Can you have a friendship with his ex? I know most of you looking at this like “This heffa must be out of her mind.” I know it’s not that common, but it’s not unheard of either. There are some people that have a friendly relationship with their significant’s other’s ex. They may not hang out and shit, but they’re cordial with each other. No bad vibes, well at least on the surface. I can say that I’ve never had a friendship or even a decent conversation with an ex of anyone I’ve ever dated. Them bitches didn’t like me. Maybe because I looked better than their ugly asses. Whatever the reasoning I never had the opportunity, not like I wanted it anyway. I do know some women that hang out, go shopping even chat on the phone. Chile that is just a little too much closeness for me. Would you be able to befriend your man’s ex even though he’s not into her anymore?

Like I said I’ve never had a friendship with an ex of someone I dated. Now maybe I became cool with someone and we later found out that we dated the same person, but never while I was in a relationship. I remember back in the day this chick and I dated the same guy…at the same time. Obviously we knew nothing about each other, until we were both deeply in “love” with the cheating ass dude. I had nothing but issues with this chick when we found out about each other. This hoe would call my house and hang up, she would stare at me whenever she saw me in public. She even told him lies about me in hopes that he would stop f*cking with me. This grimy ol ugly bitch was really aching for a whoop ass for real. Like this bitch hated my guts and I hated hers, all because of a dude that wasn’t shit in the first place.

So after the years passed and I dumped him, she followed suit and kicked him to the curb also. Now being the person I am I never had a problem with her because of him. I knew he was to blame for what was happening. He thought he would be slick and try to play us both. Apparently, she hated me because he loved me also. She couldn’t understand what it was about me, that made him continue to come back. So as the years past and we’ve gotten older I decided to reach out to her. All the years we’ve been beefing over this dude, now we’ve all moved on it’s time for this “beef” to be squashed. I didn’t expect us to be girlfriends and talk on the phone and shit, but I at least wanted to not have this cloud of anger every time we say each other. So I reached out to her online about 6-7 years ago. I said “we’ve had issues with each other for years over “him” and now maybe it’s time we act like adults and squash this thing. You’re not with him, and I’m not with him so why do we still have this anger? He played us both, plan and simple.” I thought that was very mature of me to say. Do you know this ugly ass bitch really tried to come at me? She basically said I always hated on her, and she was his main woman and I was just some bitch he was f*cking. Listen her…I lit in to that hoe so damn good. I swear I don’t get out of character, but if you try me I will COME FOR YOU. I was trying to be mature and bring this shit to a close, but this bitch still wanted to hold up the beef. After that I was done with the whole thing. I don’t have beef with her, but she obviously still has been with me. It’s been about 14 years and this hoe still don’t like me.

So no that whole friendship thing with a woman that dated the same guy you did can’t work for me. It’s something about two women that done screwed the same man, there ain’t nothing friendly about that situation. A bitch will always hate because what was theirs is now yours and she will want it back. If I ever got back with that guy right now do you think ol girl wouldn’t try to get him back? Then you have these chicks out here trying to befriend the new girlfriend to keep her close and go right behind her back. Where do you think that saying “Keep your friends close and your enemies closer” came from? They keep you close and the reason you’re caught slipping you f*ck around and lose your man to some trick. Shit if you can easily lose him then maybe he wasn’t yours in the first place. You was just borrowing his ass. So if you’re cool with his ex just keep a watchful eye on that chick. The next thing you know you find her in your house sucking his dick. That’s when you’re free to whoop a bitch’s ass. I won’t judge!

Holla at me: Have you ever had a friendship with your man’s ex?

There are times in every relationship when you come to the cross road…should I stay or should I go? This decision can be a hard one because although your too through, you have also invested time and love into the relationship. The thing about ending it isn’t always about not being with the person, it’s who you become after the break-up. In most breakups it’s never a mutual decision. One person wants to work things out while the other is ready to move on. This can cause one person to feel jilted and hurt, and eventually angry. This is the point where you can no longer have a civil conversation and grow into relationship enemies. The very thought of the other person makes you pissed. You see them in public and your whole night has gone to bullshit. Some people harbor so many ill feelings for the other person that they grow into enemies. There is a way that you can end the relationship and not gain an enemy for life.

I’ve always had to ability to recognize when a relationship has ran it’s course. No matter who ended it I always came to terms. Breakups in my opinion basically follow the 7 stages of grief; 1. Shock & Denial 2. Pain & Guilt 3.Anger/Bargaining 4. Depression 5. The Upward Turn 6. Reconstruction and Working through 7. Acceptance. When a relationship ends it’s natural to exhibit these signs. Hell you’re human and sometimes the shit can get to you. Like I said no matter how my relationships ended I never made enemies. Well there is this one dude I dated that I cannot stand. If that negro was on fire I wouldn’t even piss on his ass to save his life. Ok, so I am entitled to one…like I said I’m human. For the most part I am still friends with the ex’s that meant some sorta shit to me once upon a time. I just felt there was no way I can hate someone I swore up and down that I was in love with. That just didn’t seem to make sense. Now I cannot be friends right after the breakup. The biggest part of being friends with someone you were involved with is healing. Most people cannot and refuse to heal from what transpired in the relationship and hold so much anger and bitterness for the other. The end of a relationship is a death. Something you once loved has exited your life. The great part of this whole death scenario is that there are times this dead relationship can come back to life. You need time to go through your emotions. That means you have to separate yourself from your ex. Go through your stages of grief, and hopefully you come to the conclusion that the shit was just not meant to be. Sometimes we love so hard we can’t see when a relationship isn’t working. We desperately want it much, that we overlook all the little things that stopped making the relationship great.You have to accept the end for what it is and heal. Once you have fully come to terms and accepted it and can talk about it without busting out into tears, you’ve gotten over the major hump.

The reason it’s so much easier to become enemies with the person you were with is because they already know everything about you. They know what makes you tick, what makes you sad and they know your imperfections. They know your secrets and that’s leverage against the other person. You have to realize that sometimes an ending might bring forth a beautiful beginning. It’s all about what you took from it and apply it to your new relationship. My ex and I have grown so much as friends since our breakup. Sure it was rocky in the beginning, but after time, conversation and forgiveness we’ve become best friends. I can honestly say he’s the greatest friend I have. We respect each other, there for each other and appreciate each other. Holding onto bitterness and anger only destroys you and make it difficult for the best person *hopefully the right person* to get to know the wonderful you. So let go of the pain and move on. It’s not worth hating someone for the rest of your life because they did you wrong. Shit they did your ass a favor. Aren’t you happy that you found out before it was too late?

I must say one of the hardest emotions to control is love. No matter what you try to cover it up with, it always seeps out of your heart. As grownups we fall in and out of something we think is love, but realized it wasn’t what we thought it was when it’s over. The worst thing about love is that it can happen when you least expect it, with someone you least expected to fall for…a friend. Now you’ve secretly fallen deep without their knowledge. You suffer through the pain while they live their lives. You’re now watching someone you love, love someone else.

Have you ever loved someone that loved someone else? It’s the toughest pill to swallow. I once had feelings for a friend. We were friends for a number of years and during that time I guess my feelings were always there. The thing was he had no clue how I felt. It’s not that I was ashamed in how I felt, my friend was a damn man hoe. The fact that we were friends I knew the games he played with unsuspecting chicks. The thing was as someone who was just my friend I got to know a different side of him, but I knew he was a man hoe so I never said anything. So a few years passed and I noticed that my feelings were getting stronger. Now by this time he has tamed his dog-ish ways and looking for something more meaningful. Basically we were both longing for the same things, but for some reason we never looked at it in each other. Well at least in my mind he never looked for it in me. Any way, after a few years I couldn’t take it anymore. The more I sat on my feelings the worse off I started to feel. I felt I needed to say something, but was afraid of the reaction. I wasn’t too afraid that he would be so uninterested that the friendship would end, I knew it wasn’t gonna go that way. I just thought the shit would be uncomfortable if we had the discussion and it wasn’t a mutual feeling. Basically I was running away from rejection, but deep down I had to know.

Just when I worked up the nerve to say something, I found out that he’s was seeing someone and by the way he spoke about her he was now in love. Ya’ll if you know how it feels to be ran over by a runaway train moving at 140 mph, that’s how I felt. Like I got knocked the f*ck over. I ain’t gonna lie, that shit HURT me to my very core. Even though I was dying inside I listened to him rant and rave about her. What a wonderful person she was, how he was so happy. I put on my fake smile and asked questions, although I’m in love I’m still the “friend.” I was watching the man I had feelings for be excited about someone other than me. I decided not to tell him at that moment. I guess it’s the fact that he seemed so different. I never heard him talk about no chick in that way. I felt defeated! All the times we did movie nights or just hung out I wished I said something to make what I felt known, but always threw those feelings in the back of my emotional closet. I didn’t want to deal with them, so I didn’t deal with it.

The more you hide your true feelings the more it will eat you up inside. It’s still killing me because I have yet to tell him. He has no clue to this day. Will I ever tell him…not sure. I decided to just let him be happy where he’s at. You never know what happens when you do express yourself. It can be the best thing you ever did or the worst. The whole thing is once you get it off your chest you feel a weight just lifted off of you. I will eventually say something one day. This whole situation reminds me of the movie “My Bestfriend’s Wedding.” Julia Roberts character finally told ol dude how she felt about him a day before he was set to get married. She kissed him and his fiance played by Cameron Diaz saw the whole thing and turned to run away. Cameron’s running, dude’s running after Cameron and Julia is running after him. Julia calls her friend played by Rupert Everett and told him what’s happening. He says and I quote “He’s chasing her, your chasing him. Who’s chasing you? Nobody! Got it?” That quote alone is enough to not make you even say shit right? lol

Holla at me: Have you ever been in love with someone and they never knew it?

Hi V.I.,

Thought about losing my f*ck buddy due to knowing he must have multiple f*ck buddies. He is fixated on not bringing up the subject of ending this situation,but I think it’s time to move on. How do I break it down to this slick bastard that the time has come to part ways without hurting his feelings? Really don’t want to give up the friend I have had since high school.  Really don’t… Love him and it is what it is. Don’t even see him in my future because he is definitely not the type to settle down. The sex is great, but beginning to see there is no point in having him around. MY. BRAIN IS TAKING OVER FAST. How do I tell him he is a damn hoe and needs to go?

Getting Rid of the Dick

Dear GROTD,

When it’s time it’s time. If brain is telling you to let that dick go, you need to follow your first thought. The thing I’m struggling with is, why does it bother you if he’s sleeping with other people? If you’re not being sexually responsible I can understand your concern, but if you are what’s the problem? If he’s just your f*ck buddy it shouldn’t matter if he has other buddies out there. Did you guys agree to only f*ck each other? That’s not being f*ck buddies, that’s being in a relationship without the drama. The whole reason that you’ve put the label of bed buddy is because ya’ll f*cking…that’s all. It seems that you’re feeling more in general, but the fact that your label is a f*ck buddy is starting to bother you.

I understand that you two are friends, but if you’re really not feeling it anymore you have to just say it. Tell him although he’s your homie you wanna take a break from the whole f*cking debacle. If he asks you why and he will just let him know where you are mentally you’re just not feeling the whole sex buddy situation. You don’t have to tell him “You f*cking other bitches so you gots ta go.” You wanna keep the friendship and that shit will start some mess. Just clean it up and say it in a way that he doesn’t feel like his dick is the enemy. At the end of the day you still want to keep that dick as a reserve in case you need a fix at 11:58 pm on a cold winters night in December. Just Sayin…

I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!

Last time on Candy Diaries I expressed how I was in love with my best-friend brother and I expressed that to Twon (the brother). One day I logged on Facebook and received this instant message from him:

T’Bo Be Fxckin Around

man no you not dat was a ACCIDENT pure horny shit quit playin wit me i have sumbdy and dat aint changing.

Yes you are reading the instant message right!! This was a surprise and blow to my emotions. Somebody I known for over 8+ years has totally disrespected me. I was looking at my computer screen in SHOCK! I was totally hurt and wondered how could he just come at me like this? Really???. He could of came at me in a respectable manner and addressed the situation way better than this, for some whom supposed to be my “Brother”. I didn’t reply back to him instant message because I was just grossed out that he even wrote that to me.

Forward two days later I call my bestfriend(gay male) and the first thing he said when he answered the phone, “You know Twon mad at you?”, I was like I don’t even wanna discuss this right now, so I quickly hung up. An hour later I texted my bestfriend and I was like Twon mad at me, he replied:
“How the f*ck u gone have feelings, it was just ah f*ck, now he don’t wanna have nothing to do with you.”

WOW! was my whole reaction! Like are they f*cking serious! Like for real! This muthaf*ckas don’t even know. The fact is I didn’t just catch feelings off a f*ck, if that was the case, I be loving on every n*gga that f*ck me, but them two believe the fact that we had sex made me start liking him, ummm no! I was really irritated and just wanted to drive to their house which is 15 minutes away and spazz the f*ck out on them! Like fo’ real. This whole situation has took a left field.

Right now I am lost and I don’t even wanna deal or associate with neither one of them. I am just speechless on how someone that is my “brother” wouldn’t even approach me to discuss the situation but rather make false statements. What Do I Do? Should I Try To Save Me And Twon Relationship? Do I Just Leave Twon And My BFF Alone For Good?

Crazy In Love

Dear CIN,

Um I am more concerned about this n*ggas grammar than anything else.  From what I got from the message he’s just telling you it was just sex and he’s got a chick so stop sweating him. Of course this is no surprise to me because like I told you in the initial blog “I’m In Love With My Brother” dude just wanted to get all up in your cookies and cream. I knew this wasn’t gonna end well. By how you described him he seemed like he’s about taking the immature route.

If he acted like that with you, there is nothing in hell to save. You wanted more, he wanted sex. He played you because he knew how you felt. He played on your feelings. The fact that your BFF came at you like that was all types of wrong. No telling what kind of bullshit his brother told him about you.  You need space from this whole situation. I say just chill for a minute.  Don’t try to contact your BFF for a while. Feel him out and if you think the friendship can be saved then discuss it. As far as his brother, girl he dissed you and marked you as thirsty. There is nothing you can possibly do with that relationship. If his brother doesn’t care enough for you to know your side then it is what it is.

Sometimes our feelings get in the way of our common sense. We think one way and we look for any signs that the other person has the same feelings. He showed you who he was, but you just didn’t want to see it. Some men regardless to who they are in ourlives will hit if they had the opportunity. He had that opportunity and he took it. I know it’s hard to even grasp because of the friendship before the sex, but sometimes things happen so you can see the truth about the situation. I’m sorry to say honey, but it’s time to move on.

I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!

Women hold on to their good girlfriends like a cheap man holds on to a $10.00 bill, for dear life. When a woman meets someone that she is interested in, she runs and tells her girls all about him. If your friends are like any of my girls, some will be so excited that you met someone new. Then there are the bitter bitches that get mad when they see that you’re happy. These are the women I call the reject chicks; anything you say pertaining to your new love is quickly rejected. So, should you keep certain aspects of your love life from all of your friends or just the bitter ones?

This situation can be a very awkward one to handle, especially if you’re in a close knit group. Women talk about each other. FACT! Even though she might be your bestie (best friend) she still chats about you with someone else. I have been in situations where I told a friend something that I ask her to keep to herself and someone else came back and asked me about it. I was visibly pissed the hell off, but I should have known never to give out certain information that had the potential of getting out. Let’s face it, if you tell one friend and the other friend finds out you’re looked as choosing favorites. Even though it’s your business to tell, your friends have this perception that you must let them know EVERYTHING. Um no!

I suggest confiding in one main person. You know the person that shares your joys, but gives you her honest opinion when you need it…a true bestie. I love all my girls, but some things I don’t throw out there for all of them. While you’re spilling your guts they are itching to pick up the phone to chat your business. And that is not the bizness!!!!

Holla at me: Do you spill the beans to all your friends, or do you pick and choose?

This has got to be the funniest shit I ever seen in my life. This is so true to life. We listen to the friends that can’t get a man and rely on their advice in our relationships. The next thing you know they do you dirty. I watched this so much last night I had a dream about it. It may be hard to understand for my American readers, but my Caribbean people will die wid de laugh. Enjoy!

I’m not sure how many of you have ever entered a pact with a friend. Like in 10 years if either of you haven’t gotten married you would marry each other. These are pretty common for the lonely, but does anyone actually go through with it? How about making a pact to have a baby with a friend before you’re a certain age? Is it wrong to pick out the man or woman you want to have a baby with? People do it everyday, but majority of the time there was a  relationship  first. What if there is no romantic relationship, just a plain ol planning on going half on  a baby. Is that considered being too controlling if you picked your very own baby daddy?

I’m in my 30′s and I don’t have kids. Although, I am looked at like an alien to most this is pretty common. There are a lot of women and men getting older and still haven’t started a family. Either they’re not ready, focused on their careers or haven’t found the person they would want to spend their lives with. Either way as the years pass by it becomes apparent each year that they’re not getting any younger. They start getting the “so when are you gonna have kids? What are you waiting for?” question from their families, friends and sometimes perfect strangers. This becomes a common question when you’ve reached 30 or older. WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?

About 3 years ago I found myself making a pact with a friend of mine. We made a pact where if neither of us were in a relationship or had kids we would have a baby together. At the time although we made this pact in the back of my mind I knew by then I would have had a baby or a husband. So to me it was a light hearted pact because I felt I had a lot of time.  Fast forward to 3 days ago while chatting with the same friend the topic came up. Right now we are both in our 30′s, both single and have no children so obviously the question came up as to do we still want to honor the pact.

This is a very difficult decision to make, because it’s so life changing. I remember an episode of Will and Grace where they decided to go half on a baby and Grace met a man and fell in love. Basically she wanted to cancel the deal because she wanted to be with this new guy. Really how is it gonna look being pregnant by your friend and walking down the aisle with another man? This is one of the things that can happen when you enter into something like this. You also have to look at…what if you or your friend meets someone in the middle of this thing. What happens from there? Do you cancel it with no hard feelings or would you feel like cheated? Also, what role will this person really play in the life of this child?  Is he/she someone who is capable of handling major responsibilities? There are so many questions you have to ask yourself and discuss with your future baby daddy/momma.

It may be an unconventional way to go, but I honestly think this is something that more people need to look into. So many people have kids with these no good ass men and women and think “if I knew better I should have kept my legs closed”.  I know women that have gotten pregnant to keep a man and realized after the child was born that he aint shit. I’ve known men that have gotten a chick pregnant only to find out she’s a psycho possessive bitch and wishing to the gods above he never laid eyes on her at the club. Picking your very own baby daddy doesn’t sound so crazy now does it? At a certain point in someone’s life you feel like it’s just that time. Although you may not have the man or woman in your life you might just be ready to start your own family. Women just don’t want to miss that window of conceiving. Although men can have kids until they’re dead, women don’t have that option. So if you have a pact with a friend no matter what it may be, do ya thing. As far as my friend and I we’re still discussing this, so if I do decide to get all knocked up with a sperm baby I swear you will be the first to know. Lol.

Holla at me: Do you think a baby or a marriage pact is wrong? If so why?

Hi V.I.,

I need you to help me figure this one out. So I’ve been single for a while and I haven’t allowed anyone in my circle. There is this guy that I’ve been friends with for a few years and he has always had an interest in me. I wasn’t feeling him like that, but recently he approached me about being sex buddies. I was a little reluctant because we were just friends and like I said I wasn’t feeling him on that level.

So about three weeks ago I gave in and decided to go with the flow. I was so surprised to find out homeboy was working with a WHOOPER. The sex was amazing…I never had sex that much sex over a three week period. So getting to the real reason I’m writing you. A few days ago he came over and we were about to do the do. I had a slight headache, but I wasn’t too alarmed by it. So he got between my legs and starting performing the glorious pleasure of oral sex. The shit was feeling so good until…I heard him scream. I opened my eyes and saw blood all over his mouth. I HAD MY PERIOD WHILE HE WAS EATING ME OUT.

He ran into the bathroom and stayed in there for 30 mins throwing up and brushing his teeth. I felt so bad and I was so shocked because I just had my period a week prior. I think it the fact that I changed my birth control recently and that caused some spotting. He finally came out of the bathroom with a look of horror on his face. I apologized and tried to lighten the mood, but I guess it was too soon. He really didn’t say much when he left my house. I’ve been calling him and texting him but he hasn’t responded. I’m just trying to find out what you think I should do?

Please Help,

My Kitty Failed Me

Dear MKFM,

*Clears throat* Can I do one thing before I get into my response? 1.2.3…BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!! LMAO!!! HA! OMG I have never ever ever in my life ever heard no shit like this. Wow. I think you’ve traumatized the poor lad. Wow this is so damn sad, yet so f*cking funny. Lmao!!!! Ok ok I’m sorry *giggles* I am a professional and I will act as such.

Ok, again I am so sorry that this happened. I can only imagine how you’re feeling right now. At the end of the day how were you to know that your coochie was gonna turn all red on you. Like you said you had your cycle a week prior, so it’s not your fault. Mother nature happens to be a cruel bitch at times, so don’t beat yourself up about this.

I think you need to give him time and let him reach out to you. You’ve already contacting him, so he knows how sorry you are about the situation. He just needs time to get over it because not only is it traumatizing, that shit is embarrassing. Imagine your gliding your lips on a ding dong and the next thing you know you got pee in your mouth. I am assuming that’s the equivalent in a situation like this. If he does come around and ya’ll start having sex again, I want you to be aware…this man might never perform oral on you ever again. How can you really blame him? He’s thinking he got you all wet and shit, but you’re the one that’s gotten him all wet. Give him time and don’t push yourself on him. If he doesn’t come around, it was good while it lasted. I don’t see this completely wrecking your friendship with him, but your sex life might be back to what it was 4 weeks ago…Null and Void. I just hope not though!!!

I’ve really hoped I’ve helped you in some way. I am not an expert, I just give my opinions as I see fit. The decision is ultimately yours to make, so I hope you make one that is in your best interest. Keep me posted!

Have you ever noticed when a couple gets married, they slowly drift away from their single friends? It’s like the single guy/girl is now the enemy. They hold some magical power that turns your spouse into a cheating idiot. I am assuming that is the logic of a married person.  Or is it if you still have a single friend that hangs around you’re afraid that they try to get next to your spouse? When the hell did being single make you the enemy? You can no longer see your homegirl on a regular basis because her husband thinks you might be a bad influence on her, when she was the damn hoe in the group. So why is there this stigma on us singles? Is it because we live a life that the married wish they still had? Is it the fact that they think we’re so thirsty that if given the opportunity that we would push up on their spouses? Or is it the fact that they feel so much pity for us because even though we basically get to do whatever we like, we’re alone and will probably die that way?

So yes I am single again, and I’ve always noticed when I’m single I’m no longer a part of the clique. You know the clique of couples. It’s like when you’re involved you do double dates and have things in common, so you have no problem hanging out. The second your ass is out of a relationship you can’t hang out with them and be comfortable. It’s like you’re now tainted with the “Single Bitch” syndrome. You’re now the enemy. It’s like now that you’re by yourself you no longer have anything to offer them. You’re now “alone and bitter” and if you hang with her the hubby automatically thinks you’re going to corrupt her head with bitter thoughts and make him the enemy.

Now that I think about it, there are some b*tches like that. Take Evelyn and Jennifer from the VH-1 show “Basketball Wives”. Now you all the know the scenario. Out of the 5 women on the show only one is married *Jennifer*. Jennifer’s bestfriend…the very lonely and bitter Evelyn seems to be a bad influence on her. I’m not saying that Jennifer’s marriage to Eric is the best; cause lawd knows that shit was a disaster waiting to happen, but Evelyn is so jealous that Jennifer “got a ring” that she wants her to be as miserable as she is and leave Eric. Now we all know Eric don’t give a shit about Jennifer, but Eric did confront Jen about her friends telling her to have an affair. This is where I can see where being friends with single people can get your ass in trouble, but at the end of the day it’s all on Jennifer. Anyone can suggest anything, but it’s up to you to act upon it. Yes Evelyn is a bitter h*e but, Jennifer is a grown ass woman and if she stepped outside of her marriage that would be on her not her friends.

Let’s move on shall we. It kills me when someone in a relationship hears that you’re single. They give you that pity look…but they’re really thinking “Awwww I’m so sorry to hear that no one wants you”. It’s like you have nothing to offer to the world so you might as well just kill yourself to get out of your misery. The last time I checked being single was not a disease. Sure you don’t have anyone to cuddle with at night, or you always cook small meals because you don’t have anyone to eat with you or you don’t….you know what never mind. I think I’m actually depressing you more than informing you.

All I’m saying is just because a person is single does not mean the world is coming to an end. Single people will not corrupt your boo into doing shit they don’t want to do. If a single person had so much power, then you should look at your boo and try to figure out why a grown ass person surcomes to peer pressure. Just because you’re “blessed” to have someone don’t look at someone else as being cursed. Half the time your so-called “boo” ain’t happy and your ass ain’t happy. You’re just sticking the shit out because you’ve been together this long, and you’re too use to the bullshit. Also, if you’re thinking that your single friend will try to push up on what’s yours then you got a problem. You’re suppose to trust in your spouse. If he/she hits it, then you need to deal with that between you two. Anyone can throw p*ssy in a man’s face. If he hits then he’s in the wrong. If he doesn’t then you know your friend ain’t shit.