Every woman has a FRENEMY!! That’s the homegirl who you’re cool with, but you keep that bitch at arms length. You try not to confide in her because you know deep down that chick wants to see you fail. It’s a jealousy issue.  This chick feels like she has to one up you at every possible moment. The majority of the time you’re in a damn competition with her and don’t even know it. These my lovelies are what you would call Frenemies. Only someone with a keen eye for no good scallywags can differentiate  a friend from a foe.
I’ve known some frenemies in my day, and I treated their asses as such. Back in my college days I met this chick. We were from the same place, knew most of the same people and just got along really well. We became homegirls instantly. Little did I know that young lady disliked me. Well, maybe she didn’t dislike me but she damn sure hated everything I had. One time we were on the bus and these two guys came on also. One of the guys came up to her and started talking to her. As usual she started flirting, batting her eyes and what not. Now I’m not one to stop game, so I just minded my own business. The next thing I know his friend walked up and started talking to me. Now doing a side by side my guy was a f*cking gem compared to her dude. This chick saw my guy looked better and did a complete 360 on ol boy and started dissing him. She immediately got jealous because the one that was more visually appealing was digging me.
I didn’t really view that as a sign, hell I was naive as hell back then. The shit didn’t get sticky until a few months later. This long torso having, big faced heffa did something that made me want to slap the lip gloss off of her scabby lips. This chick knew an ex boyfriend of mine from back home, now I began to notice that she always brought him up in conversation. I assumed that she had a crush on him because he was one of those lady magnets. ***He was an old-fashion He-Hoe*** One day she came running up to me with glee on her face. She told me she met a guy today and he looked just like my ex boyfriend. At first I was like, why the hell is she telling me this? I met the guy and he did favor my ex in a lot of ways. Every time this dude came around she would say “OMG, doesn’t he look so much like your ex”? This chick had to get someone who looked like the ex just to make me feel bad. I’m not gonna front, in the beginning I felt like shit. Then after I got to know him, that dude was a bitch compared to the ex. He was just a damn cry baby. No back bones or balls to his name. That bitch held them shit in her faux Gucci. Our friendship ended with that heffa thinking that she was woman enough to put her hands on me. I would’ve so Hulk Hogan that hoe.
I used that example from my past to show that no matter how cool a person may seem, you never know what they really think about you. That chick didn’t like me because men saw me as a something more than a jump-off, while the same men saw her as the class hoe. She always felt like she had to compete with me, when half the time I didn’t know my ass was in a competition. You can’t stop these people from entering your lives. The only thing you can do is be aware and keep them at a safe distance. If they do something to piss you off, don’t take that shit lightly. I didn’t listen to my inner self with this chick and you see the last time we spoke it was going to be done with violence. The shit got too far and frankly I couldn’t take it anymore. Thank goodness that chick didn’t hit me because instead of this being a blog, this would have probably been a pen pal letter to some soul that doesn’t wanna hear about my struggles on the inside.
Holla at me: Do you have/had a frenemy? If so, what did they do to let you know they were one?
Pooh
Comment made on March 17, 2010 @ 10:28 am
I def think I have a frenemy! Aside from the parts where she cares about me, we get along and have a good time when we kick it, there’s ALWAYS so much hate goin on! Everything is gravy when she’s talkin to a guy, she talks over me and goes on and on about him but as soon as she kicked his bum ass to the curb, conversation about my guy was quickly met with ” that’s great, I’m glad things are workin out well for you”….straight salt! And when we have a difference of opinion she’s quick to shut my shit down like its the dumbest shit you’ve ever heard….just because my response isn’t negative as hell like she is. Same thing goes for my relationship with my best friend..since she doesn’t have one and she’s not mine..she pretends to really like my bestie but she’s salty as hell when I talk about our friendship..she doesn’t want to hear about what she doesn’t have and she always claimin’ to keep shit 100 but a bitch stay throwin up subliminal statuses on facebook…real punk like shit. I’m getting angrier as I write this. Holla back V.I, I gotta go confront a hoe….
Ophelia
Comment made on March 17, 2010 @ 12:25 pm
Oh Hell Yeah! There are millions out there. Some just don’t see it. I dont have a lot of freinds so I can definitely pinpoint two “birds” that always calling to “see how you doin”? They always want to be close to you, always clockin’ to see what they could be doing better.
They have to announce everything they’re doing even if they inhale a lil deeper than you. But lets be real, that’s the way some set their goals. They consider themselves to be doing good; once they are doing better than you. Guess what I just grin and listen, “Yeah oh that’s nice, you’re doing real well, congrats” in actuality IDGAF! That’s because I set high goals for myself, I want to the best me!
V.I.
Comment made on March 17, 2010 @ 1:05 pm
@Pooh yo if that chick is always salty I say the best thing to do is keep her at arms length. I’m not gonna say dismiss her ass, because I really don’t know how you’re friendship is on a regular basis. I have this thing about negative energy. If the bitch is giving it off, kick her ass to the curb. This FB shit is the home of frenemies. I had someone post some subliminal shit towards me and didn’t think I knew she was talking about me. WE ARE NO LONGER FRIENDS!!!!
V.I.
Comment made on March 17, 2010 @ 1:09 pm
@Ophelia I had this conversation with a friend yesterday. Like you said as long as their doing better their good. You can’t let people like this get to you. I don’t have a tolerance for bullshit so I try to stay away from them. All you can do is focus on yourself and f*ck the rest
Lioness
Comment made on April 25, 2011 @ 6:05 am
My socalled "best friend" turned out to be my worst frenemy of all. That bitch has such low self esteem it makes me sick. Worst of all she wasn't even ugly and me feelin' like playin' Captain save a hoe tried to build her up, showered her w/gifts n clothes n showing her kindness like no other hoping she'd see that she's worth something and not useless like her trifling husband always told her she was.Over time I noticed how no matter what I achieved for myself in Life, her joy for me was in limits and somewhere in her little mind she felt she had a slight chance of comparing herself to me, which was amusing as I "made" and tought her everything she is and know, better yet allowed her to copy me in every way possible. Long story short, it became very clear that she only came thru when she needed (or caught ) something and put me on the back burner whenever her STD infested man felt like giving his slave some attention once'n again. The bitch got cut off without second guessing, this time for good. So while I keep it movin' she still sittin' there tryna contact me with BS notes as if she has no clue why the fuck she was left behind like roadkill. My gain of more creative time & less babysitting a dead beat friend and her loss of the best friend she could've ever wished for. HAPPY END & no time to waste…Followers can never be Leaders.
V.I.
Comment made on April 25, 2011 @ 7:29 am
Lmao wow…poor sad trick. Sometimes you have to just leave those rat bitches where they belong..in the gutter
BigGirlLuv
Comment made on August 20, 2011 @ 8:00 am
I had a “frenemy” that i thought was a true friend. Me and her had been close since 2001. We both are plus sized women but our style in clothing and appearance is totally different. We would go out together and I would get more attention from men than her. That soon became a problem. She had got to the point that she didnt wanna go out with me because she said it was “depressing”. She even went on to say that she couldnt understand how i weigh 400 lbs and men approach me more than her. Long story short i cant deal with a bitch with low self esteem POINT BLANK