I’ve noticed that women aren’t alarmed that a lot of the men out here don’t take care of their kids. Is it just me or do ya’ll find this a major major issue? How can you turn your back on helpless babies? You don’t care if they eat, sleep or clothed? I know there are some trifflin ass women that hold the babies as ransom because they’re greedy or feel since you don’t wanna be with them then you don’t need to see your kids. I don’t care how much brothas hate the system, that is what a court is for. I’m talking about the men that don’t give a damn and the idiot women that love them. What makes you think having a baby with you will be any different?
I know they say you can’t help who you fall in love with, but when do you start listening to your brain in this instance? If he doesn’t take care of his responsibilities what makes you think this is someone you can count on in the long run? This has become the norm for brothas. Once they get a chick pregnant they’re out like yesterday’s news. They don’t check for their kids at all, but so quick to brag that they have a seed. I guess they wanna show that their dicks work and they’re not shooting blanks. Once you knock her up you need to be a man about yours. My problem like I said is really the women that know this information and date these men anyway. Shouldn’t you be a little nervous that he doesn’t even take care of his own flesh and blood?
Then there are a lot of women out there that know he’s a deadbeat and decide that their gripe is with the woman. First off what does that have to do with you? Half of the time the woman is going into the relationship hearing a one-sided story. How do you immediately decide “Your Man” must be telling the truth, so you bash her every chance you get? Then there are the one’s that know he’s a deadbeat, have a child with him and say shit like this “I don’t care if he doesn’t take care of his other kids. He takes care of mine”. Isn’t that the most ig’nant shit you ever heard? A parent no matter the gender has a life-long commitment to their children…Period. Why be proud that your man only takes care of your child and ignore the others? Some women feel that it’s something about them that makes the man want to be around them. Sweetheart, if a man can abandon his kids he can do the same thing to yours. Glorifying that bullshit only makes you look stupid as hell.
I won’t get on everyone’s case. There are women who unknowingly date a deadbeat. Once I started dating a guy that told me he didn’t have kids and the next thing I know here comes two sons that magically popped out of the sky. He never claimed or provided for those kids. When I found out he was shocked that I stopped calling him. First off lying about it wasn’t a good look, but not doing right by these kids was the worst thing you could have told me. I don’t respect a man that doesn’t respect his own. It’s showing me you’re putting me and a whole batch of others in front your #1 priorities. I’m sorry the second a parent puts a man/woman in front of their kids is a son of a bitch in my book.
So, yes ladies you should be alarmed if he isn’t a fit parent. Just because he’s smiling up in your face and telling you the things you want to hear will not make him treat you and yours any different. Chances are the sweet nothings he told you, was heard by her as well and what ended up happening? NOTHING!!!!
