It is so beautiful to see love in bloom. You look at each other and there is a twinkle in your eyes. You hold hands while walking down the street. You even spend long hours on the phone talking about anything you can think of. So you’re out somewhere just being your cute selves and he bumps into someone he knows. In your head it’s clear that you’re more than just a chick he’s kicking it with, but it hasn’t been defined. So like I said, he bumps into someone he knows and he introduces you as HIS FRIEND. *Blankness and Despair* Wait hold up!!!!!! Now at this point you don’t want to look like an ass so you just smile and pretend that you’re cool with the title, knowing deep down you wanna punch him in the dick for calling you his “friend”.
This shit can just kill any type of romance between two people. Here you two are acting like love done found ya’ll and the next thing you know he’s telling people oh you’re just his special friend. How embarrassing is that shit? If you’re clearly more than just friends why don’t you just get the role dilemma cleared. I’ve been called the friend before and I didn’t understand why. I was dating this guy for months. At this point we’ve slept together, hell we even felt like we were in love. The problem was we never defined our relationship. We just went ahead and allowed it to flow because it seemed easier. One day while together his phone rang. I guess the person asked him what he was doing and he said “Oh just chilling with my friend”. If ya’ll could have seen the look on my face. I looked like the f*cking exorcist bitch. I think my head spun around and I looked at his ass cross eyed. How in the hell can you call me a friend knowing the type of relationship we had? After he got off of the phone I asked him about it and he said “You know how we are. We don’t have to define it for anyone else”. So basically you’re saying you don’t have a problem f*cking me, calling me baby and shit, but for people to know I’m your woman is too much? SMH and men wonder why women get rid of their asses.
This goes both ways also. A woman introducing a man as just her friend knowing that she’s giving that dick frequent lip service. I just think people need to define their relationships before the other person ends up surprised. If you both decide that you’re not ready for a relationship and the “friend” status is something that you both agree upon then why not? Springing it on someone in front of other’s is a kick in the groin. You know you obviously have feelings for the person, but you don’t want anyone else to know? Yo, how old are you where you’re worried about what other people think? There might be some of you out there embarrassed by your boo, so you don’t want people to know. Obviously, you see something in that person to make you want to be around them, but you think you’re too cool for school so you gotta keep up appearances? GTFOH with that bullshit. If we’re f*cking, dammit we go together. I’m introducing your ass as my man. If you got a problem with it, then you’re f*cking the wrong chick.
Holla at me: Have you ever been with someone and they introduced you as the “friend” when you clearly thought you were more?
BrownEyedPanther
Comment made on January 27, 2010 @ 12:58 am
Uh, no. I don't make assumptions in relationships. I'm not presumptuous to think a man will just get it without me telling him. If I'm being introduced as a friend then we've already agreed on that term and we've more than likely discussed the possibility of a relationship and when and if that will happen.
DeonLaVoy
Comment made on February 15, 2010 @ 5:28 am
My ex would do that all the time. He wouldn't even tell anyone we were together. But when it came down to being intimate I was his boo,bae, and everything else in the book. We were together for 2 years but I just held it in and never said anything. When I would complain he would always say it's not their biz im in a realtionship with you not them. I got tired of that and I've moved on from that ass wipe.
Just
Comment made on January 4, 2012 @ 2:10 pm
Geez-Us!! It’s an epidemic! I just got out of a “relationship” like this. He loves me, I’m beautiful, chicks can’t hold a candle to me, they knew we were ALWAYS together… Yet and still who are these chicks you kicking it with? Why is your ex (which you can’t stand) calling you at all hours? Hmm? But you love ME though?
SO… it took a bit but I’ve moved on. Guess who’s calling and texting now? *High fives*