a good idea at first any i still went to live with her ofter even thing times was getting hard for me living there with her mom plus being married at the same time she my socal wife deside she is not Going to take it any more go and craigslist to date new guys to get money just because i cant find a job now you see that ….i check her phone one day on thats the day i find out she was cheating on me….
eric
Comment made on September 21, 2012 @ 2:52 am
hi my girl friend that is now my wife cheated on me because of money i’m a immegrant living in america so i came to america for a better life come to no it i find my self in of a long lasting relationship ever since i was in high school i move out of state at that time she was in school i was in school stuff was Going well so i deside to move back to new york my girlfriend witch is my socal wife now inspired me to move back to nyc to live with her on or mother at first i Did not think it would be a good idea at first any i still went to live with her ofter even thing times was getting hard for me living there with her mom plus being married at the same time she my socal wife deside she is not Going to take it any more go and craigslist to date new guys to get money just because i cant find a job now you see that ….i check her phone one day on thats the day i find out she was cheating on me….Do i leave her no because i’m trying to get my green card to find a better living its a hard pill to swallow women….
LR
Comment made on October 29, 2012 @ 10:49 pm
Easy. Either, divorce, separate, or kill. Men cannot trust women on average which is why they still see them as property.
Kc
Comment made on December 7, 2012 @ 8:05 pm
It’s been over 6 months since she has cheated. She didn’t just cheat once but multiple times with the same guy for months. She swore she would do everything right cried her eyes out said she would do anything and everything. I wasn’t working for a long time when this happened so this is like u said I blame some of it on myself. She has changed in that she comes home straight after work for the most part. Doesn’t stay out late which is great but I still worry. She acted wonderful for like 2 months but now she’s getting sick of always telling me everything. Any advice?
SHARON
Comment made on March 7, 2013 @ 10:13 pm
GREAT ARTICLE
hag3
Comment made on March 24, 2013 @ 4:45 am
My girl cheated on me. She had sex with someone she knew from high school. He has a daughter and a baby mother already. He’s three years younger than her. She slept with him and today is pregnant with twins. It hurts and it’s disappointing. It’s disappointing because WE never were intimate. She confessed a stance of celibacy. She wanted to wait. I respected that and literally in one damn night, her stance was thrown out the window and what we never did, was done with someone because of the way he physically looked. Taller, fairer skin,…and she submitted to him physically. She cried to me and apologized. I’m not mad at her. I’m more disappointed and I’m trying to figure out how do I get over this. It’s not the first time this has happened to me before. Are we really friends now? What are we? I feel empty…what I thought would be, I guess is not to be.