Many people *I can admit that I’ve done this too many times* continuously go through breakups and makeups with the same damn person. It’s like you’ve been apart more times than you’ve actually been happy together. Why do we go through this on again off again cycle? Is it because we’re so use to bullshit that we go through and we stick it out because it with a familiar person? Do we disregard our happiness just because we don’t want to be alone? Is it that we’re so dizzy from the sex that we put up with any stupid shit they bring our way?
So I was in a relationship that made no sense. We loved each other but we never got along. He was what I liked to call “a man with bullshit knowledge”. Nothing he did made sense to me, hell I doubt it made any sense to him. He constantly lied for stupid reasons. It seemed like we were just going through the motions. We always would break-up, discuss our issues, vowed to do better, have sex and make right back up. It was the sex that kept us coming back to each other. True we loved each other, but the sex was the only time we never argued. It was just too good to let go, so I put up with everything else. After a while I realized that my constant arguing with him, the heartache, and the headache just wasn’t worth it. I don’t care how much you care for someone, there is a limit to what you can and cannot take. I was at the limit. We did this for 2 long years and after it was finally over and he was out of my system I was good. Hell I should have ended it a lot sooner I would have been more productive in my life.
Sometimes it’s just not worth the strain in your life. Sure you have love for this person, but if being with them leaves you more unhappy than happy then you have to re-evaluate things. I don’t give a damn, I refuse to allow someone else make me unhappy. I would rather be unhappy by myself than to give a man or anyone else for that matter so much power. Hell, I am too cute for that. People come into our lives for all sorts of reasons, but in all every experience should have thought you a lesson. I’ve learned never to trust a pretty dick and a smile. I’ve also learned that I need to determine my own life and who I allow in it. Some people haven’t grasped the fact that everything is a learning process. If you’ve been in a relationship and you haven’t learned at least one thing from that experience, you’ve officially wasted your time. I don’t know about you, but my life is too short to waste time on anyone.
If you want to continue on the path your on because of the sex, the loneliness or whatever…that’s something you would have to deal with. Remember: You can’t change anyone to be the person you want them to be. You either shut up, stop complaining and deal with it, or you move the hell on. If you have to constantly break-up with the same person and they’re doing the same shit you ended over the first time, it’s time to pack that raggedy duffle bag and get ta going. If you don’t, please don‘t blame anyone but yourself when 10 years in you’re wondering how the hell did you end up in this mess and why you’re to old to get out now.
Missy
Comment made on March 29, 2010 @ 10:30 am
It’s sad but true. We woman have all been through this where we thought the idea that you are getting great dick and a man that claims to do better is better than finding someone new or simply be alone. Many times we know it will get no better, but only worse but we decide to stick it out and find that so many years have passed and nothing was really accomplished but great sex with some picknies following, if any. As soon and you value yourself and realize that you can do better and bad all by yourself, it is easier to let go. I really think most of the time we do this is not only because we love the other party but we are afraid to be alone and/or see that person with someone else. If the drama continues and he is not making any progress, time to leave if you want better. As you get older, hopefully you get wiser.
Missy
Comment made on March 29, 2010 @ 10:33 am
It’s sad but true. We, all woman, have been through this where we thought the idea that we are getting great dick and a man that claims to do better is better than finding someone new or simply being alone. Many times we know it will not get any better, but only worse, but we decide to stick it out and find that so many years have passed and nothing was really accomplished but great sex with some picknies following, if any. As soon as we value ourselves and realize that we can do better and we can do bad all by ourselves, it is easier to let go. I really think most of the time we do this not only because we love the other party but we are afraid to be alone and/or see that person with someone else. If the drama continues and he is not making any progress, time to leave if you want better. As you get older, hopefully you get wiser.
Ophelia
Comment made on March 29, 2010 @ 12:42 pm
I went through a similar situation. I knew I wasn’t happy with the person but I was miserable without them. Let me just say, the sex was magnificent. I had to ask myself, would you rather be suffering with this person who lies, and cheats for the rest of your life. Or would you rather move on, be unhappy for some time, heal and open yourself to new and better things. I chose the latter, I still love them but I know with all my heart that we would still be in the same position we have been for the last three years. Sexual soulmates, only when we were in bed were we truly happy. Outside of that, we tried but could never get on the same page. I am almost, almost over him, but I have learned so much through these past painful months.
VegasSeven
Comment made on April 13, 2010 @ 11:31 pm
"Hell it (his behavior) probably didn't make any sense to him either." <=== LMAO!!!!