I am not sure how many of you have ever been in a long distance relationship, but that shit is very taxing and expensive as hell. Now that we are in the technological age, many people in long distance relationships have a few more advantages when it comes to communication. I always wondered if the internet made it easier for couples who were doing the long distance thing to remain faithful, but I learned if someone wants to cheat, they cheat.
Few years ago I was involved in a long distance relationship. We had to maintain our romance, through phone, the internet and visits whenever we could. We talked all day on the phone, and we stayed up all night on the internet. Because we were in a long distance romance, we had to do things to actually keep it exciting. We sent sexy pics to each other, sent “I love you” texts, and even created scenarios while on the phone and…well you get the idea. Even though we tried to make it work, in the back of my mind I wondered how long was this going to continue. After a certain amount of time, how long can someone go without being held at nights?
The one thing about people in long distance relationships, you can recognize the signs when something is going wrong very quickly. The fact that you’re rarely face to face your other senses work harder. You may notice that the calls have died down dramatically or his texts are short and to the point. There are so many things that can draw your mind to the possibility that something is going on. If you know you have trust issues, then a long distance romance may not work for you.
On the other hand, long distance relationships can actually make a relationship stronger. Sometimes seeing you’re boo everyday makes the relationship somewhat stale. Absence does make the heart grow very fonder. Just imagine not seeing your boo for a long period of time, then you finally get together. The sex is gonna be explosive, trust.
Tayo
Comment made on April 30, 2009 @ 7:25 am
I've actually been in a couple of LD relationships, kind of in one now… problem is, like you said about minds/eyes wandering and lack of trust issues… I'm hoping for better this go around tho (and that explosive, yes!) Great article.
VI Chick
Comment made on April 30, 2009 @ 4:05 pm
Tayo,
Thanks girl. I have been in 2 and for me it was the hardest thing I had to do. Not only was I always thinking about him doing something I had to watch myself too. I was um kind of a playa back in the day, but I must say I stayed faithful. Good luck girl
VegasSeven
Comment made on April 30, 2009 @ 5:37 pm
I try to avoid long distance relationships at all costs and have done a pretty good job of avoiding them. But sometimes when you meet someone that is just so right or such an incredible rush, you just can't say no! Oppps, lalaland screwing up one's judgement again.
misha
Comment made on May 1, 2009 @ 4:14 am
I was in a long distance relationship for awhile and it is not only expensive to keep up but time consuming and stressing to maintain. Now I have a beautiful baby with my long distant lover which I discovered was trying to get back with his ex the entire time we had been dating and found out after I had decided to move in with him so that we could raise our child together. Now we live like roommates because of the fights, distrust and disgust his behavior has caused. My advice for those who are in long distant relationships would be NOT to waste your time. Get with someone who is only 10-20 minutes away vs 1 hour or more.
Anonymous
Comment made on October 9, 2009 @ 9:27 am
Well, Im in a LD relatioship. My bf is in the military and they deployed him for one year to Kosovo. At the begining it was very hard and stressfull and i felt alone. But now i try to thnk of it as a good thing..this will either make or break us, if we make it through or not. I have never been away from him but thank god for technology..
A LD relationship can work if you keep a positive attitude about it all the time…and have no doubts.