Pay Attention To The Red Flags In Dating

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Listen here, when it comes to dating ya’ll better pay attention to the signs. If you see or hear something that doesn’t seem right, get the hell out of the way. When it comes to dating we tend to let shit slide. We are so nervous that we “miss our blessings” that we overlook shit that need to be looked at. I’ve become a firm believer of “the signs.” If you gather enough red flags it’s the universe telling you this shit ain’t for you. There are some of us that bypass these obvious flags for other reasons. Maybe it’s loneliness, love or just plain ol physical attraction; if you bypass these red flags can you get mad when the shit doesn’t work out in the end?

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Can Being A Big Flirt Help or Harm Your Love Life?

Ok, so I can admit…I’m a flirt. I think I get it from my momma. I definitely flirt, especially when I’m drankin. I consider myself a very harmless flirt tho, well other folks don’t see it that way. Flirting is something that just comes naturally for most. It’s nothing wrong with it, but I realized that sometimes being such a big flirt can help and harm your love life.  When it comes to flirting, do you think that people will look at you more in a negative light than a positive one?

So like I stated earlier I’m a big flirt. I don’t flirt with every Tom, Dick and Harpo but I do flirt when I met or I see certain people I know. Don’t get me wrong this is the single me we’re talking about. In relationships I’m cool. Don’t do all that shit, but it seems I do it more when I’m unattached. Nothing harmless; just talk shit, dance with a guy or maybe pretend to take his number.  Nothing crazy, but I find that the more I flirt *harmlessly* the more I’m known as a tease. I’m not sure how one became the other, but I was recently called a tease by someone, I NEVER EVEN FLIRT WITH BEFORE. So now I’m wondering is my harmless flirting being read as something else. That’s why you just can’t flirt with everybody. Now if I met a guy I like in my social circle, do I have to worry that someone may mistake my flirting for something else and “warn” him?  Then I may lose out on the guy I like because someone took something the wrong fucking way. See that’s why flirting is so damn dangerous.

I have definitely learned that flirting is like drinking liquor…You gotta do it in moderation. At the end of the day as long as you’re secure with who you are, then fuck everyone else and what they think. If someone you’re interested in takes you flirting as a sign of something else then that’s on them. Obviously they aren’t secure enough to even deal with you. If you aren’t taking your flirting to a major level where it is deemed disrespectful, then fuck it. If you’re single, you answer to no one. If you’re in a relationship and you do that shit, you might get your ass whooped so um yea don’t do it.

Holla at me: Do you think being a flirt turns the good guys away?

Who Should Holla First?

If you saw a fine tender out and about, would you holla? Would you be bold enough to walk up to a man and say “Hi, I’m *insert name here*”. Most women can’t even fix their mouth piece to ask a guy for his number let alone talk to him first.  We’ve grown up with “let him chase you. If you give in too quickly he won’t respect you”. I’m sorry but all of that is a bunch of bullshit. It’s 2011 and women are obviously preaching their independence and “anything a man can do, I can do better” lyrics. If that’s the case, why aren’t we allowing ourselves room to modify some of the old fashioned lessons we were thought? Hell I had the same mentality until I realized that I am a bad ass bitch, and if I want to holla DAMN IT I’M GONNA HOLLA.

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