*Snapping Fingers* Welcome to the Diary of A Mad Guest Blogger. This is a segment where we feature the blogger that got thangs to say. Please give up for the relationship guru ~The Luvologist
“To be married or not to be married?” That is the question.
A couple of times a few years ago I was “married.” Back in the day I was a car salesman (you can snicker now). I was struggling in the beginning and a friend (a fellow car salesman) had an idea. He told me a lot of people think of car salesmen as crooks and have their own agenda, never thinking of the customer, trying to take the customer for everything they have. So there are trust issues when it comes between the car salesman and the customer. He told me the customer is more likely to trust me if I was married than if I was single. At that point I was confused, so he explained:
Customers feel more at ease with a married person because when theysee the ring they know that this person is a family man who has values.Whereas the perception of a single man is he doesn’t have those same morals or values a married man would.
Hmmmmm…….
So I went to the jewelry store. I spent about a hundred bucks on a simple gold band. I put it on the next day. I had the wedding band on for a couple of weeks. The ring really didn’t make my sales get anybetter but, boy oh boy, my personal life went up a couple of notches.
The next few days I could tell there was some sort of bullseye on me. In the grocery store…at the laundry mat…in the parking lot. It seemed as if women would give me a stare that would say “…talk tome…please.” Now don’t get me wrong. I mean, I’m not a bad looking guy and it helps that I stand almost 6’4″. But these stares were unusual. Iam not the type to approach because of my shyness but at the grocery store I decided “…what the hell.”
Her eyes were fixated on me….and my hand????
*record scratching*
WTF????????
She goes on to tell me that she had been following me around the store and found me attractive. She also noticed I seemed to be shopping for a bachelor rather than someone with a family (geeez…the thingswomen notice). Again she was staring at my hand. I tell her that I was shopping for myself and “my wife” was out of town for a couple of weeks. She has this mock surprised look on her face.
“Wow…it must be kinda lonely for you, with your wife gone and all.” she says
“Yeah,” I say with a sheepish look on my face, “it is.”"Well…here’s my number. If you get too lonely tonight give me a call. I’ll be home all night.”
She walks away…booty jigglin a little bit more than usual…almost unnatural. I need not tell you what happened. Let’s just say she wasmore than willing.
Before you say, okay, that was just one woman, for the next twoweeks I had similar conversations with several women. And each and every time…they were more than willing. The club seemed to be the hotspot though. For the first time ever in my life, a woman bought ME a drink. And each and every time they were fixated on my hand.
*sigh*
I lost my ring.
The Luvologist
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Comment made on May 26, 2009 @ 2:34 pm
So in conclusion, most women are interested in married men. I think its true,in some cases,because ive been on the same page w/ finding married committed men more appealing,(and im only 22years old) not to say i would proceed to get their attention.
No thanks, not my style.
But i can understand it. However the home-wreckers out there who feel that they have to proceed to approach or want to be approach by a married men is not a good look.
What about the opposite?
are married women more appealing to single men? …i wouldnt think so. lol I think men like having a woman w/o her male background drama.
VI Chick
Comment made on May 27, 2009 @ 11:06 am
I guess it's just me, but I never found married men attractive. I guess I hold marriage to a certain degree that I think of the wife. IDK…I have had married men come up to me and I just tell them to say away. A married men rarely leaves his home life for the other woman. I already have issues with unmarried men. Why do I need more complications.