This has been an issue for years in the black community; brothas pretending to be something they’re not. I don’t have a problem with you choosing how you want to live your life, but why lie about it? You’re not only lying to yourself your lying to the women that you have “relationships” with, and jeopardizing lives in the process. I know its hard being gay, hell its worse being an openly gay black man, but damn dude why the hell you gotta deceive people and shit. My gay-dar isn’t always sharp, but hell I did know at a young age that Tevin Campbell had a little sugar in his apple pie. I’ve came up with signs that your man may be a male booty hole lover.
1. His Gestures~You know a man when you see one. I always found it very RuPaul when a man displays womanly gestures. You know what I mean…a man that has a little sway in his step. Some men do have big hips, but you know a man that’s walking like he’s trying to out walk his girl or something. Or the men that wrists always seem to be hiked up to their chests. My alarm goes off on those dudes.
2.Public Appearances~ If you’re out with your man and he points out how good another dude looks in his slacks, he might be gay. But then again, he could honestly be checking out the slacks and not the junk the next dude is packing.
3. In the Bedroom~ We all try new shit in the bedroom, that’s what keeps the relationship exciting. Under no circumstances should a man ask you to stick anything in his ass. I don’t care what your relationship is with him. I know some people might not think that’s gay because he’s with a woman, but I think it is. Doing that shit to him is not only gay, but he asking you to do it is even gayer. If you’re the one that asks him if you can stick something in there and he says yes at any point, HE IS GAY. I don’t care if he takes a week to think about it, that is the gayest shit I ever heard in all my years of hearing gay shit.
4. You ain’t heard it from him~ If you’re man loves to sit down and tell you all the neighborhood gossip, his sexuality might be in question. He can tell you that Toya done had her 4th abortion, or Pookie creeping with his girl’s auntie. That nigga needs a bitch check. I don’t know about you, but a gossiping man is not only dangerous he’s prone to get his ass shot for talking folks business.
5. No Homo~ I have a really big problem with men that feel they have to prove their sexuality every chance they get. I usually notice men that are overly homophobic are the first ones to swallow a next man’s nut. *My personal opinion* Phrases like No Homo, and That’s The Business, or You Did That are very suspect to me. Please oh please stop it. I may be reading too much into it, but that sounds very other side of the fence. I’m just sayin….
~Bonus~~
Just because Ramon at the job is gay, doesn’t mean he wants to hook up with you. If you constantly insist that he wants your hot body, it might be the other way around. You might be the one checking him out and you’re wishing on a fallen star that he feels the same.
When a man is on the DL it’s a simple case of having your cake and eating it to. You don’t want to be a part of the community, but you want to partake in the festivities. This kind of shit pisses me off. These poor excuses for men are having families and getting married and shit, then leaving their wives at home to hook up with Chauncey. Be confident in who you are, and stop screwing over everyone else in the process. Ladies, I hope I have shed some much needed light on this situation plaguing our community. Everyone be safe, and wrap it up.
