Everybody and their Aunt Flo are on the damn internet. It’s becoming ridiculous if you ask me. You always come across something that has to do with someone from a past relationship. I’ve never broken up with someone over the internet, but I damn sure found out info after the break-up. I found out that an ex of mine was MARRIED via the internet. Even though you’re no longer together, or even cordial to each other, what’s the internet etiquette when you bump into an ex boo?
So I was doing my thang on one of the billion social sites I am a member of, and I came across something that made my heart stop and my panties bunch. This particular social site suggested my most recent ex as a friend that I should add. Now, we have NO mutual friends in common, so I was perplexed as to WHY was this being sent to me. Not to mention I was on the phone with one of my girls talking about him, so when I saw that I started bugging the hell out. My homie asked me if I was gonna add him to my roster of friends, associates, cutt buddies, so on and so forth. I sat and thought about it for a split millisecond and said a huge “Hell naw”. Why should I add someone who I clearly don’t speak to and vice versa? Just because he popped up online I am obligated to add him? No!!!!! If your relationship ended to the point where you don’t even speak what’s the point in adding each other anyway. You’re gonna be nosy, he’s gonna be nosy and your issues in your personal life will spill over to make believe. I don’t care what anyone says; the internet is the land of make believe, where everyone pretends to be someone they’re not.
I don’t add ex’s unless we’re to the point where we are actually friendly. Last year I was seeing a guy and we were friends on every social site we were both members. That was all well and good, but the minute we broke up it became an issue. Our personal life was now played out on the internet. We had arguments and shit on the internet. He would look at my pages to see who I recently added, or what kind of convo was I engaged in with other members. It got to the point where I had to block and delete him out of my internet world. It just wasn’t working anymore. We were no longer talking so; we needed no connection on the internet to each other. After I got rid of him do you know this coward motherfucker found a loop hole and started harassing me through IM.
So my rule when it comes to an old lover: If you’re on bad terms get rid of everything in your internet life that involves him/her. That means instant messages, facebook, twitter, etc…. He doesn’t need to know that you just chilled with @so&so or *What’s On Your Mind* You’re getting ready for a hot date with Sexy Dex. That shit will only cause drama in your life, and why would you want that in the land of make believe? If you’re out of a relationship and you bump into an ex, don’t add him to your shit. You may be over the break-up, but his ass might still have some sort of anger towards you. Let it go! If you guys ever need to talk things over, do it in person or over the phone, the whole damn internet doesn’t need to know your business.
Holla at me: Have you ever had issues with your ex via the internet after a break-up?
