I’m not going to say women are nosy, but we do go looking for shit to verify that our boo is up to no good. You might go through his cell phone while he sleeps, or try to hack into his email account, even follow his ass at 10:00 pm driving your homegirl’s black Tahoe while 2 cars behind him. **That wasn’t me, I’m just pulling out examples people** Nevertheless, some women just have to know the truth, and 9 times out of 10 when they find out they still continue to fuck with him.
*Standing* I am a former snooper. If I had a feeling in the pit of my stomach my boo was doing something, I investigated. If my snooping tactics came up empty handed, I continued until I found something that broke my heart. Women go searching for shit and when they find something to confirm their suspicions; they do 1 of 2 things. They cuss and carry-on to whoever will listen *mainly your girls* cuss his ass out and call the numbers you find in his celli, or you try to convince yourself that you need more proof and wait to see what else happens. There are some women that actually end the relationship, but majority of the time they still go back to him or continue to get the dick. Either way you’re still attached to him.
Now, if I ever suspect anything I try to let things unfold on it’s own. Some men aren’t the smartest tool in the shed; they tend to be sloppy when it comes to cheating. I guess most of the time they get a sloppy chick, that just wants you to find out that she’s fucking your man. Well, that is another blog for another time.
Holla at me: Has there ever been a time where you just had to snoop around?
Missy
Comment made on April 29, 2009 @ 8:12 am
Girl, I snooped back in the day, but I can honestly tell you VIChick, it aint worth it. I am a believer that everything in the dark,shall be revealed in the light. But you know since I have been with this guy for quite sometime, you should know your man! I haven't heard about a woman with mines, not that he isn't doing anything, but I don't hear nor see nothing. With that being said, you got to learn your man – his patterns and behavior.
But one of the major reasons, I stop snooping, even though I really want to know, I can't "stomach". So I don't go looking for anything I am not ready or capable of handling. Sometimes you get more than you bargain for!
DanniGyrl
Comment made on April 29, 2009 @ 1:31 pm
I have never been one to snoop through my man's phone or emails or sniff his collar to see if there are any hints of perfume. Believe you me, if a man is cheating, he will air his own self out in due time. Men are lazy and forget to cover their tracks. I let them make their own beds…
I found out about my ex-husband cheating my happenstance. Even though we ended the way we did, I still feel like honesty and trust are the two most important components in a relationship. I don't want my man snooping in my phone and invading my space. So I do onto others as I would like to be done on to me.
Women who do this, IMO, seem helpess and have self esteem and control issues. To them I say, get help.