Ya’ll know I am somewhat of a ball breaker right, so there are just certain things I refuse to tolerate when it comes to men. I firmly believe men should act like GOD gave them common sense and not make me get gutta on their asses. I am as sweet as cotton candy, but there is just some bullshit that will make me dump your ass in a heartbeat. I try to give you fair warning before you decide to try me, but I guess some people just don’t get it as fast as others. This blog is dedicated to the men I dated and dumped. These are the reasons I dumped you. This one’s for you boo. *Marlo Hampton jailhouse wink*

6. Men Don’t Nag, Bitches Do~ I hate a nagging man. Yes, men nag too. I just don’t understand the need for it. Why you kept sweating me about dumb shit was beyond me. I tell you I’m out with my girls and you accuse me of cheating. You showed too many insecurities and frankly my dear that shit was a straight turn off. You moved like less than a man and more like a bitch. I don’t do weak fellows.

5. Hoes in Different Area Codes~ For some strange reason I always attracted the n*ggas that can’t help but have more than one chick on their roster. I’m assume having different women makes them feel like the man, but you sadly…you ain’t boo. I think I am that damn good that I didn’t need to share you with random women. Hell if you were gonna cheat on me you could’ve at least cheated with a chick that can make me say “Damn I see why he did it”. Don’t cheat with a Dollar Menu Cheeseburger bitch when you got Steak’ Ums at home.

4. Dead Dick Don’t Do Me~ Your dick didn’t work! It just laid there like a limp dish rag. Fool kill yo self…and any chick that told you, you had that good dick. Bitch wouldn’t know a good dick if it came up and slapped her in the face and did the Harlem Shake.

3. Weakness is an Acquired Taste~ I can’t stand a weak man. If you constantly showed your weakness I looked at you as less than a man. I love a confidence, and boo you never had it. How the f*ck you gonna say “I want to marry you, but I’m afraid you’re gonna cheat on me in 7 years”. First off, where the hell 7 years come from? Then you had the nerve to cry and ask me to promise not to cheat on you. Yo, when a man cries over bullshit he imagined I can’t help but chuckle. That back and forth trying to convince you otherwise mess just isn’t for me. If you don’t know where you stand with me, then maybe I’m not the woman for you.

2. Liar Liar, Dick on Fire~ I HATE LIARS. I HATE LIARS MORE THAN I HATE COMMUNISM. LOL. I just don’t understand why people gotta lie about everything. You told me “Oh that not my child. It’s my god-son. “. N*gga that’s your child. He looks like you gave birth to him your damn self.  What kind of fool you took me for. I must not have looked in the mirror often cause if I did I would have seen the word “Stupid ass” written on my forehead. One thing I hate is a man denying his child. That is some low ass shit. I’m glad that chick took your simple ass to child support. Lying for bullshit reasons.

1. Crazy Son of a Bitch~ *Blankness and Despair* It ain’t cute to be crazy. You actually dumped me and turned around and asked me why did I dump you *Taylor Swift confused look*. You seemed like a perfectly normal individual when we first met, then you started getting all “It rubs the lotion on its skin” crazy. That shit wasn’t a good look especially given the fact that you were a lot older than me and was “suppose” to be more mature. Chile stop!! Oh and by the by you had too much f*cking body hair. That shit is so gross. You looked like you were wearing a sweater…like all the time.

I can go on and on with this topic, but I have a life. I just wanted to list some of the reasons I might have left your awkward ass. I don’t know how I ever survived kicking it with you, but thank the lawd above I got the hell on. You don’t need a relationship, you need a team of doctor’s studying your stupidity. No normal woman should ever give ya’ll the time of day. All ya’ll need spiritual guidance.

Missed Part 1? Check it out here

I was so FUCKING READY! I waited for this moment for almost a year. The first time I saw her I was in love. It was something about her that caught my attention. I don’t know what it was, but it definitely made me want to get to know her. She immeidatly classed me in the “friend” zone, so that was where I stayed. Never made my feelings known because I wasn’t exactly every college girls’ dream. I wasn’t built like a football player and I didn’t have the nice car. Yet out of everyone around campus, she saw that I was a good person. It did hurt me seeing her waste her time with these no good niggas on campus, but as her friend I supported her. So when she asked me to come over tonight after a fight with her “boyfriend”, it was just something I normally did so nothing was out of the ordinary.

When she opened the door and I saw that she had been crying, and immediately my dick got rock hard. I have no idea why, but every time I saw her cry I got turned on. I don’t like seeing her in pain, but when she’s vunerable like that and I’m the only one that can comfort her it makes me feel like she needs me. As I listened to her talk about what happened I tried my best to cover the bulge in my pants, but I don’t think the shit worked. Obviously not because here I was about to fuck the shit out of the woman of my dreams. I was so in love with her, but I knew this would only be for one night. She wanted to feel better, after all that was my job.

When I flipped her over on her stomach and gripped her hips I was ready to go all in, but thought I wanted to take this all night. I needed to savor this moment. I placed the condom on my dick. I always walked around with a condom although I don’t have sex very often. I guess I like to have something just in case…I guess this was that kind of situation. I heard her moaning as I placed the condom on and thought “she was ready.” I let my dick trail down her ass cheeks one more time before I entered her sweet pussy. I made her lift her ass a little so I could get good leverage when I entered. The second my dick touched her walls, we both let out a moan. Damn even with my dick standing still her pussy felt perfect. I gripped her hips again and eased her pussy on my dick. I heard her moan again. I moved her body slowly until she caught the rhythm. She took control and moved her now dripping pussy all over my solid dick. I leaned forward and whispered in her ear “Fuck me baby.” She held onto the pillow and dug that pussy deeper on that dick. I held onto her shoulders so now I was in control. I made sure she felt this dick. Pumping it in and out of her pussy like I was drilling for oil. Her moans turned into light screams. I fucking love the way she sounded. I lifted her lower body off of the bed and I was ready to go deeper. I placed both feet on the bed as her ass was directly in front of me. I held onto her waist and give her more wood. The pussy juices were so much I just couldn’t let that shit go to waste. I took my dick out and ate her from behind. The only sounds you heard were her moans and my slurps. My face was covered in her natural juices and I was ready for more pussy. Now the only question I had was “I wonder if she can ride this dick?”

I got my face up from between her legs and I told her to climb on top of me. I can tell she was a little nervous. Either she didn’t know how to ride dick or she was afraid to take this dick for a ride. Whatever it was she was gonna learn tonight. Baby got on top of me placed her feet on the bed, similar to what I did and bounced up and down on my dick head. I swear I was gonna nut at any minute. One thing that can make me go crazy is a beautiful woman working the shit out of my dick. She sat way down on the dick and started to rock back and forth slowly, looking at me with those beautiful eyes. I think this was the reason I did everything from the back. I was afraid to actually look at her. Although we were both in this position I felt when she looked at me, she would be ashamed of what we were doing. She started to moan again, this time a little louder than before. She leaned forward on my chest and worked that pussy on me faster. I was in heaven!

I felt the pussy gripping the head of my dick. I felt her body tense up and she did it. Not only did baby cum all over me, but she left a puddle between my legs. I didn’t know she was a squirter. I felt that my job was done although I didn’t come yet, but she obviously wasn’t finished. She flipped around facing my legs, removed the condom and took all my shit in her mouth. The second her warm mouth touched my dick I knew it was over. Here I was getting my dick sucked and having pussy in my face. I grabbed that ass and ate her out again. Licked up all that squirt shit she did earlier. Beautiful sucked and deep-throat my dick until I was ready to cum. I moaned “Damn I’m about to cum” and baby didn’t stop. She wanted me to cum in her mouth. I never had that shit happen to me before. Most girls act like you shot em in the chest when they get a little cum drop on their lips. She wanted the whole shit in her mouth.

I felt it at the tip…I knew it was coming. Right before it came bursting out of me she turned around so I could see her face. I held on to the top of her head and I pushed her head down on it deeper. It was coming…I could feel it. Damn it’s coming…I continued to push her head on my dick. “Awwwwwwwwww Damn” I yelled and just like that she caught the whole thing in her mouth and swallowed my nut. Baby girl even licked the remnants of nut from the head of my dick. I felt like a new man. I felt like I just did it for the first time. After tonight I knew the woman that I loved would love me back. We just shared some awesome shit…I just knew she would look at me differently.

After that night of crazy stupid sex, she still viewed me as a friend, but now with benefits. The feelings I had obviously weren’t reciprocated. For the rest of our college career we hooked up occasionally, when she wasn’t involved with any of her boyfriends. After college she moved to NYC and I stayed behind. We hooked up anytime she came back in to town. I eventually met a great woman and got married. Although I love my wife dearly, there is something about beautiful that I cannot shake. I think it’s the eyes or maybe it’s the way she guzzles the nut. So yes although I love my wife, I’m cheating on her with the love of my life.

Hello V.I.,

I am truly stressing and I need some serious advice. I’ve been married about 5 years now and 3 years ago my husband and I started having marital issues. We started arguing way too much, so there was a point where we sorta separated. I went out one night with my friends and met this guy. We started exchanging texts and meeting for drinks. One night we slept together, which I instantly regretted. I felt so weird sleeping with someone that wasn’t my husband. I broke things off with the guy and had a long talk with my hubby and we decided to make things work.

A month later I found out that I was pregnant. I was so excited because my husband and I have no kids and we were trying for so long to have a baby. He was so attentive during my pregnancy. Matter of fact I think it made us stronger. Our daughter was born and I never seen so much joy in his eyes. We were finally whole. The issue is, I have doubts that he’s the father. The other man didn’t know that I was pregnant, but I honestly think my baby girl is his child. She looks just like him. I tried to see a inkling of looks from my husband, but my daughter has a dead giveaway. She has hazel eyes and so does her dad…the other man. I know he’s the father. The issue is I don’t know how much longer I can keep this secret from my husband. He loves our daughter more than life itself. How do I tell him that I cheated and our daughter isn’t his child? I’m stressing out about this because every day I feel like I’m living a lie. My daughter only knows him as her father, so he is technically her father. I feel if I do tell him he would leave us. I made a mistake but every day I think God is punishing me. I’m living in silent hell.

Afraid to Tell The Truth

Dear ATTTT,

I am so sorry that you’re struggling with this issue internally. This is something that is very serious not only for you, but for your daughter’s life. Although, you feel this way the truth will come out sooner or later. It’s your choice if you want to tell it or let it tell itself. This is a difficult decision because this could possibly end not only your marriage, but the relationship with the only father your daughter might ever know. You have to decide this on your own. No one can tell you how to handle this situation. Just realize that there are always consequences to your actions. Yea if he finds out he might be upset and walk out your lives. He might also acknowledge that you two were separated and he’s raising this child as his own and loves her like she is.

At the end of the day biological or not this man is still the father of this child. She may not have his eyes, but that girl looks at her daddy as a God. The first relationship a young girl treasures is the relationship with her father. She treasures the man that sacrificed and raised her, she doesn’t look at who’s eyes she has. She looks at who held her when she first came out the womb and who loved her when she was a bad ass unlovable teenager. You have to decide this, not me. All I can say is take it to the Lord in prayer.

I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!

The opinions expressed in this post does not reflect those of Candy Diaries. Candy Diaries is an equal opportunity blogger, and thinks this is some trifflin shit. Here is the Mystery Man.Enjoy!

I want you
To have my first and my last child
But not now
I’m not done playing around

I’m not saying that
I don’t wanna stick around
I want to stick you…and every cutie in the town

You turn me on
With your skin so soft
But I want to get off
And your body’s not enough

I mean, its perfect, I promise
It’s fly in its entirety
You think that I be lyin
But I just want some variety

It tears me up when I’m with you
I love you
But I want to bang your girlfriends, your sister,
your cousin

I even caught your mom’s sideways glance
You see that ass in her pants?
I love you but I’d hit it if I had the chance…no disrespect

And I don’t feel guilty
Because although my minds filthy
My love for you is pure
Just let me bang a few more whores

Relationships aren’t really designed for me
Resign my D-I-C
for monogamy?

I just want to be open and honest
Bang my old chick from college
And come home to you

And don’t worry bout the bone
I’d keep it stronger for you
And my love doesn’t exist
For nobody, but you

So STOP TRIPPIN
I cant help that my magic stick
Is so sick I can whip, pornstar chicks
They submit to the dick

Strippers abandon their poles
To swing around mine
I don’t pay for lap dances
She pays for the ride

And I’m feelin like dykes are missing out
From the pole I’m giving out
I’ve turned a couple out, put it in their mouths
Backshots, shouts on the couch

Digging her out,
“A” in the air, she’s reppin the South
Head down, smelling the couch
Sometimes she’s saying “ouch”
Don’t care—cum coming out.ahhhhhhh

But its just a nut
Once she’s gone, I’m back in the tub
Shower going, missing your love
Water hot, steam up above

Love you, but
You can’t accept me
For who I am Am I a criminal or am I just a man?

Dear V.I,

I’m writing to you because I have a rather delicate situation on my hands. My bestfriend has been seeing this guy for about 6 months now and she’s head over heels in love. We were out together one night and saw him. I admit we both looked interested in him, but he came up to her. It wasn’t a huge deal to me, because I was sorta seeing someone. They started getting closer and closer while my boyfriend and I grew farther and farther apart. Well one night we went to a mutual friend’s party and she brought her man along. I drove my car because I came through straight from work. We were having a great time when she got a call from her mom and she had to leave because of some kind of small family emergency. For some reason her boyfriend wanted to stay so she was pissed but asked me if I could drive him home. It was no big deal to me, so I said sure.

Well on the way home we were talking and the conversation took an odd turn. He started talking about how he was interested in me from the get go, but was too nervous to talk to me. While at a light this guy leaned over and kissed me. I don’t know what came over us but when we got to his place we got down with it. Yes, I had sex with my bestfriend’s man. I realized what I did wrong and I can’t take it back, but the bad part is we’ve done it a second time. Do I go ahead and tell her and risk loosing my bestfriend? Or do I just stop whatever sexual relationship and pretend nothing happened?

Help me!!!

Not so “best” friend

Dear Not so “best” friend,

*Whew* Let me be straight up…that is some trifling ass shit right there. Homegirl is definitely not your bestfriend, because there is no way in hell a bestfriend would do that to another. I’m not sure if you were drunk the first time so you could use the “I was drunk” excuse, but doing that shit AGAIN? HELL NAW!!! You were definitely dirty for what you did. F*ck him…he’s just a man. Those folks come and go, but she is your bestfriend. That is a stronger bond. You truly crossed the line with this. I don’t know if you expected me to be harsh with it, but you need to get your ass beat. Straight up. The best thing for you to do is tell her before she bucks up and catches you sucking her man’s d*ck. I know you sucking him off.  She’s probably gonna deck you or she might simply just kick you to the curb. You can’t fight her choice.

You allowed this to happen. In the beginning of your letter you stated from the beginning you were feeling him. So you knew screwing him was something you wanted to do. The fact that you both are deceiving her is just  that bullshit. The more you do this and not say anything to her is just going to make the situation worse. I will guarantee the fact that you were the one sleeping with her boo with hurt her more, than the fact her boo actually cheated. Tell her the truth, and STOP SLEEPING WITH THAT DUDE.  I know d*ck is glorious but it’s not enough to f*ck up a long time friendship. Come clean and tell her. You would actually be a better person for doing so.

I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!

I know we’re off that Tiger Woods thing, but his situation made me wonder what goes through a person’s mind when they decide to cheat. What are their relationships like? Why do they continue? I’ve decided to interview 2 people that are either currently or formally in a cheating relationship. First up I decided to interview a guy that is currently in a relationship, but is also cheating on his girlfriend. The names in these blogs will remain anonymous. I don’t want nobody ass to get whopped on the count of my blogs.

1. Describe your current relationship status. I am currently in a relationship with the mother of my child. The relationship has had it fair share of ups and downs makeups and breakups, but she is the person that I would like to spend the rest of my life with.

2. How long have you been in this relationship? We have been together for almost 8 years now. Started out as friends with benefits, but became serious a few months later.

3. At what point in the relationship did you start cheating? I was cheating pretty much from the beginning. I had just made 21 at the time and was having regular sex with another female when I met her. I did let the other female know that I had met someone else, but we continued to have sex regardless.

4. Is there something your partner is lacking that made you start cheating? No there was absolutely nothing that she was missing. Actually she is everything that I could ever want in a woman both mentally and physically.

5. Are you cheating with one person or multiple partners? There have been times when it was just one other person, but for the most part it has been multiple partners.

6. Does the person you’re cheating with know that you’re in a relationship? Has your girlfriend suspected that you’re cheating? I have always made it a habit to let anyone that I talk to know that I am in a relationship. I find it much easier to tell them up front than to have them find out later on. It makes it easier to keep it a secret and this way they can make a conscious decision to deal with it or not. It works fine for a while, but women have a tendency to catch feelings or worst fall in love and that’s where I draw the line and break it off.

I think she has suspected cheating, but she has never had any concrete evidence to prove that I was.

7. Do you believe the phrase “Men will be men”? If so, is that fueling you to continue to do what you want to do? I do believe in the phrase men will be men, but I am certainly not saying that there are no men out there that wouldn’t cheat on their woman. That type of guy is just rare. I can’t speak for every guy out there, but I can speak for some of the people that I know who feel the same way that I do. When I was younger it was like a sport for me. I was trying to sleep with as many women as possible. If I had a woman at the time, I just cheated. As I got into to my late 20’s that began to change. I don’t chase after women anymore, I have no desire to. If I see a nice looking woman I would appreciate her beauty and never say a word to her, but if she approaches me that is a different story. As a man I wouldn’t turn it down. Don’t get me wrong I am not the type of guy to sleep with anything that walks, I have standards. Believe me when I tell you I have turned down many.

8. If the situation where reversed and she was the cheater, do you think you would try to make it work or leave? I could never be with a woman again if she cheated on me, I would leave.

9. Has cheating been a pattern in past relationships? It has, but this is the longest relationship I have been in and the most I have cheated on anyone.

10. Do you think at the end of the day it is all worth the hassle and the drama? It is definitely not worth the hassle and the drama. There have been times when I have stopped cheating and cut all the other women off, there was actually a sense of relief after that. I could leave my phone laying around and didn’t have to worry about who might call or text. That was actually one of the best feelings ever, but it was only a matter of time before it all started again.

Am I the only person that has ever been in a relationship that I no longer gave a f*ck about? Like, if he wanted to get some from some dumb soul I would give him a pack of condoms and send him on his way? Yea that might sound harsh to some of you, but that’s just how it be sometimes. Initially you like the person, you get into a relationship and 2 months later you can’t stand their ass. You only stay in the relationship because you like feeling a body next to you. You’re basically going through the motions. You may want to end it for many reasons, but do you try to rekindle the relationship or kick the lame to the curb?

I’ve been in a relationship where I just didn’t give a damn. I started doing all kinds of disrespectful shit to this dude. The long and short was I didn’t like his ass anymore. I guess after I got to know him I realized that me plus him equaled not a f*cking thing. Our relationship was dry as hell. There was no beauty, no spark, or substance. Hell even the dick was a snooze fest. I could have just ended it like normal people, but I knew if I did what everyone would say. I had a reputation for not keeping a man. Not because they no longer wanted me, but because I got so bored with their asses I dropped them like Beyonce dropped them Destiny Children. So, I guess I stayed because I didn’t want to deal with everyone asking me “What happened” again. I started going out more, talking to other men on the phone, hell I started having sex with someone else. It’s ok though because I was no longer having sex with him. I just didn’t give a damn about the whole situation. He cared for me, but I think he was trying too hard and that’s when my interest dwindled. He was begging…and I mean literally begging me to love him. I thought that was so odd seeing that we were only together for a little while. Then most of the things that I thought was interesting about him turned out to be a lie. See he felt the way to a woman’s heart was to pretend to be someone he wasn’t. True, it does work for a little while but the truth eventually comes out. It got to the point I couldn’t take him anymore and I just told him the truth. I didn’t paint a picture like I was struggling with my feelings, I told him straight up…”I don’t want you anymore. Being around you makes me angry”. Yea I was harsh, but I believe in tough love. He knew I didn’t want to be with him, but he ignored my signs. That should teach him to never ignore the obvious.

Relationships aren’t about tolerating each other, or having a sense of false hope. You can’t save something that you know has no chance in hell of working. If you find yourself in a relationship that has more negatives than positive, that’s not the relationship for you. If you did stay, then you’re settling. Some might say nothing is perfect in a relationship. That is so true, but you shouldn’t have to put up with something that you know isn’t right for you. In the back of your mind you know you wanna let it go, but you don’t because you just might be too afraid to be alone again. If your heart is already out of the relationship it only takes a little while for everything else to follow suit. A relationship should bring happiness to your life.  If your ass is just dealing with what you have, you don’t really have anything do you?

Holla at me: Have you ever been in a relationship where you just didn’t give a damn?

Hmmm you might be wondering what zany antics Swizz Beatz’s dick got into today. Well allegedly Swizz has cheated on his new wife Alicia Keys…*gasp from the audience*. Who would have thought that this sweet couple would already have trouble in paradise? Ok, enough of this bullshit I mean really is anyone surprised at this mess? Ok so let me break down what’s “supposedly” going on. According to Bossip (dot) Com, Swizz is cheating with this chick who happens to be one of Solonge’s friends. Well the chick and Swizz have been texting nasty freak shit back and forth and of course she strategically happens to lose her phone and the texts have been “leaked.” One of the texts Swizz asked her to send him a nekkid pic and he replies and I quote “I want to f**k the shit out of you asap make it happen wow!” So now the innanets are all a buzz because again Swizz Beatz showed that he ain’t shit, but in my opinion this dude ain’t did nothing wrong and let me tell you why… ****Click continue to view actual text messages***

First off, let me start by saying I was one of the biggest Alicia Keys fans. When this whole thing with Swizz and Mashonda went down I no longer look at her the same way. Now with that being said, I don’t care what anyone says I don’t feel no sorrow for Alicia. If the allegations are indeed true all I have to say is KARMA IS THAT BITCH. Like my granny always says “The same way you get him is the same way you gonna lose him.” Alicia did the same shit to Mashonda as the new chick did it to her. It’s life…you gotta be careful how you play that game. Alicia got with a married man and didn’t expect him to cheat on her? Girl I think you use to braid your hair too tight back in the day. Boo boo you know how his dick stood. You know being faithful in a marriage was not an option for him. I don’t care how f*cked up a marriage is, you’re still committed until you two decide to part ways. Naw… Alicia thought her magically delicious p*ssy was enough to make Swizz all hers. He left his wife and his children and low and behold Alicia’s ass was knocked up. Of course she had to save face being this humanitarian and all, so he had to marry her. Frankly, I’m not sure what she saw in his Geico lizard looking ass, but she just had to have him.I guess she was tired of the rumors of her just loving the smell of lady pussy so she thought of the most gutter hoe shit to do. Steal another woman’s husband that way people would excuse her love of females allegedly.

Some might say it seems all Swizz really did was text this chick as you can see from the emails below. In my opinion even if he never actually slept with her he was cheating emotionally. In my opinion that is the worst form of cheating. You’re allowing someone else to get into your head, causing you to drift from your partner. Hell maybe that’s what Alicia did when he was with Mashonda. I’m not sure but the relationship he has with this girl isn’t just a f*ck and go. The spend hours texting and talking about shit. They may have started out as “just friends”, but it catapulted into something else. Isn’t that how the shit always starts anyway?

Ladies a word of advice; no matter how good you think you are in the bedroom that shit does not keep a no good man at home.  Some say Alicia couldn’t “steal” Geico lizard  from his wife that he left on his own free will. Which is true, but being the bitch that f*cks with someone else’s husband in the first place makes you no better. Some folks on twitter started cussing out ol girl who Geico lizard is apparently laying the pipe on, but why wasn’t anyone cussing Alicia for doing the same thing a year ago? Some people need to get their priorities straight. Swizz’s dick just doesn’t do stationary p*ssy. He likes to move around and get the feel of different holes…you know get adapted to his surroundings. Right now where ever Mashonda is she is laughing her ass off . Alicia is probably crying out her’s. As that big bitch from up the block Nene Leakes would say “Keep your legs closed to married men.” Yea that shit says a lot right now. *hands Alicia a Kleenex*

Holla at me: If you rumors are true, do you feel bad for Alicia Keys?

SHOUTS TO BOSSIP FOR THE VISUALS THO!!!

These are additional texts betwix the two….

Chris: Don’t tease me. Why can’t u get away this weekend!? I’m off
Swizz: Vma
Chris: Ahh. Well maybe God is tellin us somethin. O:)
Chris: Night. Have fun.
Swizz: :’(
Chris: Lol.
Chris: Well sh*t. Our schedules never freakin match!
Chris: ?download.jpg ?(13.73 KB)?
Chris: Lookin good? Lookin great? Lol
Swizz: This make no f**king send I want to f**k the shit of you asap make it happen wow!
Swizz: This pic is crazy sorry but sh*t
Chris: Lmao. Whoa Tiger! Haahah
Swizz: That pic is for what?
Chris: Nothin. Just to have.
Swizz: That’s my fav pic of u:)

Swizz: On my way back to vegas:)
Chris: Omg! U have all the fun without me
Chris: I’m off ALL next week if I can come
Swizz: Next week is a wrap:(
Chris: Ah u suck
Swizz: No
Chris: No? YES!!!!
Swizz: Well bring ya a*s now thenB-)
Chris: I gotta work tomorrrrrrrow!!
Swizz: Andddddddddd
Chris: I got bills…. That u don’t pay… Lol
Chris: How long u gon be there?
Chris: Did I upset u with that?
Swizz: No

Chris: U ever met Andre 3000 before?
Swizz
ITS TIME TO SHOW! Haute Living: Yes why
Chris: What type of person is he?
Swizz
ITS TIME TO SHOW! Haute Living: Different why?
Chris: Lol just curious
Swizz
ITS TIME TO SHOW! Haute Living: Why?
Chris: Cuz he’s super dope and I was wonderin if he’s the same way in person. I don’t know anyone who’s ever met em.
Swizz
ITS TIME TO SHOW! Haute Living: He is weird u have a crush huh
Chris: Lol. I do but I don’t wanna meet him cuz I know I won’t anymore. I just wanted to know.
Swizz
ITS TIME TO SHOW! Haute Living: Hahahahah true talk:)
Chris: U gettin jealous over there?
Swizz
ITS TIME TO SHOW! Haute Living: 100% :p
Chris: Lmao. I’m flattered
Swizz
ITS TIME TO SHOW! Haute Living: Better be:)

Is it just me or sometimes when you put a label on your relationship the whole thing changes? You know; you meet someone and start spending time together. Everything seems to be going in a great direction so you want to take things further. You both decide to become exclusive and now you’re someones girlfriend/boyfriend. The next thing you know what was a wonderful connection starts to turn into something else. The things you did before you put a label on it suddenly become a problem. When you say you’re going out with your friends he automatically get suspicious. If she usually break you down in the bedroom before you made her your main chick, now she just lays there like a stack of pancakes. That’s if she even decides to give you some. Some people do a complete change once they get in a relationship. Is it insecurity or just plain ol control issues?

Back in college I was  involved in a relationship like this, basically he changed when we became official. At first I noticed subtle little changes like before we got together if he called and I didn’t answer he would just leave a voicemail “Hey this is me, give me a call back when you can.” When I made him my boo thang the voice message turned to “Hey yo why you not answering your phone” *click*. It’s like now that I’m his girl I was suppose to drop everything I’m doing and answer his call, like I ain’t got nothing else going on in my life. Of course the shit got worse over time. I felt like he was dealing with insecurity issues. I guess he felt he wasn’t man enough to keep my attention and that someone else would take me away. People need to realize the second you change the next second your boo is trying to figure out how to leave your ass. Damn insecurities tho, some people are just plain ol nuts. The second they feel that you’re now with them they own you. They look at everything you do carefully and use their wild imagination to somehow implicate you in wrong doing.

I remember one of my friends telling me she was seeing this guy and he had a dream about her cheating on him and the next day he called her and dumped her. This son of a bitch had a dream…a damn dream and he woke up and said “Let me dump that cheating bitch.” I swear some people let their imaginations get the best of them. One time the same guy that I was dating came to my school to pick me up. He needed to use the restroom so I walked him inside the school so he can drain the lizard. In the hallway I saw one of my classmates who happened to be a guy. We passed each other in the hallway  without stopping said “Hey what’s up” and kept it moving. Do you know this crazy ass dude said “So who the f*ck is he and why he looking at you like that?” I stared at this man for what felt like 5 mins because that was one of the dumbest questions I ever heard. We’re in my school and I say hi to someone that I go to school with and you mean to tell me he got suspicious over that shit? That was the moment I knew dude’s insecurities were spilling over into “this fool is crazy.” Before we got together shit like that didn’t even make him flinch. Hell maybe it did and he just kept it hidden because he knew that he had no claim to me. The second I let his ass call himself my man, that dude went all the way live on me.

Now my situation might have been a little overboard, but  many people experience changes in relationship dynamics on a regular . Sometimes you don’t even have to put a label on it for it to change. The second you give them the boom wuk they automatically claim you as theirs. Once sex is involved some people act all emotional. Like I gave you my snatch now you have to report to me with your whereabouts. I find this occur more with women. We are so emotional at times you can’t just take a good screw and relax. You now need to know where this is going and if he’s doing the things he does to you to other people. Like damn chick just chill. Ok, I’m getting off subject here.

The things you did to get the person isn’t the same thing you do to keep the person interested once you got em. Some people get too comfortable in their relationship and no longer think about doing the little things. Comfort is what we all want in a relationship, but when it gets to the point where your partner is unhappy that is where you got a problem. Emotions and feelings may start to dwindle because the beautiful excitement that you two started out with has become lifeless and depressing. You start to argue more than you’re happy. This shit is not only frustrating, but annoying as hell. Why would someone want to be in a relationship with someone that obviously can’t maintain one? This is when people start going outside their relationship or even ending the relationship. Like I always say “Why be in an unhappy relationship when you can be happy by your damn self?”

Holla at me: Has someone ever changed once you put a label on it?

Twitter:

UrbanNewz @ViChick Took them on a date way across town, told them I was going to the bathroom and left them there with the bill to pay also. She called me asking where I was at and I told her headed home. She start goin off, so I told her to call dude to give her a ride. Bum a$$ nicca ain’t have a car! I ain’t go off on her at all because of her cheating. Doing that to her was the first thing that came to mind. She left me a long message on my phone that I never finished listening to. I haven’t seen or spoke to her since.

FaceBook:

Anonymous: Ha turn off their power, phone, hacked into their emails. Ooooh shouldn’t have said that….

Anonymous: Found out he f*cked the girl I thought was my bestfriend, so I burned some of his shit, flat his tires, and f*cked his bestfriend.

Heartbreak can break anyone down. No matter how strong you maybe on the outside you can’t fight emotions. Many people do things out of anger, because they think that it will make them feel better. After the payback; was it really worth it? Come to think of it, seeing that person crumble with every stroke you give their friend or pretending to care and turn around and humiliate them gives, us a little comfort knowing that we made them feel like shit. You know what; Hell yea that shit is worth it.

Holla at me: What have you ever done to pay back someone that cheated on you?