Gal Where You Been…Again?


I know I keep disappearing and reappearing like I’m Kanye’s  sanity, but I’ve been busy as HELL. I know I haven’t been blogging and there is a reason for that, which I will discuss at a later time. As of right now, I’ve started new ventures that has kept me so busy I forgot I had a blog. No Lie.  One thing I’ve been working hard on is my t-shirt company. “Respect My Melanin”. LISTENNNNNNNNNN now this has been in the making for almost 5 years. I have wanted to start a t-shirt line for so long I just didn’t know where to start. I decided this year that I would do all the things I’ve been putting of, and this is one of them. Respect My Melanin is a company that takes pride in our blackness. The shirts are all designed by yours truly and I worked HARD on this ya’ll. I believe in supporting black owned businesses, so if you feel the same hit up the website. I have new shirts coming soon. I will leave all the info on down below as well.

Another thing I’ve been  working on,  I started a podcast with a few of my friends called “The Dope Clique” show. It’s a podcast of 30 something friends who discuss anything we damn well please. This is something that I’ve wanted to do for a while, and so glad that I have the opportunity to do it with my friends. I’ll leave the link to our website, where you can listen to the show, our social media and I’ll also leave the soundcloud link to our last episode. I hope you like, share, download, comment or whatever you wanna do.

I still have my wig company “Snatched Mane which ya’ll know I make custom units. I’m also taking classes to enter into another career field. I’m just trying new things because honestly, if you’re too afraid to take a chance on yourself how do you expect to live to your full potential? I am jumping into my destiny this year. Thank you guys for your patience.


Respect My Melanin



IG: shop_respect_melanin


The Dope Clique


Twitter/FB/IG: @dopecliqueshow

You can check us out on SoundCloud, iTunes, Sticher and Google Play.

Surprise…I’m Back: Update On Where I’ve Been


Well well well…Look who’s back. I just wanted to reintroduce myself and give you an update as to where I’ve been. For those who don’t know me, I’m “VI” the owner and editor of this here blog. For those of you who have been rocking with me for years, ya’ll know I have been gone for quiet some time. It is totally impossible to update on the goings on, but I’m just here to say I’m back with the jump off. I do want to thank ya’ll for your continuous support throughout the years. Honestly when I started this blog I never expected anyone to even read the thoughts I had in my head. I was just writing it for me, but many of you identified with what I was going through. I’ve heard that I’ve helped women in situations with their relationships, but honestly you guys helped me. I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart.

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It's Candy Diaries 2 Year Blogiversary!!!

It’s that time of year again. Candy Diaries is celebrating it’s 2 year blogiversary. In two years the blog has grown into something that I couldn’t have imagined and it’s all because of you, my loyal readers. I just want to thank everyone for riding with me this long. There were times where I debated ending the blog, but because of you guys I keep it going. I also want to say thank you to all the guest bloggers that have contributed to Candy Diaries. We also would like to thank the sponsors for allowing us the opportunity to share  your products with the readers.

I’m only looking in the horizon for bigger and better things, and I hope you guys will be there to share it with me. Again, thank you!


Loving The One You're Not With!!

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Everyone at one point has been here. You want someone, but know you can never have them. Either they’re with someone else, just totally unavailable  or really just don’t want your ass. Some people try to erase them out of your minds, and hope that the feelings disappear. Then there are others who live by the rules “By any means necessary”. They will try any back-handed gutter shit to get the person they want. They seduce and pray that the sex will keep em coming back. People have a way of wanting the unattainable. We just want what we can’t have I guess. The more it’s away from us the more we feel we have to have it. It’s more like a sick game.

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ASK V.I.~Desperately Horny

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Hey V.I.

I have somewhat of an issue, well two. About two months ago I began having sex with my boyfriend of 6 months. He’s my first and as far as I know the sex is good. I wouldn’t really know since I’ve never been with anyone else lol. My problem is that the sex is kind of boring for me. He enjoys it, but I can’t really see how because we do the same thing every time. It’s almost like a routine and he never wants to switch it up. I tell him we should try new things and I don’t want him to think he’s bad in bed so I try to make him think that he’s getting bored, but it doesn’t work. I say things like “Let’s try something new, this is probably beginning to get too predictable for you, maybe you should teach me how to do something you like.” all he says is “No, u don’t need to learn anything else, our sex is fine.” He’s just not taking the hint. My other issue is that when we first began having sex I told him I was interested in being choked, that I just wanted to try it once and see how it felt. He didn’t say no, he just wasn’t very enthused. He agreed to try it but he still hasn’t done it. I don’t want to make him uncomfortable but I need to know if you have any advice on how I can get him to be a little more daring in the bedroom. He doesn’t even make any NOISE! Sometimes I really think he isn’t enjoying it but he says otherwise… I don’t know what to do. I’m very much in love with him I’m just getting bored.


Desperately Horny

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It's That Time…

Ladies and Gentle-dudes it’s about that time. As of  today I am officially on by blogger’s break. I need to take these breaks in order to give you the hotness you so crave. Don’t worry I will be back…eventually.  I don’t have a definite date for you, but continue to log on everyday and you never know. In the meantime, our fashion diva Amber-Fash will still be hooking you up with Style CanDi. Please treat her with kindness or else mama V.I. will whoop your monkey ass. If you need to contact me just click this link. You can still submit your “Diary of a Mad Guest Blogger”  and your “Ask V.I.” posts. They will get posted…Trust me! Even if you just want to say a howdy doo to me you can hit me up.

If you want to get at Fash you can just email her at That’s if you want to be featured and what not. So stay sexy people and know that I will be back whenever the hell I get back.