Women Give Too Much Power To These Half Ass Men


 I am thoroughly sick of these women releasing their power to these n*ggas and yes I said n*ggas that don’t give a promise of a fuck. They treat em however they want and these chicks get down on their knees and beg these men for love. I blame women for this shit. Men do what you allow them to do and the second you give him everything, he turns around and gives you nothing. You make this man your world and fight him on a daily basis to acknowledge your existence. Then you cry on a daily basis and use these low self-esteem ass tears to gain sympathy. Like if you cry and beg just enough he will treat you better. These men don’t give a damn about your tears or your heart, but you release all the power in your body to make him feel like you truly love him. Chile please.


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What Is Your Definition of Good…I Mean GREAT Sex?


What’s your definition of good GREAT sex? Everyone’s answers might be different, but the goal is the same. Great sex is the type of sex that makes you want to put everything in that motherfucker’s name. Lol iKid. The dick so damn good that you would get up at 2 am in the dead of winter and run outside to turn on his car so it can heat up for his ass. Great sex is the type of sex that make you say “fuck them bitches” when your girlfriends call you to go out to the club. Great sex is the type of sex that has your legs wobbling, sweat dripping off your titty and new hair do gone to hell but you still suck his dick as a fucking “thank you” just for being fucking you. When a man knows how to do it just right it can make every sex session feel like damn Thanksgiving.

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Ask V.I.~My Summer Sex Buddy Got Me Confused


Hey, VI

Okay, so me and this guy started fucking around last summer. Feelings for him was at the high of all highs . Anyways, summer ended and he went back to school. We txt then stopped for awhile then txt and jus stopped. Now this summer came and he hit me up on fb asking me if i was still in town and i didn’t see that message till a month later cus i had deactivated my account but it just had happened i had txt him a night n then all things started up again . We’ve  “hung out” couple times and then i held out on him and then we started txting again . I really do like this dude but idk what the fuck to call what we are doin? Every summer you back in town we ‘get together’ and aint no title on what we are doin . He says he has feelings for me but i acted like i didnt like him so he went with the flow  O.o idk, i just wanna know if i should wait for him to come bck nxt summer or just say fuk it n move on . While try to move on cus i think about him everyday  would sumthing come out of this or he just wants pussy??  I mean he keeps coming bck dont that mean something? Like he has to have feelings to cus you wont fuk sumbody unless you got feelings..right??


Not sure

Dear Not Sure,

A man can fuck and it’s just a fuck. He keeps coming back because you keep giving it to him. Men and women are different when it comes to sex. Some woman can’t have sex without some sort of emotional attachment to the man. A man can have sex with a hole in the wall if it allows him to cum. It’s “Emotionless Sex”.  I said all of that to say, just because a man comes back doesn’t mean he has feelings. He comes back because you make it very easy for him to do so. 

Obviously you’re the “Summer Luvin” chick. When he goes back to school he has “other priorities” like a girlfriend. If the only time he’s interested in calling you is when summer is coming then that’s just what it is. You can’t make a relationship out of a summertime fling. He may like you, but that doesn’t mean much of anything. Your like and his like are clearly two different things. If you’re cool with being just the summer fling *which we know you aren’t* cool, play your part-time role. If you know you’re interested in more say something. Now I think I know what he’s gonna say, but hey still bring it up. Closed mouths don’t get fed. You can’t assume that he knows exactly how you’re feeling about this. 

One thing us as women tend to do is believe that men are mind readers. Chile I wish that was the case because a lot of dumb shit would not go on in relationships. Say something and if he doesn’t feel the same or tries to give you the run around then you know what’s up. If he says “I want us to be together” blah blah blah then you go from there. Don’t be afraid to speak what you want. You may not always get it, but at least no one has to guess the shit either. 

I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you see things clearer in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!

How To Deal With A Heart You Didn’t Break

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Ladies, have you ever dealt with a man that was just not “emotionally” available? No matter how hard you tried to get close to him he seems to have you at arms length? You can’t understand why he’s so distant when clearly there is something about you he’s feeling. Well this isn’t at all uncommon. The same way how you keep certain men at a distance, there are men out there going through the same thing…a broken heart. Some men are so traumatized by getting their heart broken they refuse to let anyone in all the way. The sad part is these are the men you’re feeling the most, but they won’t let you  bypass the gates. You like each other  and want to continue with the relationship, but how do you deal with a heart you clearly didn’t break?

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Why Guys Dump Girls They Like

Ladies, you meet a guy and it seems that you two are feeling the hell out of each other. You go out on a few dates, you talk on the phone for hours even meet a friend or two.  Then the next thing you know he ends the relationship. You’re left standing there wondering what the hell happened. Men are some of the most unpredictable people I’ve ever met. You could have everything going on between the both of you, but once reality sets in it’s all over. You’re now having a  WTF just happened moment. Here are a few played ass reasons a dude might dump a woman he actually likes.

Watching Someone You Love, LOVE SOMEONE ELSE


I must say one of the hardest emotions to control is love. No matter what you try to cover it up with, it always seeps out of your heart. As grownups we fall in and out of something we think is love, but realized it wasn’t what we thought it was when it’s over. The worst thing about love is that it can happen when you least expect it, with someone you least expected to fall for…a friend. Now you’ve secretly fallen deep without their knowledge. You suffer through the pain while they live their lives. You’re now watching someone you love, love someone else.

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Are You Too Emotionally Invested In A “Just Sex” Relationship?


Good dick can have a chick  gone. No matter how much she tells herself it’s just for fun, every deep stroke he gives makes her think “what if.” Not all women can have sex without catching feelings. When a woman gives herself sexually, she ends up giving herself emotionally. Sex can be very emotional no matter how the relationship started out. The second you gave him the mingee you got dick hooked. Then you start acting crazy. Yes, you start treating the “just sex” relationship like something else…a RELATIONSHIP. You get jealous if you see him with someone else. If you call and he doesn’t answer the phone you get mad. If he comes over, hits it from the back real good your ass wants to cuddle and talk afterwards. Chile, you’re all the way never right when you create this relationship in your head. You have taken a situation that was suppose to be so simple and turned it into something else. You have become too emotionally invested in a just sex relationship. The question is, is it ok to be emotional if you’re giving your other parts?

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He Lied To Get It:A Woman’s Guide To Sifting Through The Bullsh*t

Men are some inventive ass people. Some men go to great lengths to woo and romance a woman, tell her everything she thinks she wants to hear JUST TO GET THE PANTY DRAWERS. It’s like they need to conquer all the cooch in the world, just to put another notch on their belt. By no means am I saying that all men ain’t shit, but a majority of you need someone to kick you in the nuts right quick. Ladies, I know we sometimes wear our hearts on our sleeves, but there comes a time when you have to see game for what it is. If you’re feeling the sexual attraction and want to allow him hit, by all means do you bew bew you’re a grown woman. If you’re trying to take things slow but he’s telling you “I love you” while trying to remove your panties chances are you’re in a “hit it and quit it” situation.

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Ask V.I.~He’s A Loser, But I Think I Like Him

Hey V.I.,

Okay, so I’ve been kicking it with this guy for like 2 yrs just sex, been on a date 1x…I complain 2 him all the time about taking me out…like damn Applebees  is 2 for 20..lol. I’m not sure why I’m so stuck on him. I mean he doesn’t really have a good job and he doesn’t live on his own. He doesn’t have a futuristic mind…no goals…and I promise you I see more potential in him that he sees in himself. He has a child that’s in another state. I’m not sure how much he provides, but when I do ask about his kid he seems to be current on what’s going on.

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F*cking While Loving, and Loving F*cking *Explicit*

*Snapping Fingers* Welcome to the Diary of A Mad Guest Blogger. This is a segment where we feature the bloggers that got thangs to say. Please give up for Owl of Owlasylum.

Alright, I want to write about f*cking. Can I do that? Can I write about f*cking without feeling like I’m some lost hedonistic socially irresponsible sexist pig? Can I do that? Sure, I enjoy making love just a much as my more reserved brethen do. In fact, I probably do the caring, caressing thing more often than I do the pull your hair, bite your neck,  push my penis into your cervix through your mouth thing. BUT…every now and then…I need to release an aspect of my Self sexually.

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