Now I know many of you based on the title of this blog have either been the giver or receiver of this harsh reality. Either way I think it is one of the most dreaded statements anyone in a relationship can say or hear. Basically, when someone says  it’s not you…it’s me; they’re actually saying I think ‘m too good for you and before your ass gets too attached I got to go. Many of my friends male and female always ask me the same question. “What do you think I did wrong”? Absolutely nothing in most cases:
  -Some people can get very clingy; this goes for a lot of women. Once you meet a nice guy you automatically start hyphenating your name or picking future baby names for the kids you want to have with this unsuspecting soul. Just let it flow. There is nothing wrong living day by day. One of two things might happen. 1. You realize this person just isn’t the right one and you can’t stand looking or even talking to him/her another damn minute. 2. You’ve met the person that makes your liver quiver and he feels the same way.
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 -A lot of women and men bring their past baggage to the new relationship. Ladies, he doesn’t need to know the last guy you were with cheated on you by screwing around with your best friend. Live by thee don’t ask don’t tell policy. If that n*gga doesn’t ask, don’t say shit.
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- This goes for both men and women. DON’T ACT SO DAMN DESPERATE. That is a major turn-off. The key to a great relationship is confidence. If you act like “lawd oh lawd I need someone now before I die” (well maybe not that desperate) that’s a red flag. It shows you’re not independent and you might need more than anyone can give you. Show me you’re about your shit, and you know your self worth.
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 - Everything that glitters damn sure ain’t gold. What I mean by that is, just because that guy has the nice car, he’s fresh to death and he finer than hair on a Navajo princess doesn’t make him the better man. Open up your mind and heart to other things. You just might find what your heart needs instead of what your clit wants . So what if he/she isn’t a Lenny Kravitz *rubs nips* or a Halle Berry knock off. I guarantee once you open your mind and give your heart Lenny won’t have shit on your man!
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So ladies and gentleman, the next time someone says it’s not you baby…it’s me. It might just be you.
