On the other hand, if the sex is truly the pits it’s easier for people to let go. There is nothing really binding you to that person, so letting go may not be so hard. This is when some people feel the need to seek sexual pleasures outside of their relationships. I’ve done this and I’m not ashamed to admit it. I was in a relationship where he couldn’t perform sexually. There was nothing wrong with him physically; his dick just didn’t work with me. *shrug*. I chose not to sweat the small stuff *pun intended*. I wasn’t getting the satisfaction I needed so I went out and got it somewhere else. I know that seemed cold-hearted, but hey I wasn’t getting what I needed so I did who I wanted. I won’t talk about the hours of amazing sex or the way his d*ck filled me up. I don’t like to brag, but I will say that what I got made me realize what I needed so I terminated the sexless relationship. I know staying with him would make no sense, because there was no sex or love there. We were just… there. If we had no sex or love what did we really have?
Sometimes people confuse thier sexual feelings and desires for love. What most people don’t realize is that love and sex have rarely to do with each other. Love deals with the mental, spiritual and physical stimulation while sex deals with the physical. A lot of people think if the sex is amazing their in love. *Shaking head* It doesn’t work like that. You’re in love with the sex, there’s a huge difference. When you’re actually in love with the person making love to them will be the most terrific feeling. When you’re in love, the physical means so much more. It feels different, because you’re making love with every part of you. It changes you. It makes you realize that just having sex just doesn’t compare. I’ve learned that sex can be just sex, while love is something else. I’ve done the sex, now I’m waiting on love. It’s a whole lot better, plus I won’t have to kick dude out of my bed when it’s over.
