The hardest part of love is knowing when to let go of it. No one wants to feel like a failure in love, but there are times when just loving someone isn’t enough. You have to make that difficult decision “should I stay or should I go”. There are times you may feel deep down that you have to move on, but doing it doesn’t come easy. You easily become torn with what the mind wants and the heart needs. When you finally decide to step out on faith and let it go, getting over that love is always difficult. Sometimes you never really get over it; you just learn to live day by day without it. If you loved someone and decide to let them go, are you really letting them go?
We’ve all had to let go of a relationship at one point or another. Sometimes it just gets too difficult to love someone, and still hold onto a relationship that’s obviously failing. I’ve loved someone enough to know that I needed to let him go. Although my heart was telling me one thing, my mind was where my common sense was held. The relationship just didn’t make any sense. No matter how much you try to work it out and it doesn’t resolve anything at some point you have to put a stop to it, and that’s what I did. This man had my heart, but I knew it was time to let go. At this point there is no easy way of saying “I don’t want you anymore”, but if it needs to be said you have to say it. So I said it. Now, I can be a hard ass from time to time *isn’t it obvious*, but when it comes down to my feelings I can get pretty emotional. I decided to take the emotions out of it and just go with what my heart told me. I kid you not, it seems like every day I thought of him. There was just this little space inside me that was only reserved for him. Sure I dated again and formed other relationships, but he was just someone I couldn’t completely let go. Here I was stuck on the past while stuck on stupid.
How can you let someone go, without having the ability to actually let them go? A lot of times we do what we know is right, but at the end it seems like we’re punishing ourselves for our decisions. Do we purposely punish ourselves because we feel that we’ve made the wrong decision or you loved so strong that you feel like deep down you allowed your brain to make the “wrong” choice? The thing about love is, no answer can be the right answer. In life we do have to do things that we necessarily don’t want to do, but at the end of the day it’s the best decision for you. I’ve had to let go of people not because I wanted to, but because I had to. You can’t be in a happy relationship when someone in the relationship is miserable. You either work on it or get out of it.
The greater question is what if you’re the one that was happy? How can you let go of someone you still love that doesn’t want to be with you? I’ve always held the motto “Why keep someone that doesn’t want to be kept”, but once you feel like your love has been rejected it’s always hard to get pass that feeling. You always wonder “What did I do wrong” or “What could I have done differently”. You beat yourself up because you were forced into letting them go. Many wonder how they can move on and recover from that. Being in love is all about accepting the good and bad that comes with it. As I always say “I rather you let me go to allow the right person to come into my life”. That person may have just done you the biggest favor by letting you go, now do them the biggest favor by letting yourself go.
Holla: Have you ever let go, but couldn’t emotionally let go?