This is a response email from the Ask V.I. blog I did a few weeks ago “Married Yet Still Single“. The husband wanted to address the responses to his dilemma. This is where you come in. I will let you guys respond to him. I won’t comment unless need be. This is your time to let it all out. Remember he’s listening and apparently so is his wife.

I hear the comments stated in response to my situation. As a husband, I gave my all to my wife. Understanding from a male perspective is something you may never understand. While many of you believe that I should not worry about the money, I believe you are sadly mistaken. You see, my wife doesn’t pay any bills and that nice automobile that she drives…I paid for that. I spoiled her..I intended to do that because she was my queen. Some of you women, however, are so pitiful that you take good men for granted and run them off then turn them into monsters. I say this to say that even had I given her a timely divorce, she would still have been entitled to some form of alimony. Not happening. I told her prior, you have 100% of me…now at best she is split 40/60 with the misses. I found out from the misses that she also reads Candy Diaries. So to the editor, its a small world.

As I was saying, some of you have husbands or boyfriends that have committed their all for you…don’t betray that because once you do, the trust is almost impossible to replace. Some of you are laying up with somebody’s husband right now…or somebody’s boyfriend ..maybe you may make a faithful wife or girlfriend some day because you have what it takes it seems to keep a man happy and would make him want to leave everything for you. Wives and girlfriends take note. And by the way I am not stringing the other woman along. She is a willing participant. This can not work if one does not know about the other. I believe I have never been as candid with a female as her. Why is that possible? Is it she is a better listener? Or her only desire is to make sure you feel appreciated.

Nevertheless, I now see how some men were able to have two entirely different families and sometimes they don’t find out about the other until the damn funeral. So for her betrayal why shouldn’t I be able to carry out this affair? Trust me it hurts her to know that something is up but she can’t catch me in the act. One thing a woman hates is when another woman is stealing from her cookie jar. Please tell me people, why shouldn’t I dog her out for however long so she can appreciate the good that she had?