Hey, VI

Okay, so me and this guy started fucking around last summer. Feelings for him was at the high of all highs . Anyways, summer ended and he went back to school. We txt then stopped for awhile then txt and jus stopped. Now this summer came and he hit me up on fb asking me if i was still in town and i didn’t see that message till a month later cus i had deactivated my account but it just had happened i had txt him a night n then all things started up again . We’ve  “hung out” couple times and then i held out on him and then we started txting again . I really do like this dude but idk what the fuck to call what we are doin? Every summer you back in town we ‘get together’ and aint no title on what we are doin . He says he has feelings for me but i acted like i didnt like him so he went with the flow  O.o idk, i just wanna know if i should wait for him to come bck nxt summer or just say fuk it n move on . While try to move on cus i think about him everyday  would sumthing come out of this or he just wants pussy??  I mean he keeps coming bck dont that mean something? Like he has to have feelings to cus you wont fuk sumbody unless you got feelings..right??

HELP!!!!!

Not sure

Dear Not Sure,

A man can fuck and it’s just a fuck. He keeps coming back because you keep giving it to him. Men and women are different when it comes to sex. Some woman can’t have sex without some sort of emotional attachment to the man. A man can have sex with a hole in the wall if it allows him to cum. It’s “Emotionless Sex”.  I said all of that to say, just because a man comes back doesn’t mean he has feelings. He comes back because you make it very easy for him to do so. 

Obviously you’re the “Summer Luvin” chick. When he goes back to school he has “other priorities” like a girlfriend. If the only time he’s interested in calling you is when summer is coming then that’s just what it is. You can’t make a relationship out of a summertime fling. He may like you, but that doesn’t mean much of anything. Your like and his like are clearly two different things. If you’re cool with being just the summer fling *which we know you aren’t* cool, play your part-time role. If you know you’re interested in more say something. Now I think I know what he’s gonna say, but hey still bring it up. Closed mouths don’t get fed. You can’t assume that he knows exactly how you’re feeling about this. 

One thing us as women tend to do is believe that men are mind readers. Chile I wish that was the case because a lot of dumb shit would not go on in relationships. Say something and if he doesn’t feel the same or tries to give you the run around then you know what’s up. If he says “I want us to be together” blah blah blah then you go from there. Don’t be afraid to speak what you want. You may not always get it, but at least no one has to guess the shit either. 

I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you see things clearer in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!