Mimi has got to be the dumbest bitch ever to receive dick from a man. *sigh* Sorry I had to get that out, please excuse me. So last night the highly anticipated season premier of Love & Hip-Hop Atl debuted and chill the shit still hitting the fan. Of course there is the drama that we missed, but my simple ass thought that this love triangle with Joseline Hernandez, Stevie J and Mimi Faust was over. I mean Mimi this man disrespected the shit out of you on tv in front of millions. Made you look stupid as fuck, well you actually made yourself look stupid as fuck and we all thought that things were gonna change this season. Man I ain’t never been so wrong in my life. This situation made me think of all the women who get played like an atrac and still stay with this person for whatever reason. No matter how he has disrespected, cheated, lied and flaunted another bitch in your face. You still stay cause your self-esteem is shot and you think you rather have a half of a man than no man at all.
I realized I have never touched on this topic on my site, but this is one that seriously needs to be talked about. There are a lot of men out here dealing with mommy issues. It’s common for women to have daddy issues, but men seldom discuss the issues they faced with their mothers. Over the weekend I watched the highly anticipated episode of “Iyanlya Fix My Life” with life coach Iyanla Vanzant. Iyanla decided to help DMX get his life together and hopefully “save” him from himself. Now everybody that knows Earl Simmons knew that this wasn’t going to be the easiest shit to do. DMX had a lot of issues like drugs, women, anger, family and hurt. DMX was nothing but a hurt man who basically gave up on himself and it all steamed from the issues he had with his mother. His mother according to him basically treated him like shit. It seemed like she never really gave a damn about him and showed it. When his career was hot he sang a song called “Slippin” which he rapped about his mother and their horrible relationship. That’s when we all found out what he went through as a child. DMX became a product of his household, he just stopped caring because his mother just didn’t. That relationship fucked up every relationship he had especially with the one woman who loved him…his wife. She went through hell with this man and subsequently their children witnessed the same hell. His issues as a child growing up with a woman who didn’t love him destroyed his relationships as an adult.
I need your advice. So I just found out this chick I have been dating for about a month used to be a porn star. Don’t ask how I found out, I’ll let you guess. I’m not talking about someone who did a homemade movie or two…she was a porn star, her name comes up on most porn sites and she is on the cover of a couple of dvds. I’m almost positive that it’s the past but should I bring it up that I know? Should I be mad she never told me? Should I wait for her to tell me? Should I even take her serious and keep dating her? What would you do?
I love me some J. Cole, but this new video is um… scary as shit. J. Cole’s new video “Power Trip” featuring Miguel has hit the innanets and baybay I was not expecting this shit. Ya’ll know I don’t usually post rap videos, but because this video is about this subject I just had to do it.
The video basically deals with stalking, obsession and involves criminal activity. Ya’ll just check it out and let me know your thoughts. Has J. Cole gone overboard with the video or is he just displaying real-life situations. I just hope his fine ass ain’t crazy. Ain’t nothing sexy about a cute crazy ass man.
I’ve always heard the term ‘You gotta fake it, till you make it”. Like there is no way you can get to where your going being who you really are? Nowadays I see that it’s true that no matter how “real” you pretend to be, everyone fakes it. If you haven’t doctored up something in your life to make it more than what it really is, your not to be trusted. We see it all the time; fake friendships, fake career, relationships hell even faking it sexually has all of a sudden become popular. I remember a man once told me, “Even if I’m not satisfying you sexually, just pretend I am so I can feel like I did something”. This is the shit I’m talking about. People accepting what’s fake and taking it for reality. I just don’t understand when did fake become the new real?
I always believe that one should be themselves. Cut all the fake shit and just rock in their reality. I don’t claim to be someone I’m not. I don’t spend money I know my broke ass don’t have to floss for motherfuckers I don’t care about. I don’t keep fake friends in my circle, and trust me if I find their is some fake shit going on I have no problem dropping your ass to the curb. Basically I’m a realist about mine and don’t put on for others. I’m the same way in relationships as well. I’m not perfect or pretend to be. I have my flaws and I make sure I advise your ass of such. If I’m unhappy in a relationship we either discuss and try to work things out or we part ways. I know a lot of people that claim to be in these “wonderful” relationships, but behind close doors they’re miserable and unhappy. Because they don’t want folks to think that they aren’t capable of keeping someone so they fake it. Faking it for the benefit of others.
Maybe I’m doing it wrong. Maybe living in real-life is just played out and I need to be like everyone else and “fake it till everyone believes in it”. The thing about me is I could give a solid portion of a fuck what others think. Shit maybe that’s why I don’t fuck with a lot of people. I feel if I’m giving you the real me, I expect the same thing from them. I refuse put on for folks. Men pretend to be “ballers” to attract the groupies, who pretend to be “real women” to attract the ”ballers”. Bringing out their representative, showing folks who they wanna be and not showing what’s real. I always use the example of a used car salesman. He’s gonna tell you all the wonderful shit about the shiny car and even make shit up so the car can appeal to you. It looks great on the outside, but you don’t know it’s actually messed up under the hood. He’s not gonna discuss how the engine is fucked up, the brakes don’t work and the oil pan has a leak. He’s gonna show all the outside shit you can see and down play all the shit you can’t see with the naked eye. Truth be told if someone exposed what was really under their hood, would you really wanna stick around? So I guess continue faking it, maybe that’s the only reality some people have.
I just love to hear men give their honest opinions about this thing called relationships. So I was put on to this video series “Gentlemen Uncensored”on one of my favorite sites Madamenoire.com. It’s GROWN AZZ men discussing sex, relationships and marriage. You know I am here for it. I always want to know what goes through the male mind when it comes to these topics, and I guess the good people of Madamenoire.com heard my cry.
The panel consists of 6 men with different relationship perspectives. You have Harold “The Youngin”, DJ CEO “Mr. Complicated”, Carlos “The Divorce’ “, Ainsley “The Non-Commiter”, TMor “The Married Man” and Chris Kazi Rolle “The Convo Starter”.
Check out episode 1 of Gentlemen Uncensored: Why Did I Get Married. You can check out moreepisodeson their page over at Madamenoire, theiryoutubechannel and “like” their Facebook page . I’m positive you will get an eye opening experience when you watch the videos.
At one time or another everyone *well I don’t know about everyone* has had a physical relationship with someone they considered a friend. You know friends with benefits. You got that itch you need scratch and you call good ol Bob over to occupy your vagina for a few hours then go home. No emotions, no cuddling and no talking just two friends f*cking and calling it a night. Yea it always seems that simple until the second you get comfortable in whatever you consider that situation to be, and some shit happens that changes the whole dynamic. Now your no strings attached relationship all of a sudden has some very visible strings. So are you just hiding your strings in a or do they develop once the sex happens?
So yesterday we covered the plight of the cheating man. You guys had a lot to say about the interview on the site and off. Today is part 2 of the interviews, and now we have a different scenario This interview was done with a woman who was formally in a cheating relationship with a married man. Yes, I said a married man. This interview works as the first one did…anonymously. I wanted to show a difference in how the “other person” thinks in this type of situation.
What’s your definition of good GREAT sex? Everyone’s answers might be different, but the goal is the same. Great sex is the type of sex that makes you want to put everything in that motherfucker’s name. Lol iKid. The dick so damn good that you would get up at 2 am in the dead of winter and run outside to turn on his car so it can heat up for his ass. Great sex is the type of sex that make you say “fuck them bitches” when your girlfriends call you to go out to the club. Great sex is the type of sex that has your legs wobbling, sweat dripping off your titty and new hair do gone to hell but you still suck his dick as a fucking “thank you” just for being fucking you. When a man knows how to do it just right it can make every sex session feel like damn Thanksgiving.
It’s backkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk! Well not yet, but the wait is almost over. Love and Hip-Hop Atlanta is finally back for Season 2 and the drama is sure to follow. VH-1 and the ring leader of all of things ratchet Mona Scott-Young decided to tease us with this little clip. I hate a damn tease, because all they do is getting you all moist and give you just enough to shut you up. I don’t know what the hell this season has in store but we can be sure our favorite threesome Joseline Hernandez, Stevie J and Mimi Faust won’t disappoint. Ya’ll know I am here for this show. So be sure to be in front of your tv on April 22nd cause the ratchet is coming back to da “A”.
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