Being in a long distance relationship is so damn difficult. Not only is the distance a factor, shit can go left really quickly. To be in a successful long distance relationship not only does will power play a part, but trust is the most important thing. You never know what other life your partner may or may not be living while away. It’s easy to fall in to the trap of cheating. Once that loneliness sets in, and the constant phone calls aren’t enough shit can take a turn for the worse. What happens when you’re trying to do right by your partner, but your emotions and coochie constantly telling you something else? After spending those late lonely nights alone and fiendin for that touch that you would love your man to provide, is it acceptable to get it somewhere else? I mean it’s just until you and your man can see each other again. You are human and sometimes things happen right? Should slip ups be expected in a long distance relationship?
Being faithful isn’t easy. Hell if it was then there would be a lot more happy relationships and a lot less cheating. When someone decides to cheat they have totally disconnected from their committed relationship. Let’s just get this straight. Cheating is not only a physical act. If you stepped outside of your relationship and developed an emotional connection to someone other than your partner that is cheating also. So many people feel like if the dick didn’t present itself then you’re not guilty of stepping outside your relationship. Girl goodbye. The second you became emotionally attached you’ve just cheated on your man/woman. Why does it seem that it’s easier to find someone who has cheated than to find someone who has never cheated in a relationship?
The rules of the Girl Code are pretty simple: “You got your good girlfriend’s back and vice versa”. That’s it. That’s all the rules are about. The funny thing is it seems that some women either don’t know the rules or don’t give a damn about them. You usually find this case when a man is involved. When a man comes into the mix it seems that the good good girlfriend, becomes that chick you have to give that deep side eye. No matter what the unspoken rule is of The Girl Code, it seems like it is easily forgotten and two good friends get into a battle over something that shouldn’t even matter in their friendship…a man.
What would you do if the man you loved, got someone else pregnant? Would you stay or go? Recently a lot of celebrity scandals have come out involving conceiving love children with random chicks. They all say the same thing “My woman and I were on a break and I hit a bitch raw. Now I’m a pappy, don’t judge me”. Then you have these women who have obviously been cheated on, but wanna save face so they stay in the relationship. Not even taking into account that these men that claim to love them f*cked some chick raw dog and now she’s about to conceive his offspring. Can love be that deep where you can overlook infidelity, blatant carelessness and drama?
So last night I’m getting my reality show fix and I see this new show on Bravo called “Blood, Sweat and Heels”. Now I don’t normally watch new black shows because they usually don’t last for a second season. Any way, they brought up an interesting topic and I thought I would lend my two cents to the subject. A few of the women on the show thought that it was “ok” or “normal” to snoop if you suspect your man is cheating. They feel if you’re in a relationship you should have that right to make sure he’s doing what he’s supposed to be doing and keeping the dick in the pants. Listen, if you gotta snoop darling why the hell are you in the relationship?
I know we’re so off that Tiger Woods thing, but his situation made me wonder what goes through a person’s mind when they decide to cheat. What are their relationships like? Why do they continue? I’ve decided to interview 2 people that are either currently or formally in a cheating relationship. First up I decided to interview a guy that is currently in a relationship, but is also cheating on his girlfriend. The names in these blogs will remain anonymous. I don’t want nobody ass to get whopped on the count of my shit.