My Three “C’s” to a Successful Relationship

About 2 weeks ago I had a convo with a good friend and he asked me “What do you think makes a good relationship?” It was definitely a good question that I didn’t think I had the answer to. I mean there are so many things that can make a relationship a successful one, but looking back at my past relationships I thought about some of the things that were lacking. That is when I came up with my three C’s to a successful relationship. Without these components I think a relationship will have a harder time developing into something stable. One cannot survive without the other, so if you’re not willing to work on all then the relationship may not get where you want it to go.

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Can You Have An Open Relationship? *Vintage*

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Ok, so I was having a conversation with a homegirl and she asked me something that just threw me for a loop. She asked if I would ever consider being in an open relationship. *Does a spit take* I was perplexed because she knew the type of person I am, so to ask me that was just crazy. She was looking at me to honestly answer her. Being the selfish bitch that I am, I kindly responded in my best Miss. Sophia voice “Hell no”. Then this heffa really went further with it… “Why not”. Well, besides the fact that I never liked to share I can’t see my man having sex with someone else and being OK with it. She confessed to me that she was  considering asking her man about starting an  open relationship, but was unsure on how to approach the subject. I don’t have much expertise in this subject, but I starting to think about it.  I know she’s reading this so…girl I came up with some rules/guidelines that ya’ll asses need to follow. Ol nasty ass…lol j/k…not really.

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Training Day: How To Train Your Man

Anything with a penis can be trained…PERIOD! Men may not like what I have to say, but dammit sometimes it needs to be said. Ladies, do you know how to train your man? I’m not talking about the normal “sit and stay” commands like they normally do, I’m talking about training your man to better your relationship. I don’t want to get this twisted, I’m not saying only men can be trained. Men often train their women into being who they think they should be. Maybe women need to learn a thing or two and shape her new potential into being a better partner for her. Some would say you’re trying to make him into the “perfect” man, but as you all know I often say the “perfect” person does not exist. You’re simply shaping him into the man that you know he has potential to be in a lasting relationship. You know what; the title  “How to train your man” might be a little too threatening for some. How about “How to shape your relationship, by making him a whole lot better than he was when you first met him.” Yea that kinda has an easier flow to it; don’t you think? Lol…

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Should He Still Have Female Friends If He’s With You?

If you got into a relationship with someone, would you expect them to stop communicating with friends of the opposite sex? Last night was the season finale of Basketball Groupie Jump-offs, and one of the scenes I found very interesting. So Evelyn said she drove by a restaurant and saw her “fiancé” Chad “Ocho Cinco” having lunch with a female. She didn’t confront him until he got back to the house. She’s saying that because he’s engaged he should not be out and about with other people for fear of people talking. His stance was “You shouldn’t worry about what other people think, you should know your man and trust him”. Now I’m not sure why Evelyn is tripping because I think Chad fancies dick. I am convinced he’s a gay trying to pretend. So in Evelyn’s case was this a chick trying to protect what’s “her” or a bitch struggling with low self-esteem?

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Top 5 Mistakes Cheating Men Make *Vintage*

One of the dumbest things a person can do is getting caught cheating. It’s not the fact that they’re cheating; it’s the way they leave evidence all over the place. If you’re not good at cheating, your ass doesn’t need to do it. I’ve heard some of the dumbest ways people were caught cheating, and then get upset when they got caught. If you were smart in the beginning you would have your cake and eating it too. I’m going to share the top 5 best cheating mistakes men make.

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Does Sex Complicate Love?

Does sex seem to rule over your relationship more than the love does? It’s like everything is good, but when it comes to the bedroom it trumps everything else. Some people are attached emotionally to sex. If the sex is good, then they’re “in love”. Then you have some people who fall in love first, but then realize they aren’t in love if the sex isn’t as great as it use to be. Once a relationship progresses and becomes routine, sometimes one person in the relationship might get a little too comfortable. They don’t do the things they did in the beginning because basically the honeymoon is now over. The next thing you know the “love” you once shared is almost non-existant because the sex is suffering.

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ASK V.I.~Desperately Horny

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Hey V.I.

I have somewhat of an issue, well two. About two months ago I began having sex with my boyfriend of 6 months. He’s my first and as far as I know the sex is good. I wouldn’t really know since I’ve never been with anyone else lol. My problem is that the sex is kind of boring for me. He enjoys it, but I can’t really see how because we do the same thing every time. It’s almost like a routine and he never wants to switch it up. I tell him we should try new things and I don’t want him to think he’s bad in bed so I try to make him think that he’s getting bored, but it doesn’t work. I say things like “Let’s try something new, this is probably beginning to get too predictable for you, maybe you should teach me how to do something you like.” all he says is “No, u don’t need to learn anything else, our sex is fine.” He’s just not taking the hint. My other issue is that when we first began having sex I told him I was interested in being choked, that I just wanted to try it once and see how it felt. He didn’t say no, he just wasn’t very enthused. He agreed to try it but he still hasn’t done it. I don’t want to make him uncomfortable but I need to know if you have any advice on how I can get him to be a little more daring in the bedroom. He doesn’t even make any NOISE! Sometimes I really think he isn’t enjoying it but he says otherwise… I don’t know what to do. I’m very much in love with him I’m just getting bored.


Desperately Horny

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Bad Connection

“Can you hear me? Can you hear me now?” 43% of  relationships end due to lack of communication. How often do you hear “he/she never listen to me” and “they did and we connected” when discussing the demise of a relationship. Men and women want the same things in relationships, it’s just communicated differently at times. Have you ever had a conversation where you’ve clearly stated you want, but gotten the exact opposite in return.

Merely a bad connection…as if you were driving through a tunnel with music blasting but still trying to take the call. But this person is sitting right in front of you. I think it’s best to be up front in relationships, so there is no “mistaking” the intend of either party….COMMUNICATION is key! And once you’ve lost that it’s just as if you’ve lost your cellular signal…*SCREAMING* “Can you hear me, Can you hear me now….” *shrug* Guess it’s a “Bad Connection”.

How’s your signal?,

Did Sex Ruin Your Life?

Have you ever had the kind of sex that just made you cry? *screeching sound* Hold up, I didn’t mean that in a good way. I mean the kind of sex that is sooooooooooo bad that you can’t understand how in the world another human being could perform such a atrocious act. It is so common for people to break down when the sex is that straight crap. It’s even harder when the person has everything else going for them, but can’t stand up in the bedroom. What would you do? Let it go and pray things get better or do you call it quits and move onto the next one?

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Getting While The Gettings Good


We’ve all been in the situation where we are with that special someone and it’s going good and you’re about to make it rain. I mean you’re at that peak and you can feel the orgasm from the depths of your soul. It’s almost there…almost there and they let theirs out first, leaving you damp from the  slight drizzle you formed. Then they have the nerve to roll over and say to you “Damn that was good. Did you cum”?  This shit is becoming too common in relationships. SELFISHNESS!!!  I’m not saying that you have to cum together and the sound of waves are going to hit the shore and develop the thunderous sensation between your legs. Naw I’m not saying that.  I’m saying if you happen to get yours first, shouldn’t it be common courtesy to continue so your boo can get their rocks off too?

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