Hi..
I really need your advice on my situation..I was recently reunited with my ex whom I haven’t seen or heard from in 7yrs. We were young when we were together and we did a lot of grown woman and man things that produced a child that was miscarried I figure he left me because I was pregnant, but that was not the case. He got locked up and had been trying to find me all theses years. Now that we have reunited its like we are back to where we were, except the fact that he had girlfriends or chicks that he engaged in acts with within the time we did get back together. He claims his love for me all the time but im not sure if he’s in love with me. Its only been a year since he been out and I’ve been there from the beginning til this day holding him down, but he’s admitted to stepping out on me and now im not trusting him.
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So last night while doing my relationship show over on Da Flava Radio, one of the topics that came up dealt with acceptance. The question was asked “If you found out your man fathered a child outside of your relationship, what would you do”? Now I’m sure you guys know I’ve been through this before, so my answer came out like a bolt of lightening. I informed everyone I actually experienced that and left the relationship. Well, one of the listeners in the chat room wrote “There was no way I could have really loved him if I just ended the relationship”. That got me to thinking; why do some women feel like they HAVE to tolerate whatever a man decides to put them through? Continue Reading…
Attention VI
Have u ever felt the need to go f*ck a stranger cause your so extremely horny and feel like u can’t control yourself or have someone to do if for u???(out of breath right now!!!) I have this problem right now… It’s not that I can’t get a release from anyone, but the person who suppose to do it for me ain’t doing his job. I am not suppose to be looking at other alternatives when I have a man… He suppose to be made available anytime for these sessions. Have I told him how I feel about the situation???yes and no… I told him i he don’t want other people eating off of his “plate of food” he better get his act together…Because men suppose to like these type of things.. Or am I a sex fiend??? I would consider myself a sex fiend only cause in my past relationships, almost all of them was because of the great sex or the best oral…All I do is think about sex… I dream of it, as well as smell it all the time… I think about doing different stuff all the time… I want to be excellent at it… I want to learn new stuff…. It’s no fun learning them by myself, but I really love this individual and see him as not only my husband, but also as a friend and my baby daddy… Is there anything I can do without feeling the need to cheat??
Fiendin for it
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Can someone break it down for me and explain why do some women settle for what they can’t have? It’s like they feel they can’t do any better so they just do all kinds of scallywag shit. I’m assuming it makes them feel better about themselves. I’m talking about the hoes who’s only goal in life is to f*ck with other women’s men. I’m not saying the guy doesn’t play a role in this wack of bullshit. In fact he plays the biggest role of all, but this bitch always wants to get ig’nant and try to come at you sideways. All I gotta is sideline hoe’s need to be stopped. Naw their asses need to be destroyed.
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*Snapping Fingers* Welcome to the Diary of A Mad Guest Blogger. This is a segment where we feature readers that got thangs to say. I want you to give a special hand to NiKole.
Not sure when the roles changed but why have guys gotten so sensitive and passive. Don’t get me wrong I like a guy to care and be concerned but waiting by the phone for me to call or counting down the hours and minutes since my last call is borderline bitchassness. I need a man to check me and keep me in line cause I’m aggressive so he has to be a little more not a whole lot less.
I hate playing the guy role in a relationship because I will cheat. There is no way I won’t. I tried it twice and cheated four times. I love a man to be in to their feelings, but shit u don’t need to cry if you didn’t get to hear my voice before you went to bed. Sometimes I want to say “man up, you sure you have balls between your legs?”. It just frustrates me because I see why previous girls cheat because I’m pretty sure they thought they were dating a girl, and had to check their sexuality in cheating.
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This is a response email from the Ask V.I. blog I did a few weeks ago “Married Yet Still Single“. The husband wanted to address the responses to his dilemma. This is where you come in. I will let you guys respond to him. I won’t comment unless need be. This is your time to let it all out. Remember he’s listening and apparently so is his wife.
I hear the comments stated in response to my situation. As a husband, I gave my all to my wife. Understanding from a male perspective is something you may never understand. While many of you believe that I should not worry about the money, I believe you are sadly mistaken. You see, my wife doesn’t pay any bills and that nice automobile that she drives…I paid for that. I spoiled her..I intended to do that because she was my queen. Some of you women, however, are so pitiful that you take good men for granted and run them off then turn them into monsters. I say this to say that even had I given her a timely divorce, she would still have been entitled to some form of alimony. Not happening. I told her prior, you have 100% of me…now at best she is split 40/60 with the misses. I found out from the misses that she also reads Candy Diaries. So to the editor, its a small world.
As I was saying, some of you have husbands or boyfriends that have committed their all for you…don’t betray that because once you do, the trust is almost impossible to replace. Some of you are laying up with somebody’s husband right now…or somebody’s boyfriend ..maybe you may make a faithful wife or girlfriend some day because you have what it takes it seems to keep a man happy and would make him want to leave everything for you. Wives and girlfriends take note. And by the way I am not stringing the other woman along. She is a willing participant. This can not work if one does not know about the other. I believe I have never been as candid with a female as her. Why is that possible? Is it she is a better listener? Or her only desire is to make sure you feel appreciated.
Nevertheless, I now see how some men were able to have two entirely different families and sometimes they don’t find out about the other until the damn funeral. So for her betrayal why shouldn’t I be able to carry out this affair? Trust me it hurts her to know that something is up but she can’t catch me in the act. One thing a woman hates is when another woman is stealing from her cookie jar. Please tell me people, why shouldn’t I dog her out for however long so she can appreciate the good that she had?
Hi V.I.,
Since this is where my wife seems to air all of our problems out, I thought I might get involved. Recently, my wife and I have been have been growing distant in our relationship. In all actuality, I have found someone else that makes me happy. She is an island girl. I love to hear the way she talks, I love her conversation, I love her smile, and I love the way she does those ‘Jamaican’dances. On the other hand, the sound of my wife’s voice has become painstakingly irritable. My boy said that I should leave her but I asked him if he didn’t see the Benz parked outside or in fact the layout of my condo; a divorce won’t be cheap.
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Am I the only person that has ever been in a relationship that I no longer gave a f*ck about? Like, if he wanted to get some from some dumb soul I would give him a pack of condoms and send him on his way? Yea that might sound harsh to some of you, but that’s just how it be sometimes. Initially you like the person, you get into a relationship and 2 months later you can’t stand their ass. You only stay in the relationship because you like feeling a body next to you. You’re basically going through the motions. You may want to end it for many reasons, but do you try to rekindle the relationship or kick the lame to the curb?
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Everyone has different ideas on cheating or what is considered cheating. One thing is for sure, it can’t be denied that signs play a major role when realizing that things just don’t seem the same between you and your partner. You may notice that your lover spends alot of time texting, or on the computer more often than they use to be. Automatically your mind will probably think that the other person might be cheating, but because you think it’s cheating does your lover see it that way?
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Dear V.I.,
I decided to come to you because I don’t know who else to talk to. About a year ago I met this guy and we started dating. Every thing was going great for the first 4 months then he started acting differently. I suspected he was cheating but I wasn’t sure. One day while we were going out to eat I found a condom under the passenger seat. He said that his brother might have accidentally dropped it while he was giving him a lift. I was so naive, I didn’t really press the issue any furthur.
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