How Much Can You Tolerate?

So last night while  doing my relationship show over on Da Flava Radio, one of the topics that came up dealt with acceptance. The question was asked “If you found out your man fathered a child outside of your relationship, what would you do”? Now I’m sure you guys know I’ve been through this before, so my answer came out like a bolt of lightening. I informed everyone I actually experienced that and left the relationship. Well, one of the listeners in the chat room wrote “There was no way I could have really loved him if I just ended the relationship”. That got me to thinking; why do some women feel like they HAVE to tolerate whatever a man decides to put them through? I’m not gonna say that the statement by the listener surprised me, because they are a lot of women out there that just put up with too much shit. No matter what the man does, sure she will be pissed for a while but eventually he will make her forget for an hour and then the next thing you know he’s back in the picture. Although that isn’t the case with all women, we must realize that everyone’s tolerance level is different. What I can’t take you probably can and vice versa. Getting back to what happened to me; there was no mistake I did love him. I loved him more than I ever loved any man at that time in my life, but doing what he did and lying about it was something I could not tolerate. Some folks thought I was tripping on the fact that he cheated. Hey sometimes shit happens, nobodies perfect but to bring a child in this world and hide it is just f*cking disrespectful to our relationship. Not only is that disrespectful, but you couldn’t respect me enough to wrap it up? That’s the major issue here. Men do what they want to do and don’t realize the consequences that might happen. You’re endangering not only yourself, but your endangering my life in the process. That is something I will NOT put up with. It was my choice to leave because even though I loved him, I felt there was no longer any trust in our relationship. If there is no trust there is really no relationship. I made this choice for me, because I ain’t gonna lie when I found out I felt like catching a case. I had no problem serving time in jail for murder. That was how angry I was, so instead of me rolling up on a n*gga and capping that ass I ended it. So many women put up with so much when in relationships and stay for various reasons. Although they “forgive” they can’t forget and that leads to always thinking he’s gonna do what he did again. Your tolerance level might be high when it comes to bullshit. Maybe your man can have 5 kids with other bitches and you just look the other way. I don’t know what you can take, but I know when it comes to my health, sanity and my womanhood homie don’t play that. So yea I got the hell outta dodge because even though the love for him was there, I loved me more. After all is said and done love doesn’t come in any shape, form,color nor time. Love happens whenever it happens, but one thing love should not do is constantly hurt. I didn’t want to continuously hurt in order to say I’m with him. I was woman enough and grown enough to realize I had to let this one go. Although I loved him I could not tolerate how he “loved me.