Ask VI~My Curiosity is Killing My Honey Box

Dear VI,

My and I boyfriend have been together for a year and I’m totally satisfied with our sex life, but I have always been a little curious about what it would be like to be with another woman. I don’t think I would be comfortable with him being involved but my curiosity is growing more and more. Just as a joke I asked him if he wanted to have a threesome with me and another woman, he said he’d been there done that but would never do that with me because he loves me. I would never cheat on him but how do I go about telling him I’m interested in women?

Ready To Be Licked

Dear RTBL, 

You are in a bind, because the longer your curious the worse off you will be. It’s natural to be curious of the “forbidden”. Your issue is what will happen if your man found out you did it behind his back. He obviously isn’t interested in doing that with you, but you won’t be able to get the thought of it out of your head. How do you think your man would react if you told him that YOU wanted to experiment with a woman? Don’t make it about him, let him see that YOU are the one interested in the experience and you want to share it with him.  If he says no then the choice is yours. You’re either gonna end the curiosity to give in to it. Either way you should express to him your desires. If he’s your man and he loves you he won’t dismiss you and what you have to say. Now just because he listens doesn’t mean he’ll agree to it, but at least you put it out there. 

I really hope I’ve helped you in some way. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make the right one that will be in your best interest. Keep me posted.