Ask V.I.~ I’m Single, But It’s Complicated

arguing couple Hey V.I,

Me and guy has been broken up for several months now, I’ll say about 7months. We were high school sweethearts, we even did the long distance thing when I went off to college. When I say we’ve been through so much together, like seriously. But unfortunately, we had hella issues that just ruined our relationships. Mainly insecurities, infidelity, and psycho exs. Anyway, when we first broke up he’ll randomly contact me with the “I love you, You’re the one I need” all that bulls$&@! during that time I pretty much had a F@$! You mentality towards him. So I wasn’t trying to hear that, and honestly was trying to move on and find someone better. Over the months, I’ve gained closure. I’ve also learned to forgive him for all the drama and vice versa.

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Friends Before Lovers? Should You Be Friends First?

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We all know a couple that have been long time friends and then decided to take their friendship to another level. They’re both single and get along great, so why not see if they can actually date? Many say it’s an easy transition from friends to lovers. A relationship works better if you’ve developed a friendship before becoming intimate. I do agree, but damn what if the relationship doesn’t work out the way you’d hoped. Can you easily go back to being “just friends”?

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You Don’t Have To Be Inspector Gadget To Know He’s Cheating


So last night I’m getting my reality show fix and I see this new show on Bravo called “Blood, Sweat and Heels”. Now I don’t normally watch new black shows because they usually don’t last for a second season. Any way, they brought up an interesting topic and I thought I would lend my two cents to the subject. A few of the women on the show thought that it was “ok” or “normal” to snoop if you suspect your man is cheating. They feel if you’re in a relationship you should have that right to make sure he’s doing what he’s supposed to be doing and keeping the dick in the pants. Listen, if you gotta snoop darling why the hell are you in the relationship?

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Ya’ll Made Me Hate Social Media…Yes Ya’ll

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I HATE THE DAMN INTERNET. Like with every fiber in me ya’ll are slowly driving me away from the World Wide Web. It’s like people see social media as a platform to annoy the entire f*ck out of others. No matter what social media site you’re on, you see some of the dumbest shit and encounter some of the most attention starved individuals. For instance; Facebook has a multitude of dumb shit that ends up on your newsfeed on a daily basis. No matter what time of day you’re bound to find someone who does shit to annoy you. I’ll run down the list of the things that make me hate social media in no particular order.

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What Are Your Relationship Resolutions for 2014?

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Another year has come and gone and it’s about time you finally realized you’re doing the same thing over and over when it comes to relationships. You viewed every man you meet as ain’t shit and you spent the majority of 2013 drinking wine complaining to your girlfriends how men out here just can’t do right. Yep you’re the issue girl. The sooner you realize that the better. You continuously allow the same man to get into your head each and every time. Sure they may look different, but you go after the same assholes that don’t know their ass from their elbows. They’re into the thrill of the chase and when they catch you they throw you back like in the ocean like Nemo. It’s all on you. You pick em then surprised that they’re full of it. It’s time you do something different. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. If you constantly go for “what you know” you’re gonna get exactly that. The same ain’t shit situation that leaves you downing glasses of Moscato while you sit at home on Friday nights watching episodes of “Say Yes To The Dress”. It’s a new year, it’s time for a new outlook. What are you willing to change in 2014? What are your relationship resolutions?

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Beyonce Just Sh*t On All Yall. Drops Album Out of Nowhere



The Champ Is Here. The Champ Is Here. Beyonce done shit on all these little R&B hoes that ever thought they would ever do this shit in a legit way. So I was just getting over the devastation that is considered Scandal. Sitting here picking up the pieces of my life and I went back to twitter. So I’m scrolling down my timeline and I see Queen Mother’s name up and down my timeline. So my heart skipped a slight beat when I saw an itunes link. I clicked on the link and my chinkey eyes saw the holy grail. On itunes I see “BEYONCÉ” album cover just a simple black and white. I got instantly geeked. Then I see 32 tracks on this damn playlist. I then realized that Mother has blessed us with a new album containing not only 14 new tracks, but the videos to said tracks. Beyonce has ganked hoes once again. 

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Can You Continue Your Relationship If Your Parent Objects?



We all have that one parent that just feels the need to stick their heads all up in our business. They always have an opinion about the person you’re dating and feel the need to express said feelings at every possible moment. Ok, so mommas will be mommas I guess. Well what about when you’ve met someone who you want to settle down with and your opinionated momma is dead set against your relationship? No matter how deep in love you are your parental unit just can’t see it for you. At what point do you set your momma straight or do you just end your relationship because she ain’t “feeling” him?

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Know When You’re The Beard In The Relationship



So on Sunday the highly anticipated premier of Season 6′s Real Housewives of Atlanta started with a bang. Well not really, it was more like a slow flame. Any who as we all guessed Bravo has chosen to capitalize off of Porsha’s one-sided marriage. Now I’m all about making coins the way you can, but I think it makes her look more stupid than before…if that’s at all possible. We all heard the rumors of Kordell sucking dick down at the park, but now it seems that Porsha and Bravo are trying to allude that Kordell really does love that thang that swangs between a man’s legs. Now I know Kordell is one of the gays, hell even Helen Keller can see that shit and mama been gone to glory for decades but I digress. It seems that Miss Porsha either knew that Kordell devoured nothing but penis, but married him anyway for title or status. Or she had no knowledge that she was his beard. Either way I realized that a lot of women out here have no clue or in denial that they are in fact dating one of the gays and they’re being used.

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Is Being Faithful As Easy As It Seems?



Being faithful isn’t easy. Hell if it was then there would be a lot more happy relationships and a lot less cheating. When someone decides to cheat they have totally disconnected from their committed relationship. Let’s just get this straight. Cheating is not only a physical act. If you stepped outside of your relationship and developed an emotional connection to someone other than your partner that is cheating also. So many people feel like if the dick didn’t present itself then you’re not guilty of stepping outside your relationship. Girl goodbye. The second you became emotionally attached you’ve just cheated on your man/woman. Why does it seem that it’s easier to find someone who has cheated than to find someone who has never cheated in a relationship?

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Teamwork Makes Relationships Successful


There is no “I” in team. Some things can be done on the solo but that don’t mean it’s to be done. I’ve noticed when  a lot of people get into relationships it seems like they’re working against each other rather than with each other. When in a relationship I think team work is essential to make the shit work. How many times have you encountered couples that just argued all the damn time. You constantly think to yourself that these idiots need not be together because they’re just making each other miserable. Then you realize that they need to stay together because no one else should be subjected to their brand of bullshit. When you and your partner can discuss, compromise and implement within your relationship then it  has no choice but to prosper. That makes me wonder if someone can’t work within a team setting should they be hopeful of finding a successful relationship?

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