Ok my birthday is coming up next weekend, and I started the reflecting mess again. Here I am almost 30 y.o and nothing. Now, I can easily get depressed about this recurring thought, but I refuse to let it get me in a chock hold this year. I do want to know, where the hell is he? Where is the love of my life?
I stopped believing in fairytales a long time ago. So meeting the perfect man and falling in love at first sight shit doesn’t fly with me. I’ve been in real ass relationships that were not easy, so I know better. I do feel like I have grown from those relationships, and more prepared for my future love. So I will say this again. Where the hell is he hiding? I think the problem that myself and many women face is that we hear our freaking biological clock ticking. So when another year passes we get a little more anxious, because the life we saw for ourselves isn’t happening when we wanted it to happen. Then you fall in the trap of thinking it is possible with every guy that approaches you at the grocery store, the club, even in church. Believe me, been there done that.
I am not going to lie to you guys. The single life can only be fun but for so long. It starts to get more and more depressing as you get older. Don’t get me wrong, the freedom is actually nice at times. You can go and come as you please, also you have the bed to yourself but how long can you come home to an empty home? Again I start this reflecting thing every year around this time, and each year I am becoming more and more ready to settle down. I am almost 30 now so um, yea this shit isn‘t cute anymore.
Tayo
Comment made on March 24, 2009 @ 9:18 am
Umm…. well, the Sex and the City ladies all got theirs in their 30s (40s)… so there's hope?
LOL, I'm not quite 30 yet and I'm starting to wonder the same.
Patience is the name of the game, I guess.
ThatchickNik
Comment made on March 25, 2009 @ 1:45 pm
Hey VI!
I read this post on my phone last night but couldnt post a comment! DANGIT!! but thats exactly what I went through last year when i hit 30 – in 2008 i went the a "panic attack" over emotional, super skeptical, i couldnt relax and enjoy dating without wanting to know "where is this going?" "is he the ONE?" LOL!!! girl it was HORRIBLE. i got through it though. My suggestion: muddle through. however you get through things, whatever way you cope, let it be so. you'll relax once you hit late 30 early 31. i almost gaurantee it. Im okay with it now, although i still have my desires to settle down and get married. i'll be 31 in april and honestly im working on ME now so when he comes, i wont run him off- LOL!!
VI Chick
Comment made on March 25, 2009 @ 1:55 pm
Tayo,
Um sex and the city? Really? lol. It is about patience. When you just rush into stuff in my opinion you get everything you never wanted. So I guess we gotta wait it out.
VI Chick
Comment made on March 25, 2009 @ 1:59 pm
Nik,
Girl I am not as eager as I was a year ago. Last year this guy proposed to me and I said yes without thought. Hell it was around my birthday last year come to think on it. I just knew I wasn't real with it, and I said yes because I was ready for marriage. After 2 weeks of hyperventilating and fright, I ended it. lol
Missy
Comment made on March 25, 2009 @ 5:56 pm
VIChick!
Be patient…I say I'm ready to settle down but to be honest, I enjoy my freedom! You would be settled down when you least expect it. My girl make sure you are ready because you will end up leading something on that your really don't want. But it will happen in due time! Right now, I am finding myself like one of the other writers, so when a suitable one comes, so I can be ready, willing and able. I do know the things that I am looking for in the opposite sex but I have to be more accepting that everyone is different, but still yet interesting and worthwhile.
VI Chick
Comment made on March 25, 2009 @ 6:16 pm
Missy,
At this point I am patient. I just think that since my b-day is coming around again it makes me wonder. I know he is out there, but I guess we're not ready for each other yet. Only time will tell
Missy
Comment made on March 25, 2009 @ 10:49 pm
That is so true..no one knows what the future holds!
Sunshyne
Comment made on April 2, 2009 @ 1:38 pm
I want to find Mr. Right, but I'm still frighetened at the thought. I only have one married friend, but the others have kids and boyfriends at least. I'm not into the whole raising kids thing, but I really don't want to be single for the rest of my life. I don't even feel like I've had any serious relationships. Dating is just too much work!!
VI Chick
Comment made on April 2, 2009 @ 2:13 pm
Sunshyne,
It is a frightening thought, but so is being alone for the rest of your life. I was never raised around healthy realationships so as an adult my shit wasn't healthy. I had to realize every action I made was my choice and hopefully by learning from it, I will find the one for me.
I can't stand dating, but there is this feeling when you first meet someone that you like that makes you all giddy. You just pray his ass doesn't do anything to mess it up.
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