Hi V.I.,

Thought about losing my f*ck buddy due to knowing he must have multiple f*ck buddies. He is fixated on not bringing up the subject of ending this situation,but I think it’s time to move on. How do I break it down to this slick bastard that the time has come to part ways without hurting his feelings? Really don’t want to give up the friend I have had since high school.  Really don’t… Love him and it is what it is. Don’t even see him in my future because he is definitely not the type to settle down. The sex is great, but beginning to see there is no point in having him around. MY. BRAIN IS TAKING OVER FAST. How do I tell him he is a damn hoe and needs to go?

Getting Rid of the Dick

Dear GROTD,

When it’s time it’s time. If brain is telling you to let that dick go, you need to follow your first thought. The thing I’m struggling with is, why does it bother you if he’s sleeping with other people? If you’re not being sexually responsible I can understand your concern, but if you are what’s the problem? If he’s just your f*ck buddy it shouldn’t matter if he has other buddies out there. Did you guys agree to only f*ck each other? That’s not being f*ck buddies, that’s being in a relationship without the drama. The whole reason that you’ve put the label of bed buddy is because ya’ll f*cking…that’s all. It seems that you’re feeling more in general, but the fact that your label is a f*ck buddy is starting to bother you.

I understand that you two are friends, but if you’re really not feeling it anymore you have to just say it. Tell him although he’s your homie you wanna take a break from the whole f*cking debacle. If he asks you why and he will just let him know where you are mentally you’re just not feeling the whole sex buddy situation. You don’t have to tell him “You f*cking other bitches so you gots ta go.” You wanna keep the friendship and that shit will start some mess. Just clean it up and say it in a way that he doesn’t feel like his dick is the enemy. At the end of the day you still want to keep that dick as a reserve in case you need a fix at 11:58 pm on a cold winters night in December. Just Sayin…

I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!