I am very overprotective of my heart when it comes to relationships. I am too afraid to open up myself for fear that I might get hurt, when opening up got me hurt in the first place. It’s common knowledge not everyone is the same, and you have to handle each situation differently. Even though I know this bit of knowledge and try to apply it, the outcome still comes out the same. I am too overprotective.
I have many issues when it comes to men. You name it, I’ve got it, but I always say the same thing after each guy. I always want to think that their the one’s with the problem, but in actuality it has to be me. If you keep repeating the same pattern over and over you have to take the blame. Besides, there is no way in hell something can be wrong with every man you meet. I pick the same men, over and over and sometimes never realize that is what I am doing.
Something has to change going forward, but I wonder what it is and how do I go about doing it. I have decided to make some major changes in my life. Hopefully, this change will help me realize my strengths and weaknesses.
Missy
Comment made on March 17, 2009 @ 12:07 am
Again, I am guilty as charged. Girl, for me, I have met men and all of them have proven my saying right, all men are dogs. I know there are good men out there, just like there are great women out here, but I am under impression now that all are either dead, in jail, gay or handicap. I mean, it is a negative way to think and I really try to keep an open mind when I meet new people, especially men, but my antennas stand up when I see or hear something familiar that reflect on a past hurt. Like you said, it can't be every man, we have to put some kind of blame on ourselves. My new lifestyle has been working fine, I now date men for a long time to learn the type of person that they are. Before I would date a man for like 2 weeks and if he wasn'f for me, I would tell him not to call me anymore. No one is perfect, neither am I, so I have started to be more patient. I have also stopped the investigation of everything they do or tell me and let this be and fall into place. I can't lie, it is hard, especially when a man was good at playing you, but my attitude is getting there.
Mrs Meade
Comment made on April 2, 2009 @ 5:20 pm
Missy,
Girl no matter how old you get, how many men you have dated or the psychological degrees you may have acquired. The truth is men and relationships are hard work. Don't going to one expecting it to be easy. Let me give you an example, I dated this guy who was my life. I became passive and stupid when it came to him. Now don't get me wrong he wasn't a cheater or a beater, for the most part he was a good guy, and however he wasn't serious about what he wanted. After we had broken (I finally got sick of his shit) I had this attitude like I was so hard. Even though I dated other guys I was never serious about what I wanted with them. It was like I could catch him cheating and I wouldn't have cared. Then I met my husband and he noticed my problem and he said and I quote "What is the use to have a heart and not use it". The truth was I was sick of always giving and never receiving. But here I am a married woman; you never know what you have until you notice what you don't have. So good luck and open your mind and your heart to new experiences, and know that it not you. Relationships are really hard work.
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