Hi V.I.,

I’m writing you because of my friend. She’s married and cheating with a guy that’s 26. She met him when he was 21. They have been seeing each other from time to time. He calls her only when he wants sex never just to talk. When she met him he had a girlfriend. Sometime he would ignore her calls. He would pretend they were gonna go out but he never called till days later. I told her that she’s his jump off. He calls and says I need to see you and she runs over. Sometimes he will not call for 3months then call and say I want to see you. I need to see you and get mad if she can’t come. When she get there he is happy to see her all kissing and fucking, 69 and liking her feet. She says she want to leave her husband because he doesn’t satisfy her or pay attention to her except in bed, and all he want in bed is his dick sucked, or to hit it from the side. I told her to get rid of them both and start over. The both using her. What should she do?

Asking… You Know…For A Friend

Dear AFAF,

I understand that you’re concerned for your friend, but there is nothing you can do to help her understand how naive she stupid she’s been in this situation. She’s grown and she has to come to the realization at some point in life. What she does is her business and if she continues to allow men to use and abuse her that’s something she’s gonna have to face on her own time. Obviously she’s oblivious or just foolish to what’s happening. Honestly she’s not because if you know all her business especially all the bad shit, she knows what’s going on but refuses to put an end to it. All you can do is be her friend, but at the end of the day she has to live her own life. You can’t fix this for her. Until she realizes that she’s being played, she’ll continue to be  in this game.

I hope one day she wakes up, but sweetie there is nothing you can do but be her friend. You telling her to leave isn’t gonna make her leave. She has to realize that when she’s hit rock bottom. It will happen one day, but right now she’s being played like lotto.

I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you see things clearer in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!

Let me put this out in the open; people cheat. You may not like or condone it, but it happens. Maybe you’ve been cheated on and remember the heartbreak you faced when you found out. *Rubbing back* It’s gonna be ok …you know why because this blog isn’t for you. Go to another room because I’m talking to the folks that wanna cheat but don’t know what the best approach is. I’m not promoting cheating of any kind, but if you do decide to get your shit somewhere else wouldn’t you like to do it the best possible way? I’ve came up with 6 tips to ensure that you are a successful cheater.

1. Think before you cheat~ I hate dumb ass people that decide to cheat with someone they know isn’t mature enough to handle it. The whole purpose of cheating is not to get caught. This idiot knows you’re in a relationship and the minute he/she starts feeling themselves a little too much, they wanna blow up your shit. Pick someone that has just as much to lose as you do. That way they can’t try you without you trying them. Simple!!!

2. Wrap it up~ There is nothing more ridiculous than getting pregnant by the person you’re cheating with or vice versa. Plus, why the f*ck would you screw that person unprotected anyway? If your not f*cking your man unprotected your gonna do it to your side dish? Who the hell does dumb ass shit like that? Wrap that dick up nice and tight. That way you’re not only protecting yourselves, you’re protecting your main chick, your side chick and your wife. The minute you give one of them something that makes her vulva itch that bitch will sho nuff cut that dirty nasty disease infested dick off.

3. Keep your shit together~ I think the best thing to do is keep your lies to a minimum. The minute you start telling a bunch of lies, you won’t remember anything. My momma always says “A liar has no memory”. Why you gonna tell your man you’re out with your girls and then forget you then say you were working late? Wait…actually men are the one’s that can never keep their lies straight. Ladies, never mind!!! Well there are some dumb chicks out there too so keep your shit together people.

4. Never catch it~ One of the most important things you need to learn as a cheater is *grabbing mega phone* NEVER EVER EVER CATCH FEELINGS*. That is the fastest way to a downfall. The moment you catch feelings for the person you’re cheating with, you better call it a wrap. There is no way in hell you’re getting out of this relationship. Keep it business as usual. Get in there, do your thing, and get out. No need to lay and talk about your hopes and dreams, or your future plans. This relationship needs to be on a day by day basis. The minute you start making commitments you’re not just screwing, you’re in a second committed relationship with a bitch that knew you were already committed. This is just bullshit.

5. Shut the hell up~ Ray Ray and em’ don’t need to know you’re boinking Jaquita from up the block. Keep that shit under wraps. Everybody doesn’t need to know your business. That is the quickest way to get your shit out in the streets and back to your boo. If you’re cheating only you and the other person should know. A whole bunch of people in your sauce will only make your situation worse.

6. Never leave evidence~ If you’re dumb enough to sex someone in your apartment, then you’re dumb enough to get caught. This is actually one of the first things people mess up on when cheating…the evidence. If your coochie contributor says “Hey baby let me take a pic of you, you look so sexy” Knock that camera out of her hand. That my friend is evidence that can be used at a later time; your stupid ass just doesn’t know it yet. Some people program numbers in the phone, and try to put a name that doesn’t seem suspicious. Your girl goes through your phone and she sees a new name in there and guess what she’s gonna do…call it. The issue is she knows all your friends so naturally she’s gonna get a little suspicious. I think the best thing is if you do decide to program a number I would use a business name like Craig’s Auto body or Pizza Hut. She probably won’t get suspicious of the auto shop and all you gotta do is tell her that’s the number to the Pizza Hut by your job. Easy!!

**Bonus**Please oh please do not cheat with a friend of your partner. That is the dumbest shit you can ever do. Fellas, why the hell you gonna sex your girl’s friend anyway? You already know she’s trifling for f*cking with you in the first place. The minute she gets pissed at you guess what she’s gonna do…run and tell dat. Ladies, men talk just as much as women do. Sure he might not tell your man that he dug your ass out, but chances are he will tell another friend. Now you just look like a homie hopping hoe.

I hope these tips can help you in any future cheating endeavors that you may have. Again, we don’t condone cheating of any kind here at Candy Diaries, but we don’t wanna seem like we’re not allowing cheaters to be Exceptional! I just hope the cheating is worth the risk, and if you happen to get caught by some random act of stupidity I hope you’re ready for the consequences of your actions. Straight up….that might be the night your sweet dick gets cut the f*ck up.

*Snapping Fingers* Welcome to the Diary of A Mad Guest Blogger. This is a segment where we feature the bloggers that got thangs to say. I want you to give a special hand to The Mystery Lady.

I had an epiphany the other day. Good dick and relationships DON’T mix.

Yes you read correct and as a matter of fact let me clarify:

Good dick CANNOT be in a successful relationship.

Let me tell you why.

1. Good Dick Has Too Many Choices To Be In a Successful Monogamous Relationships

A good dick report spreads faster than Kat Stacks legs at Rock the Bells.  Once you give one girl the d and its mindblowing she’s gonna tell her homegirl, she’s gonna tell the whole world.  And best believe good dick is so hard to come by that women will practically throw men the pussy. It’s only going to be but so long one man can fight off thrown pussy before he succumbs.

2. Good Dick Makes It Okay For Men To Cheat…yes I said it…

Men with good dick know that they can act up.  The good dick man is more likely than not going to say something out of pocket, do something to piss you off, or cheat and be sloppy with it.  The catch is that you will miss the good dick and an “I’m sorry” and a DMX in Belly style dick down will make you forget whatever it is that made you mad in the first place.  Why?

Because GOOD DICK CAUSES BAD DECISION MAKING.  (Please refer to my previous post on all the types of bad decisions good dick will cause you to make.)

3. Good Dick Can Only Settle Down Once It Tires Out

I  have several male friends that had stellar dick reports that are now married. Until they fucked every girl under the sun and just got too old for cirque de sole style sex in the car, wore out from froggy style in the kitchen, and back shots in the shower…they weren’t ready to really settle down.  Seriously. I know this for a scientific fact.  We all know that guy who after a running through every chick in the city suddenly decided to get married. Why?

Because GOOD DICK KNOWS WHEN ITS RUN IS COMING TO AN END.

So rather than leave the game  with a BDR they would rather gracefully bow out.  I’m not saying they aren’t capable of having a great performance every once in a while on special occasion but best believe if you marry that guy who had the great dick report in college best believe it won’t be as good as it was back in the day. I’m just sayin..

Ladies, I know this may be hard to cope with but I’m just trying to save you shawty.

Men, am I lying?

Ya’ll know I am somewhat of a ball breaker right, so there are just certain things I refuse to tolerate when it comes to men. I firmly believe men should act like GOD gave them common sense and not make me get gutta on their asses. I am as sweet as cotton candy, but there is just some bullshit that will make me dump your ass in a heartbeat. I try to give you fair warning before you decide to try me, but I guess some people just don’t get it as fast as others. This blog is dedicated to the men I dated and dumped. These are the reasons I dumped you. This one’s for you boo. *Marlo Hampton jailhouse wink*

6. Men Don’t Nag, Bitches Do~ I hate a nagging man. Yes, men nag too. I just don’t understand the need for it. Why you kept sweating me about dumb shit was beyond me. I tell you I’m out with my girls and you accuse me of cheating. You showed too many insecurities and frankly my dear that shit was a straight turn off. You moved like less than a man and more like a bitch. I don’t do weak fellows.

5. Hoes in Different Area Codes~ For some strange reason I always attracted the n*ggas that can’t help but have more than one chick on their roster. I’m assume having different women makes them feel like the man, but you sadly…you ain’t boo. I think I am that damn good that I didn’t need to share you with random women. Hell if you were gonna cheat on me you could’ve at least cheated with a chick that can make me say “Damn I see why he did it”. Don’t cheat with a Dollar Menu Cheeseburger bitch when you got Steak’ Ums at home.

4. Dead Dick Don’t Do Me~ Your dick didn’t work! It just laid there like a limp dish rag. Fool kill yo self…and any chick that told you, you had that good dick. Bitch wouldn’t know a good dick if it came up and slapped her in the face and did the Harlem Shake.

3. Weakness is an Acquired Taste~ I can’t stand a weak man. If you constantly showed your weakness I looked at you as less than a man. I love a confidence, and boo you never had it. How the f*ck you gonna say “I want to marry you, but I’m afraid you’re gonna cheat on me in 7 years”. First off, where the hell 7 years come from? Then you had the nerve to cry and ask me to promise not to cheat on you. Yo, when a man cries over bullshit he imagined I can’t help but chuckle. That back and forth trying to convince you otherwise mess just isn’t for me. If you don’t know where you stand with me, then maybe I’m not the woman for you.

2. Liar Liar, Dick on Fire~ I HATE LIARS. I HATE LIARS MORE THAN I HATE COMMUNISM. LOL. I just don’t understand why people gotta lie about everything. You told me “Oh that not my child. It’s my god-son. “. N*gga that’s your child. He looks like you gave birth to him your damn self.  What kind of fool you took me for. I must not have looked in the mirror often cause if I did I would have seen the word “Stupid ass” written on my forehead. One thing I hate is a man denying his child. That is some low ass shit. I’m glad that chick took your simple ass to child support. Lying for bullshit reasons.

1. Crazy Son of a Bitch~ *Blankness and Despair* It ain’t cute to be crazy. You actually dumped me and turned around and asked me why did I dump you *Taylor Swift confused look*. You seemed like a perfectly normal individual when we first met, then you started getting all “It rubs the lotion on its skin” crazy. That shit wasn’t a good look especially given the fact that you were a lot older than me and was “suppose” to be more mature. Chile stop!! Oh and by the by you had too much f*cking body hair. That shit is so gross. You looked like you were wearing a sweater…like all the time.

I can go on and on with this topic, but I have a life. I just wanted to list some of the reasons I might have left your awkward ass. I don’t know how I ever survived kicking it with you, but thank the lawd above I got the hell on. You don’t need a relationship, you need a team of doctor’s studying your stupidity. No normal woman should ever give ya’ll the time of day. All ya’ll need spiritual guidance.

Missed Part 1? Check it out here

I was so FUCKING READY! I waited for this moment for almost a year. The first time I saw her I was in love. It was something about her that caught my attention. I don’t know what it was, but it definitely made me want to get to know her. She immeidatly classed me in the “friend” zone, so that was where I stayed. Never made my feelings known because I wasn’t exactly every college girls’ dream. I wasn’t built like a football player and I didn’t have the nice car. Yet out of everyone around campus, she saw that I was a good person. It did hurt me seeing her waste her time with these no good niggas on campus, but as her friend I supported her. So when she asked me to come over tonight after a fight with her “boyfriend”, it was just something I normally did so nothing was out of the ordinary.

When she opened the door and I saw that she had been crying, and immediately my dick got rock hard. I have no idea why, but every time I saw her cry I got turned on. I don’t like seeing her in pain, but when she’s vunerable like that and I’m the only one that can comfort her it makes me feel like she needs me. As I listened to her talk about what happened I tried my best to cover the bulge in my pants, but I don’t think the shit worked. Obviously not because here I was about to fuck the shit out of the woman of my dreams. I was so in love with her, but I knew this would only be for one night. She wanted to feel better, after all that was my job.

When I flipped her over on her stomach and gripped her hips I was ready to go all in, but thought I wanted to take this all night. I needed to savor this moment. I placed the condom on my dick. I always walked around with a condom although I don’t have sex very often. I guess I like to have something just in case…I guess this was that kind of situation. I heard her moaning as I placed the condom on and thought “she was ready.” I let my dick trail down her ass cheeks one more time before I entered her sweet pussy. I made her lift her ass a little so I could get good leverage when I entered. The second my dick touched her walls, we both let out a moan. Damn even with my dick standing still her pussy felt perfect. I gripped her hips again and eased her pussy on my dick. I heard her moan again. I moved her body slowly until she caught the rhythm. She took control and moved her now dripping pussy all over my solid dick. I leaned forward and whispered in her ear “Fuck me baby.” She held onto the pillow and dug that pussy deeper on that dick. I held onto her shoulders so now I was in control. I made sure she felt this dick. Pumping it in and out of her pussy like I was drilling for oil. Her moans turned into light screams. I fucking love the way she sounded. I lifted her lower body off of the bed and I was ready to go deeper. I placed both feet on the bed as her ass was directly in front of me. I held onto her waist and give her more wood. The pussy juices were so much I just couldn’t let that shit go to waste. I took my dick out and ate her from behind. The only sounds you heard were her moans and my slurps. My face was covered in her natural juices and I was ready for more pussy. Now the only question I had was “I wonder if she can ride this dick?”

I got my face up from between her legs and I told her to climb on top of me. I can tell she was a little nervous. Either she didn’t know how to ride dick or she was afraid to take this dick for a ride. Whatever it was she was gonna learn tonight. Baby got on top of me placed her feet on the bed, similar to what I did and bounced up and down on my dick head. I swear I was gonna nut at any minute. One thing that can make me go crazy is a beautiful woman working the shit out of my dick. She sat way down on the dick and started to rock back and forth slowly, looking at me with those beautiful eyes. I think this was the reason I did everything from the back. I was afraid to actually look at her. Although we were both in this position I felt when she looked at me, she would be ashamed of what we were doing. She started to moan again, this time a little louder than before. She leaned forward on my chest and worked that pussy on me faster. I was in heaven!

I felt the pussy gripping the head of my dick. I felt her body tense up and she did it. Not only did baby cum all over me, but she left a puddle between my legs. I didn’t know she was a squirter. I felt that my job was done although I didn’t come yet, but she obviously wasn’t finished. She flipped around facing my legs, removed the condom and took all my shit in her mouth. The second her warm mouth touched my dick I knew it was over. Here I was getting my dick sucked and having pussy in my face. I grabbed that ass and ate her out again. Licked up all that squirt shit she did earlier. Beautiful sucked and deep-throat my dick until I was ready to cum. I moaned “Damn I’m about to cum” and baby didn’t stop. She wanted me to cum in her mouth. I never had that shit happen to me before. Most girls act like you shot em in the chest when they get a little cum drop on their lips. She wanted the whole shit in her mouth.

I felt it at the tip…I knew it was coming. Right before it came bursting out of me she turned around so I could see her face. I held on to the top of her head and I pushed her head down on it deeper. It was coming…I could feel it. Damn it’s coming…I continued to push her head on my dick. “Awwwwwwwwww Damn” I yelled and just like that she caught the whole thing in her mouth and swallowed my nut. Baby girl even licked the remnants of nut from the head of my dick. I felt like a new man. I felt like I just did it for the first time. After tonight I knew the woman that I loved would love me back. We just shared some awesome shit…I just knew she would look at me differently.

After that night of crazy stupid sex, she still viewed me as a friend, but now with benefits. The feelings I had obviously weren’t reciprocated. For the rest of our college career we hooked up occasionally, when she wasn’t involved with any of her boyfriends. After college she moved to NYC and I stayed behind. We hooked up anytime she came back in to town. I eventually met a great woman and got married. Although I love my wife dearly, there is something about beautiful that I cannot shake. I think it’s the eyes or maybe it’s the way she guzzles the nut. So yes although I love my wife, I’m cheating on her with the love of my life.

Hello V.I.,

I am truly stressing and I need some serious advice. I’ve been married about 5 years now and 3 years ago my husband and I started having marital issues. We started arguing way too much, so there was a point where we sorta separated. I went out one night with my friends and met this guy. We started exchanging texts and meeting for drinks. One night we slept together, which I instantly regretted. I felt so weird sleeping with someone that wasn’t my husband. I broke things off with the guy and had a long talk with my hubby and we decided to make things work.

A month later I found out that I was pregnant. I was so excited because my husband and I have no kids and we were trying for so long to have a baby. He was so attentive during my pregnancy. Matter of fact I think it made us stronger. Our daughter was born and I never seen so much joy in his eyes. We were finally whole. The issue is, I have doubts that he’s the father. The other man didn’t know that I was pregnant, but I honestly think my baby girl is his child. She looks just like him. I tried to see a inkling of looks from my husband, but my daughter has a dead giveaway. She has hazel eyes and so does her dad…the other man. I know he’s the father. The issue is I don’t know how much longer I can keep this secret from my husband. He loves our daughter more than life itself. How do I tell him that I cheated and our daughter isn’t his child? I’m stressing out about this because every day I feel like I’m living a lie. My daughter only knows him as her father, so he is technically her father. I feel if I do tell him he would leave us. I made a mistake but every day I think God is punishing me. I’m living in silent hell.

Afraid to Tell The Truth

Dear ATTTT,

I am so sorry that you’re struggling with this issue internally. This is something that is very serious not only for you, but for your daughter’s life. Although, you feel this way the truth will come out sooner or later. It’s your choice if you want to tell it or let it tell itself. This is a difficult decision because this could possibly end not only your marriage, but the relationship with the only father your daughter might ever know. You have to decide this on your own. No one can tell you how to handle this situation. Just realize that there are always consequences to your actions. Yea if he finds out he might be upset and walk out your lives. He might also acknowledge that you two were separated and he’s raising this child as his own and loves her like she is.

At the end of the day biological or not this man is still the father of this child. She may not have his eyes, but that girl looks at her daddy as a God. The first relationship a young girl treasures is the relationship with her father. She treasures the man that sacrificed and raised her, she doesn’t look at who’s eyes she has. She looks at who held her when she first came out the womb and who loved her when she was a bad ass unlovable teenager. You have to decide this, not me. All I can say is take it to the Lord in prayer.

I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!

The opinions expressed in this post does not reflect those of Candy Diaries. Candy Diaries is an equal opportunity blogger, and thinks this is some trifflin shit. Here is the Mystery Man.Enjoy!

I want you
To have my first and my last child
But not now
I’m not done playing around

I’m not saying that
I don’t wanna stick around
I want to stick you…and every cutie in the town

You turn me on
With your skin so soft
But I want to get off
And your body’s not enough

I mean, its perfect, I promise
It’s fly in its entirety
You think that I be lyin
But I just want some variety

It tears me up when I’m with you
I love you
But I want to bang your girlfriends, your sister,
your cousin

I even caught your mom’s sideways glance
You see that ass in her pants?
I love you but I’d hit it if I had the chance…no disrespect

And I don’t feel guilty
Because although my minds filthy
My love for you is pure
Just let me bang a few more whores

Relationships aren’t really designed for me
Resign my D-I-C
for monogamy?

I just want to be open and honest
Bang my old chick from college
And come home to you

And don’t worry bout the bone
I’d keep it stronger for you
And my love doesn’t exist
For nobody, but you

So STOP TRIPPIN
I cant help that my magic stick
Is so sick I can whip, pornstar chicks
They submit to the dick

Strippers abandon their poles
To swing around mine
I don’t pay for lap dances
She pays for the ride

And I’m feelin like dykes are missing out
From the pole I’m giving out
I’ve turned a couple out, put it in their mouths
Backshots, shouts on the couch

Digging her out,
“A” in the air, she’s reppin the South
Head down, smelling the couch
Sometimes she’s saying “ouch”
Don’t care—cum coming out.ahhhhhhh

But its just a nut
Once she’s gone, I’m back in the tub
Shower going, missing your love
Water hot, steam up above

Love you, but
You can’t accept me
For who I am Am I a criminal or am I just a man?

Dear V.I,

I’m writing to you because I have a rather delicate situation on my hands. My bestfriend has been seeing this guy for about 6 months now and she’s head over heels in love. We were out together one night and saw him. I admit we both looked interested in him, but he came up to her. It wasn’t a huge deal to me, because I was sorta seeing someone. They started getting closer and closer while my boyfriend and I grew farther and farther apart. Well one night we went to a mutual friend’s party and she brought her man along. I drove my car because I came through straight from work. We were having a great time when she got a call from her mom and she had to leave because of some kind of small family emergency. For some reason her boyfriend wanted to stay so she was pissed but asked me if I could drive him home. It was no big deal to me, so I said sure.

Well on the way home we were talking and the conversation took an odd turn. He started talking about how he was interested in me from the get go, but was too nervous to talk to me. While at a light this guy leaned over and kissed me. I don’t know what came over us but when we got to his place we got down with it. Yes, I had sex with my bestfriend’s man. I realized what I did wrong and I can’t take it back, but the bad part is we’ve done it a second time. Do I go ahead and tell her and risk loosing my bestfriend? Or do I just stop whatever sexual relationship and pretend nothing happened?

Help me!!!

Not so “best” friend

Dear Not so “best” friend,

*Whew* Let me be straight up…that is some trifling ass shit right there. Homegirl is definitely not your bestfriend, because there is no way in hell a bestfriend would do that to another. I’m not sure if you were drunk the first time so you could use the “I was drunk” excuse, but doing that shit AGAIN? HELL NAW!!! You were definitely dirty for what you did. F*ck him…he’s just a man. Those folks come and go, but she is your bestfriend. That is a stronger bond. You truly crossed the line with this. I don’t know if you expected me to be harsh with it, but you need to get your ass beat. Straight up. The best thing for you to do is tell her before she bucks up and catches you sucking her man’s d*ck. I know you sucking him off.  She’s probably gonna deck you or she might simply just kick you to the curb. You can’t fight her choice.

You allowed this to happen. In the beginning of your letter you stated from the beginning you were feeling him. So you knew screwing him was something you wanted to do. The fact that you both are deceiving her is just  that bullshit. The more you do this and not say anything to her is just going to make the situation worse. I will guarantee the fact that you were the one sleeping with her boo with hurt her more, than the fact her boo actually cheated. Tell her the truth, and STOP SLEEPING WITH THAT DUDE.  I know d*ck is glorious but it’s not enough to f*ck up a long time friendship. Come clean and tell her. You would actually be a better person for doing so.

I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!

I know we’re off that Tiger Woods thing, but his situation made me wonder what goes through a person’s mind when they decide to cheat. What are their relationships like? Why do they continue? I’ve decided to interview 2 people that are either currently or formally in a cheating relationship. First up I decided to interview a guy that is currently in a relationship, but is also cheating on his girlfriend. The names in these blogs will remain anonymous. I don’t want nobody ass to get whopped on the count of my blogs.

1. Describe your current relationship status. I am currently in a relationship with the mother of my child. The relationship has had it fair share of ups and downs makeups and breakups, but she is the person that I would like to spend the rest of my life with.

2. How long have you been in this relationship? We have been together for almost 8 years now. Started out as friends with benefits, but became serious a few months later.

3. At what point in the relationship did you start cheating? I was cheating pretty much from the beginning. I had just made 21 at the time and was having regular sex with another female when I met her. I did let the other female know that I had met someone else, but we continued to have sex regardless.

4. Is there something your partner is lacking that made you start cheating? No there was absolutely nothing that she was missing. Actually she is everything that I could ever want in a woman both mentally and physically.

5. Are you cheating with one person or multiple partners? There have been times when it was just one other person, but for the most part it has been multiple partners.

6. Does the person you’re cheating with know that you’re in a relationship? Has your girlfriend suspected that you’re cheating? I have always made it a habit to let anyone that I talk to know that I am in a relationship. I find it much easier to tell them up front than to have them find out later on. It makes it easier to keep it a secret and this way they can make a conscious decision to deal with it or not. It works fine for a while, but women have a tendency to catch feelings or worst fall in love and that’s where I draw the line and break it off.

I think she has suspected cheating, but she has never had any concrete evidence to prove that I was.

7. Do you believe the phrase “Men will be men”? If so, is that fueling you to continue to do what you want to do? I do believe in the phrase men will be men, but I am certainly not saying that there are no men out there that wouldn’t cheat on their woman. That type of guy is just rare. I can’t speak for every guy out there, but I can speak for some of the people that I know who feel the same way that I do. When I was younger it was like a sport for me. I was trying to sleep with as many women as possible. If I had a woman at the time, I just cheated. As I got into to my late 20’s that began to change. I don’t chase after women anymore, I have no desire to. If I see a nice looking woman I would appreciate her beauty and never say a word to her, but if she approaches me that is a different story. As a man I wouldn’t turn it down. Don’t get me wrong I am not the type of guy to sleep with anything that walks, I have standards. Believe me when I tell you I have turned down many.

8. If the situation where reversed and she was the cheater, do you think you would try to make it work or leave? I could never be with a woman again if she cheated on me, I would leave.

9. Has cheating been a pattern in past relationships? It has, but this is the longest relationship I have been in and the most I have cheated on anyone.

10. Do you think at the end of the day it is all worth the hassle and the drama? It is definitely not worth the hassle and the drama. There have been times when I have stopped cheating and cut all the other women off, there was actually a sense of relief after that. I could leave my phone laying around and didn’t have to worry about who might call or text. That was actually one of the best feelings ever, but it was only a matter of time before it all started again.